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DNA: Mona Kapoor Interview from 2007
Here is an interview of Mona Kapoor published in 2007 in DNA. A heartfelt interview from a very strong woman. May God bless her and her family ! 6th March 2007 Mona Kapoor Dreams bite dust I had an arranged marriage with Boney Kapoor. He was 10 years older to me. I was 19 when I married him. So I literally grew up with him. Ours was a 13-year-old marriage. So it came as a shock when I realised that my husband was in love with somebody else. A second relationship was something that one had only read or heard about. But when it happened to me, at that very point my marriage was over. Respect, for me, is foremost. Love follows that. As we evolve, sometimes needs change. Boney too needed somebody else; not me. There was nothing left in the relationship to give it a chance because Sridevi was already with a child. Their rishta was kayam. That itself was a big statement for me to opt out. Tiding torment It was also a tough time for my son Arjun and daughter Anshula, who were both in school. The world is a cruel place. When you are going through bad times, they speculate about you and discuss you in their living room. So, in school, my children had to face torment from their classmates. But they became strong and learnt to face facts. What held us together was the thread of pain. God spoke My family including my father, my mother and sister was the greatest support. They told me, 'Whether you cry, lick your wounds, turn into a recluse or go to the Himalayas, we are with you!' The humiliation was painful because I was pitted against a heroine. I was made to feel lesser. Industry wives gave me suggestions like, 'Why don't you lose weight?' or 'Why don't you join a spa?' All this made me realise that I had to get up, dust myself and start walking all over again. I told my parents that I wanted to make my own identity. Also the advice that my friend Meena Goculdas' mother gave me became the gospel truth for me. She said, 'If somebody has no place in your life, then you can have no place for them in yours.' This was my aakashwani. I understood that I had not failed – my relationship had! Future sisters I took to TV production with my sister. We produced shows including 'Yug', 'Vilayati Babu', 'Hera Pheri' and 'Kaise Kahoon'. The goodwill that we created was tremendous. Later, we took it as a challenge to make a movie set, which had upmarket amenities for artistes. Today our company Future Studios is spread over 12 sets on 12 floors in two buildings. Bitter? Never! My children live with me but are close to their father too. They travel with him, dine with him. I have no animosity or hatred for the man. It would be cruel if I kept the children away from him because I cannot substitute him. I don't know how to think like a man. I want him to be happy. After all, I gave up my place so that he could be happy. Love hamesha I don't miss a man in my life. I have had some very beautiful relationships. One even lasted for four years. But I'm not interested in marriage. Because one tends to carry along emotional baggage, which the man may not always understand. Life's been like one rollercoaster where you shriek, throw up and even laugh. Today, I've no pain. My jholi is full. As told to Farhana Farook ----------
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My prayers are with the two kids-Arjun and Anshula. Hope Arjun makes it big and takes care of his younger sister. Also, both kids must take care of Future Studios and take it to greater heights. Hope their maternal grand-ma lives long to see both kids really settled well. i dont feel sympathy for the Kapoors. They accepted boney's affair with Sridevi very easily.Plus, Sunitha Kapoor's relationship with Mona was always strained. Sunitha's sister Kavita would flirt with Boney when he was still married to Mona (before Sridevi). I feel even Sunitha should ve stayed away from the funeral. I rem Sunitha's smiling face during some cremony that Sridevi and boney had during their 'marriage'. It was published in pinkvilla only. Mona had said in her Savvy interview that she doesnt expect anything from Sunitha but wanted Anil to stand by her which he didnt.
I had read in paper that Boney Kapoor had huge financial loss during 94-95 with films like roop ki rani choro ka raja etc and hence he married Sridevi for her money so that he can not go bankrupt. Anyway that does not make sridevi innocent for getting pregnant with married man and having affair when he was still married. Regarding sridevi emotional state after parents death many women in this world are lonely without family without anyone even without food they all do not go and marry already married men. In tamil nadu its not rare to find many people married to 2-3 wives like karunanidhi has 3 wives MGR 2 etc. So south girls(not all girls majority are very decent depends on parents upbringing and values) come with mentality that 2-3 wives for one man is not crime or sin. Hence i think actress from south tend to marry married men and also have many affairs as its not wrong in their society. Second fact is majority of these actress the mother is dominant over father matriachal society, father's are just yes boss of mother. So this also affects their decision making ability about husband. Third issue is with bollywood and society at large who act as if it is not against law of man and God to marry an already married man. If society would have censured couples who break houses many would not be bold to break a house and marry a married man.
No point blaming Mona kapoor. She was a small 19 year old kid(in maturity at 19 years old being not that educated or seen outside world you will have mentality of a child only) when she married and thought for rest of her life her husband will take care of her needs like her father would have done before marriage. Hence since she was not that mature she must have provided shelter to Sridevi in her house and treated her like a sister.
And if it is true Sridevi tied rakhi to boney and then married him than that is a big crime not in law but in eyes of God. Rakhi symbol the sacred bond between a brother-sister and if you lust after your brother sister it is the most grave crime anyone can commit. And boney kapoor is a producer and from bollywood marrying an actress for money when already married will not be a big sin in his eyes. Money corrupts a person completely.
But in all this i appreciate Mona kapoor because at age of 33 not having gone to college and work all life she started her business, brought up her kids nicely. Hats off to her courage Ma'am and may your soul rest in peace. May be the stress of betrayal and the pressure to provide food and stability for her children was too much on innocent Mona that she had cancer and died so young at 49. And to Arjun and Anshula i would like to say be proud of your mom and become great humans that your mom would be proud of all life. And never forget to thank her once you become great and big because your mom has suffered a lot for your both sake. She did not even marry again although she was young to give you both a great life not to make you feel unwanted or insecure struck between step father and step mother. Rest in peace Monaji
sridevi is evil
I have no interest in . This is to the person who said the person bashing Sridevi is because of her. Stop simplifying it. I could care less about any of these actors. I care about ethics and values. That's it. Sridevi has shown to be low in character by getting impregnanated by a man who is already married with two children. Boney also sucks. Both of them. It takes two to frolick. Also, the fact that Mona lived with boneys father for 10 yrs after the divorce, you know whose side the family was on. People supporting two people who got in an affair - hope this happens to YOU since you have no respect for the sanctity of marriage. I hope it really happens to you since you have no values or standards.
Mona reconciled but it doesnt mean she didnt feel humilated and hurt. she put up a brave front. Those who are defending Sridevi, what about her Mithun affair?????? was she vulnerable that time too? Madhuri cant be compared to Sridevi, she didnt get pregnant without marrying Sanjay nor did she tie rakhi to him. Sanjay's wife was in US undergoing treatment for many years for cancer when this affair happened. Dont know how serious Madhuri was about him.
We will never hear Sridevi's version becoz she has wronged someone and she knows it. But she is a very SELFISH woman, as long as she got what she wanted it was cool and she kept silent. Sridevi has no moral values nor does Boney.
Boney at first wanted to have two homes like Dharmendra, but Sri wanted him to be with HER only. ALso Mona didnt want a two family step up. This is true and was said by Mona in a SAVVY interview in 1997. Mona found the arrangement 'humilitaing' and Sri wanted him to divorce his wife. Boney cried a lot at the divorce court office and didnt sign the papers. Much later when Boney wanted a divorce, Mona refused. This is TRUE. I dont think they were legally divorced.
So guys dont just say marriage didnt work out etc. Boney was caught in a bad emotional web. He was in love with Sri but not that he hated Mona. Mona let it go coz Sri was pregnant and she found it too humilating.
Please refer to Savvy 1997 issue with late Mona on the cover.
Sri did the same stunt with Mithun, forced him to divorce Yogita. Yogita threatened to commit suicide and the marriage was saved.
So according to some stupid comments here, arranged marriages are at fault and its okay for partners to screw around if theirs was an arranged marriage? Shame on you people! A marriage is a marriage, either stay faithful or get the hell out. Do not go around getting someone pregnant while married to another woman! Boney is a disgusting son of a gun!
What kills mona? is it cancer or sridevi?
PeOple should have common sense please I dont know y we are bringin sridevi's name here
Sridevi was not the first to have a relationship with a married man, alot had done that after her while more will still do same in future including possibly your children
SO ALL THESE CANNOT STOP THIS KIND OF THINGS FROM HAPPENING
SO GET A LIVE OR GO TO HELL
We havent heard what Boney and Sridevi has to say about it, we cant be judgemental about it.st
This is just one side of story, Lets hear what Boney and Sridevi has to say about it.
ENOUGH OF THIS SRIDEVI BASHING WITHOUT KNOWING TE TRUTH. u have to hear ALAL versions before being a JUDGE.
did u ever heard BONEY TALK OF MONA role in their failed relationship??
i am not blaming MONA but a wife has an equal role in afiled relationship ..why always blame the OTEHR WOMAN
even if sridevi did'nt exists it might have been some xxxxx to whom boney would go for because he wsa not happy with mona.
mona herself reconciled and she said SHE HAS 4 OR 5 RELATIONSHIPS NAD DID'NT MISS A MAN.if monaji could reconcile with what happened then why u guys could'nt reconcile.
see THIS ARTICLE POSTED IN NET AFTER MONA DIED AND GET A LIFE INSTEAD OF SREE BASHING
am not writing this blogspot as a journalist but as a friend and well wisher of Mona Kapoor, mother of Arjun and Anshula Kapoor to me and first wife of film producer, Boney Kapoor, to the world. Mona passed away on March 25, 2012, after having fought a very brave and dignified battle with cancer.
Earlier in the day, Anshula and Arjun sent out messages asking for o+ blood for Mona's surgery next day. That was not to be. With her death, I lost a maternal figure in my life, a lady who in last one year had grown to be my confidante on matters of heart- where my family and life in general was concerned. I also lost a dear friend who always had a good thing to say about everyone- even her detractors.
We got introduced to each other last year through Twitter and quickly became a part of each other's lives through social media and later through the wonder called BBM. Day in day out, Mona would react to my status updates, enquire if I was doing well. If she felt I was low, she would send hugs and prayers. At times, if I didn't respond to her BBM having read it, she would promptly call and wouldn't rest till she knew all was ok with me. Her logic was very simple. I was someone's son and living alone in Mumbai. I was almost her son's age and so she had all the reasons to keep a tab about me and my safety.
I remember once I fell terribly sick and Mona didn't rest till she sent soup at my place. Later she called to say that she would start sending me home cooked food as well. I had to convince her with great effort that I will get fine. She said, 'Be careful about your health. Your Mom is alone back home. How would she feel if she came to know you are sick.'
The last I saw Mona was at her birthday party that Shabana Azmi and Javed Akhtar hosted. Her close friends had turned up in full force to wish her. Some of us sang and danced for her. As everyone clicked photographs with Mona, I felt she was going to be just fine after all, there was no much love around her. While leaving, as I said, till your next birthday Mona ji, she just looked up and said, 'Inshallah Beta ji'. On seeing her mother's wry smile, she just looked at her and smiled.
Three days before her birthday, Mona surprised me by sending a birthday cake at my residence. She later called and said, 'I wanted to come and surprise you but my health is such. My prayers and love is always with you'. No one had ever done anything like that for me on any of my previous birthdays. Mona knew how to make you feel special and nurtured.
We bonded often over our late night BBM conversations. < One such time, we got talking about our family lives and struggles. As she narrated the sequence of events that led to her and Boney's separation, I realised, she felt no bitterness either towards him or Boney's current wife, actress Sridevi. She rounded off the conversation saying, 'Sri loved him and Boney and I had fallen out.One must stay with the loved one only. Else it is all useless>
.' I am not sure if this is how she felt when, she said, she went down fighting. But the fact that she reconciled, moved on and found her own happiness with work ( She was the CEO of Future Studios) and later her kids, was one of the biggest successes of Mona's life.
Recently, when Amitabh Bachchan kept tweeting from the hospital, Mona messaged saying, that she felt he should not tweet so much, 'Nazar Lagti Hai'. Amitabh developed complications post his surgery and Mona while talking on something entirely different said, ' 'Beta ji, see Amit ji is not well now.We must pray for him na?'.
A few weeks back, when I last spoke with Mona, she casually said, 'I don't want to have a long life. I just want to see Anshula's graduation and see the release of Arjun's debut film, Ishaqzaade. That's all. After that, if God wants me back quickly, I'll run towards him.' Mona didn't live to see either in the physical world, but I am sure, she will be watching and ensuring that her kids find their share of happiness around.
When Mona got admitted in the hospital following complications, I texted her to check if I could come and see her. She stopped me saying,' I will be back soon beta and when I am back, you, Bharathi (senior journalist Bharathi Pradhan and Mona's close friend) and I will do lunch.' Mona, the lunch is still on you. Till we meet again
SREE BASHERS PLEASE READ THE BELOW PARAGRAPH 100 TIMES AND GET A LIFE
< One such time, we got talking about our family lives and struggles. As she narrated the sequence of events that led to her and Boney's separation, I realised, she felt no bitterness either towards him or Boney's current wife, actress Sridevi. She rounded off the conversation saying, 'Sri loved him and Boney and I had fallen out.One must stay with the loved one only. Else it is all useless>
TEH ABOVE WORDS SHE SAID RECENTLY A YEAR BEFORE HER DEATH WHY U GUYS JUST CLING ON THE PAST INTERVIEWS SHE GAVE
Sad as it sounds, this is still one version of the affair. Every story has two sides and I cannot judge unless I know both. No one wants to intentionally hurt another person and we don't know what happens between three people in a relationship.
Those commenting about Sridevi's character her are obviously Madhuri fans who have conveniently forgotten how their diva had a rollicking affair with a much married Sanjay Dutt and then chickened out once Dutt got into trouble. Sridevi could have easily done the same but she had the courage to stand by the man she loved.
People here are going blindly by the interview. This is Mona's version. How do we know that what she's saying is even true? People here are believing what they WANT to believe. Nobody here should comment anything against anybody unless they know both sides of the whole story.
I can't believe someone actually said "dying won't make someone right and another wrong" wow, kinda sick. Even if your Sridevi's fan. You can't say her actions are right. Really? Can some people be so blind that they can't see having an affair w a married man is wrong. I think women are women's worst enemy. now if Boney left Sri in the lurches with two young children to contend with, I wonder what she would do. She would suffer. That's what she would do. Anyway, I feel sorry for Mona's children. God give them strength.
Tue, 2012-03-27 10:46 — Anonymous
first of all they had an arranged marriage....most of them don't work out when a girl is married off too young...same thing happened to them....sri n boney loved each other....everybody moved on....then why do u people have a problem... seriously this is 21st century,,,,
Oh yeah? So if this is the effing 21st century does it justify the pain this woman went through? The pain she had when she found out her husband had slept with an actress and got her preggers too? Seriously, some of you need to stfu! Would u react the same way had this happened to you?
sridevi is a home wrecker who got knocked up at the time mona and kapoor were married..
disgusting
I wish sri all the best....she is happy n doing well....let people say what they wont.....dying wont make someone right n other person wrong...no offence to Mona...may she RIP but sri is not at fault if her marriage fell apart...
TO THE ABOVE COMMENT ESPECIALLY THE PART, " DYING WONT MAKE SOMEONE RITH N THE OTHER WRONG..." WELL MONA SAID IT HERSELF SHE COULDNT SAVE HER MARRIAGE EVEN IF SHE WANTED TO B/C SRIDEVI WAS ALREADY PREGNANT!!!!!!
SO PLS TELL ME HOW DOES THAT MAKE MONA WRONG AND SRIDEVI RIGHT?????
AND N TOP OF THE HURT, PAIN ALL THEM HAD TO GO THROUGH THE EMBARRASMENT , ESPECIALLY HER KIDS!!!
SRIDEVI+BONEY= EVIL PEOPLE
god bless mona! RIP.
Sridevi is a scum and a home wrecker! Anybody who stands up in her defense.. must be a home wrecker as well. Sridevi is going to rot in hell ..along with her fat potato sack of a husband.
Mithun
Sridevi and Mithun had got married secretly
IS HE MUSLIM ????????
Sridevi and Boney have been peacefully married for like 15 years now and have been in love for years before that! Time to move on.
Arranged marriage is a flawed concept and just because family makes 2 incompatible people get married doesn't mean they have to suffer for the rest of their lives. Everyone deserves to find happiness.
Sridevi is completely at fault here. This is not the first time she was involved with a married man. Read this excerpt from Telegraph news paper. She even had a thing for Mithun. Loser much Sridevi ?? As you sow so you reap.
Sridevi had fallen in love with Mithun Chakraborty on the sets of Rakesh Roshan?s Jaag Utha Insan. But Mithun was already married to Yogeeta Bali and they had a son. Sridevi had also pleaded with Yogeeta to leave Mithun, but of course she didn?t let go. Sridevi and Mithun had got married secretly and later Mithun admitted to the press. But only when a fan magazine published their marriage certificate! Yogeeta Bali took an overdose of sedatives, after which Mithun went back to his wife.
I wish sri all the best....she is happy n doing well....let people say what they wont.....dying wont make someone right n other person wrong...no offence to Mona...may she RIP but sri is not at fault if her marriage fell apart....
Just because Mona died of cancer sridevi is bad - double standards, why not blame then the rest of community,,,,almost everyone is like sridevi starting with Ash ....
So true, Mona does look strikingly beautiful. I hate Sri, such a huge person, she is built like a man, acts like a man with the exception of lots of make up and lipstick on her face.
To the so-called "film journalist" - the reply to your second point is in Mona's interview itself. Perhaps you cannot read, so I have copied some relevant lines below.
"...came as a shock when I realised that my husband was in love with somebody else. A second relationship was something that one had only read or heard about. But when it happened to me, at that very point my marriage was over...There was nothing left in the relationship to give it a chance because Sridevi was already with a child...It was also a tough time for my son Arjun and daughter Anshula, who were both in school. The world is a cruel place. "
And please don't tell me you know more about Mona and Boney's marriage than Mona herself!!!
RIP Mona and prayers for her children.
in her own wordS mona said SHE DID;NT MISS A MAN IN HER LIFE. then why u guys r feeling sympathetic towards her and cursing sreedevi.
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ya, maybe not then but when she found out that Sridevi is pregnant by her husband she will of course feel sad !!! WTF DUDE ??? what if u where in her situation ??? IDIOT !
sriDEVIL and bomey can go to hell with their scary daughters !
It's hilarious when someone wrote some unknown person gave shelter to the most powerful superstar at her peak time, sridevi doesn't need support, she was the NO.1 SUPERSTAR IN HER PEAK, why wud she wanna need charity from someone else. I respect sri for what she has achieved as an actor not for her personal life which have no weight.
RIP MONA KAPOOR
ND WHTA SHAME EVRYONE IS BLAMING SRIDEVI
NOONE KNNOWS THE REAL STORYY SO PPL SHUD SHUT THR MOUTH AND DON T CRITICIZE
SOMEONE THY DUNT KNOWW
Boney left MOna for SRidevi?? She looks so normal and good looking and not wierd like sridevi.
Heyy film journalist in Mona's case sridevi has to be singled out. We are not talking about others but Mona and sridevi did hers with no dignity as she has always been like that she tried it with ,ithun but it didn't work.