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Help! Hindu Girl in love with Muslim BoyTue, 2011-05-17 23:46 — dumdumHey Guys, I need help real bad. I am Hindu girl from Mumbai in love with a Muslim guy. Its 2 way. Before we take the relationship further, i wanted to get advice on what problems I could face because of the inter religion thing. I am looking for honest feedback.People talking crap about Islam, please cut the crap and dont comment here. The guy and the family are both educated. Though his majority family is in Bhopal. He is very very nice guy, we both work and are in s/w. If anyone has experience in inter religion marriage do help. I want to be aware of things that can prop up before i talk marriage to him I am not ready to convert. He wont ask me to convert I am sure of that. I am sure that he will let me follow my religion too. But i want to know what other problems can arise 
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I really feel bad about the present situation the youngsters are facing these days...they fall in love with a person who is not their religion or caste .they get closer n closer and finally a day comes when they know that they have to leave each other just becoz he/she is not of his religion/caste...i really feel bad..i think dat society should be more realistic,more broad minded ..to accept these intercaste marriages n support them.. because you cant prevent your childrens from loving a person who z nt his/her caste or religion...love is pure and so eternal..it just happens n people fall in love..love does'nt see whether the person whom you love is of your religion or not !
be cool about it and i would suggest parents dat please dont beat you girl or boy if he/she says that they fell in love with other caste or religion..take the matter seriously ..meet that person whom he/she loves...think about everything..meet their family..just take a decision dat brings happiness to all...dats it :) coz we now have to cross and break these rigid barrier n be more broadminded n smart ! :)
In the current time no hindu father will let there daughter marry a muslim, muslims are traitors and very dirty. They are criminals and burn there own daughter, sister, wife. Its better you ask him to convert to Hinduism, muslims know that islam came from Hinduism so if he truly loves you ask him to convert to hinduism, he should be ok to convert. Else he is just using you. He will not get chance again to be hindu explain to him how beautiful Hindus are and there will be peace for rest of his life.
Hi,
After reading the whole thing, I would rather suggest you to accept Islam religion not only because it is good but because this will help you both in building a good relationship and a support background for your children too.
I belong to a punjabi family and in love with a muslim boy as you. I don't have courage to accept Islam because I feel this step will be very harmful for my parents and no religion allows you to harm others and move on.
So, I would suggest you to read about Islam and make a good and wise decision and accept Islam if you really want to get married to him and settle happily ever after otherwise you both will not be able to move further for a long time. He may accept you as you are, of whatever religion you may be but his family and the way of living is far different from us. Please understand everything about Islam very deeply before marriage.
All the best for your future. If you can please accept Islam because it is very good and very wise.
Hi! I am a hindu guy. I read the whole thing and can understand what you are going through. You both guys love each other and u said that he won't ask u to convert religion which is a great thing. Do your parents or his parents know about your relationship? If u think that they will accept the relationship then just tell them. Ask your guy to come and talk to your parents. If u think that telling about the relationship will make things worse then talk to your love. Can you guys leave your families to live together? Can this guy give u a good life if you guys run away? Can u do sacrifice for your love? Think about it. Don't make a quick decision. I would advise u to confess about it to your parents rather then running away. If your love is true n you can go against your family then i m sure your parents will accept. It will take time. May b u have to suffer alot between that but have faith in your love because if you guys are meant to b together then no one can stop u. All the best. Hope your parents will accept that guy :)
I have a same problem in my house, you people are nuts can you not find your own to marry and live a happy life then going through all that trouble just for few days need. no religion is bad, its the people who make it bad. you are thinking about you only at this time, why dont you think about your children what are they going to be Hindu or Muslim, you are so shellfish you can only see you at this time, trouble starts when your boyfriend will ask you to convert and who will decide what religion your children going to take.
To me I would not even dreem of getting married to Muslim and I would say this to Muslim boy too that he should not marry Hindu girl. problem sorted.
you need counciling my dear wake up and listion to your parents they have seen more diwalis then you have.
at the end if you want to commit suiside after marrage then go a head spoil every one day.
please dear think very hard
Dear Dumdum,
I read your question and my answer is that by marrying a muslim boy you will have to give lot of sacrifies.
even eating fruits like banana and cucumber.
Do nto beleive than read the following !!
CAIRO: An Islamic cleric residing in Europe said that women should not be close to bananas or cucumbers, in order to avoid any “sexual thoughts.”
The unnamed sheikh, who was featured in an article on el-Sawsana news, was quoted saying that if women wish to eat these food items, a third party, preferably a male related to them such as their a father or husband, should cut the items into small pieces and serve.
He said that these fruits and vegetables “resemble the male penis” and hence could arouse women or “make them think of sex.” Bikyamasr.com cannot independently verify the accuracy of the news item at time of writing.
He also added carrots and zucchini to the list of forbidden foods for women.
The sheikh was asked how to “control” women when they are out shopping for groceries and if holding these items at the market would be bad for them. The cleric answered saying this matter is between them and God.
Answering another question about what to do if women in the family like these foods, the sheikh advised the interviewer to take the food and cut it for them in a hidden place so they cannot see it.
The opinion has stirred a storm of irony and denouncement among Muslims online, with hundreds of comments mocking the cleric.
One reader said that these religious “leaders” give Islam “a bad name” and another commented said that he is a “retarded” person and he must quite his post immediately.
Others called him a seeker of fame, but no official responses from renowned Islamic scholars have been published on the statements.
Dear dumdum , if your lover is really muslim , then he will love you after your death even !!
Muslim society has started to implement this ---- for example
Egypt ........
Egyptian husbands may be legally allowed to have sex with their dead wives – for up to six hours after their death (sex performed after six hours will be considered adultery and the husband will be beheaded and buried with the wife)
This law is part of measures being introduced by the Islamist-dominated parliament under ‘religious interpretations’. The subject of a husband having sex with his dead wife arose in May 2011 when Moroccan cleric Zamzami Abdul Bari said marriage remains valid even after death (Al Arabiya News).
Dear dumdum , all the comments I see are from shia muslims.
They believe in Muttah ( shortest marriage of One Hour even)
But we sunni believe only in 4 marriages. so you can marriage this guy if he is sunni.
best of luck dumdum banu.
The only thing he can do to marry you is to convert to hinduism and then you both can live together. Why dont to you take him to temple and ask him to learn more about hinduism. I m sure he will like the truth god revealed to human kind. If he cant even convert to your religion. He does not loves you, its as simple as that.
first of all if u wanna marry him then marry under special marriage act 1954 which abides rules like 1:u both are legally married 2: and this guy who is married to u and who is muslim cannot marry any other girl for second time for third time or so whereas in his religion they can marry to as many girls as they can but this act will not allow him to do this. 3: after wedding under this act u are legally also protected.
other issues depend upon ur n his family people like if they want u to convert n all itz all upto u ... but as u said they are educated n they will accept u as u are then no problm...
once u r married under this act no one can do any thing untill or unless u both wont decide to do so.
others adjusting and all its all upto u both. and most imp thing if u both will marry according to muslim wedding {nikhah} then u have change ur religion , name, way of living, and also u hv to name ur children according muslim religion ... hope u understood evrything ... n all the best for woteva ur decison is.
Muslims ,or atleast some of there family member is always connected to underworld crime, especially in mumbai, i m an inspector at byculla station, you will not believe how many girls these muslim guys bring, all girls are run away, sometimes from mumbai sometime other states, all girls are converted to muslim, most of them are beautiful, they deliberately get good looking girls just to increase there beautiful girl numbers. That entire bombay side shivers with D's name. When some hindu family's have a kidnap case with us, most of time girls are run away with muslim boys and within few weeks she is pregnent. Now a days the local congress political parties have become powerful, they even stop police to patrol police using political pressure. All illegal activities happens in these muslim areas. I hope our system is cleaned and we kill these anti indians, criminals and girls dont get fall in these muslim romeos in fake love.
it will be much better if you get married to a nice indian guy.........m not racist but getting married in once own culture is wise thing to do.....there are millions of indian guys. jab ek pedh ke patti jhuraye jaye toh pedh bhi apan patti chodh de girre ke waaste . love is blind so my advise to both of you think of your children always called s part or khajra............for the sake of your children let them live a normal lifeoe els up to you you decide as i just gave my opinion and thats the best i can do tc....
if you are in love dont thik anything but love. i can say this because i married my love too.. 90% of indians have old concept of not accepting love marraiges doesn matter interreligion , intercaste or even same religion same caste.. they just live in 18th century..we r modern generation who represent today's india.. whatever situation we r going through today , tomrw our kids will be going through the same. so take a step against all this things n rise above all this facts..agar parents k barein mein itni hi chinta thi toh pyar kyu kiya.. u could have simply denied the guy wen he asked u out.. if muslim girls cant live their religion y do u have to leave.. its a personel choice.. n babe this is "HINDUSTAN"...SINCE THE DAY OUR COUNTRY WAS BORN WE HAVE LIVED TOGETHOR.. agar purane customs follow nahi karne hai toh purani soch kyu.. agar skirt mein gumna hai gunghat nahi dalna toh purani soch kyu piche nahi 6od sakte.. mam love has no boundaries.. agar yeh sare sawal dil mein aa rahe hai toh yeh pyar nahi hai just attraction. see the history great rulers like dalpat shah , prithviraj chauhan , akbar even shahjahan had to fight for their love... jab ye pyar k liye gaddi 6odne k liye taiyar the toh tum apni soch pi6e 6od nahi sakte...aap ko dar hai toh police thane hai , fir bhi dar hai toh govt organizations hai.. agar fir bhi hai toh country 6od do dusre desh mein jake shadi karo par karo... agar pyar mein agey badhe ho toh dont look back.. because love / pyaar sab ko nahi milta...
Jab koi Christian ya hindu prabhu yesu ka message failate hai ya fir koi muslim dusre religion me jaate hai to usko muslim kyu mar dalte hai? Aur kon si aag ki baat kar rahe ho hinduism me to ki aag ke baare me likha hai ? Yahi to problem hai tum logo me, jab koi muslim force se kisi ko ya dhoka deke, jhut bolke convert karata hai to sare sache muslim kyu nahi marte usko? Tab yeh kyu kehte ho ki allah saza dega, jab koi muslim convert hota hai dusre religon me tab to tum muslim he usko maar dalte ho, tab kyu nahi allah ko faisla karne dete?
Jaha tak shadi ka sawal hai hinduism me muslim ya koi bui religion se shadi karne ki azadi hai tab muslim ladkiyo ko kyu honor killing karte ho? Aur sabse bada gadhe to wo hai jo tumhare jaise gadhe ki baat me aate hai, quran me to bohot kuch likha hai, per tum muslim log actual, real life me kya karte ho wo to hum sab logo ne dekh liya hai. Apna sharif bannke natak band kardo bhai, yaha sare religon ka rehne ka haq hai, saudi ke diye paise pe sabko convert karna chodo. Warna osama ki tarah ek din sache veer apna temper kho baithenge ge to mat bolna christian, hindu muslim pe zulm karte hai. Pehle khud dekho kya karte ho duare religon ke logo ke saath.
jo log kehte hai k islam talwar se faila hai wo gadhe hai.....muslman kbi kisi other riligion waale ko force nahi krte k wo v musalman ban jaye...ek ne kaha k musalman dharm change krne pr zor daalte hai,,or aap sb ne maan liya..hm sirf unhe samjhate hai islaam k baare me batate hai, dharm change krne k liye zor nahi daalte..or isliye samjhate hai k wo hamare bhai hai or hm unhe aag me jalta dekhna gawara nahi kr sakte...khuda ne kaha hai k musalmano pr ye farz hai k wo apne aas paas rahne wale logo ko islaam k baare me bataye..gar wo samajh gaye to unki khushbhakti hai or gar nahi to un pr force nai daalo ...or jo musalman kisi doosre dharm wale ko islam kabool krne k liye zor deta hai ..to us k liye saza taiyyar hai q ki usne khuda ka kaha nahi maana isliye..or aaj k duniya me ye sb ladai dange kuch musalmaan kuch other riligion wale krte hai or bhugatna hm sbko padta hai.....or jaha tk baat hindu muslim me shaadi krne ki hai to wo bilkul saaf ...islaam me ye jaiz nahi ....gar aap ko shaadi krne hi hai to aap pehle islam k baare me jaankaari le lo...mai ek musalman hu or mujhe is pr fakhr hai...
mujhe khuda ka shkr ada krna chahiye k usne mujhe ek muslim ghar me paida kiya.....
...ye baat aap ko ek din samajh me aa jayegi ....k..jise aap bura keh rhe ho wo kitna accha hai....ok..
Dear
What r u talking about religion. If Islamic people can't change their religion then why Hindu girl marry to Muslims boy. Our Hindu are flexible in religion. But Muslims are not. When they marry to a Hindu girl before accepting Hindu girl they convert to her and then accept. But in our hindu we except without any customs or any boundation.
Second thing, If the Islamic people are peaceful then why they fight for Supremacy of Allaha. they play a blood full Holi. they has no moral.
In our Hindu we accept all without any boundation or conversion. We respect all religion.
Shahrukh, Aamir or others are not muslims as in islam marriage to kafir is not allowed. If still they did there marriage is haram and there children are harami.
Gauris parents accepted SRK afterwards. But muslims go to extent to kill there daughter see about Afshan, from Uk, omar abdullah's sister and many muslim girls who wants to marry hindu boys are afraid because of honor killings.
dear frnd.. wanna clear that muslims are not evils. even islam always help for lovers.. and give them upportunity to love. nd to be provide happiness. its all illitrate prson who think that muslims r evill. nd if u go with ur lover to meet his family thay accept u. n love u a lot.... be clear... n go for it.. frst they regret bt after some time they accept u. nd he will never said u for convert ... u really live a great life .. they love u.. frstly u got some problms to adjust bt .. as time goes on all tha things were go soft......
n muslim doesnt against for hinduism......
got ittttt
Tue, 2012-06-05 15:34 — Anonymous
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Why do Muslims create problem for muslim girls when they want to marry a non muslim guy?
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watch srk on farrah khan show with gauri mom gauri parents did not want thier daughter to marry srk because he was a muslim see hindus create problems too
ue, 2012-06-05 15:34 — Anonymous
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Why do Muslims create problem for muslim girls when they want to marry a non muslim guy?
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watch srk on farrah khan show with gauri mom gauri parents did not want thier daughter to marry srk because he was a muslim. see hindus create problems too
Pls don't marry.I know so many girls who married Muslims and now regretting it,when they see their children doin namaj.Muslim ideology is completely opposite to Hindus.don't go by the 'dear sister, responses.these are prejudiced Muslim people who secretly harbour to create one um ah which means Muslim population.their agenda to Islamize the world.please don't go for it.I have studied religion as a major and I know Islam is evil.they don't find logic in their own practice so they want everyone to be like them.think hard
I m a muslim girl in opposite condition, my bf is Hindu. And my parents are true Muslims, true muslims would never agree to marry a hindu, because hindus are a kafir. i know my parents would want him to convert, but i dont like him to convert, he didn't force me to convert. He wants me to remain muslim.
Dum dum you if you marry him, it would be very very difficult to adjust, the guy will ask you to convert one day. May be after marriage or before marriage, of course after marriage you will have no other choice, so think wisely.
For me its even difficult as i dont know what my father would do when i tell him about my bf. Probably i will just sit at home locked or may be runaway, its very difficult to make them understand, all because of these rules. I have heard so many girls run away when in my conditions, now i know its just peoples mentality that needs correction.
Why do Muslims create problem for muslim girls when they want to marry a non muslim guy?
Dear Sister, know buddy knows your future if you marry with Muslim or Hindu boy,
Both can be good or bad. For some period you will feel good when beginning days of marriage
After that some issue will, may be Yes or No this is general story in life
as a religion Islam no doubt about it , it is very respectable religion, now depends on how much knowledge about Correct Islam , if your BF family is Muslim and fallows rules Islam then I can give guarantee you will be happy with him.
As human being after marriage also some argument for any reasons that will not stop
Your BF families how they are going to react with you, if they are not narrow mind then no problem easy to adjust with them
I can tell you one thing for any Problem in Life, who runs from the problem they can't win anything in the life
Who fight with problems and resolve the issues these peoples are real hero in life.
Tilling to someone or suggesting something it is very easy I know that but how is going through this path he/she has to face problem not because of parent, because of society
Parents always think well about kids but somehow they only afraid about society how to face them
If parents love your wishes then strong enough to give answerer to society then they will accept your BF/GF
My all wishes with you
Wo parai nahi hai, wo hum aryan logo ki behen hai, humara farz hai usse sahi rasta banata aur musalmano ki asliyat dikhana. Ab to satya mev jayete me aamir bhi hindu ladke aur muslim ladki ki shadi ke liye fight kar raha hai. Aamir sacha musalman hai
tuje pyar karana he to dusre ki baton ko jan kar kya karegi??????????????????????
why all muslims are against hinduism ? and then you say islam is peaceful, if the boy loves a hindu girl, he has to convert to hinduism to marry her. hinduism is the best religion infact the most peaceful and scientific religion. we are proud to be Aryan. Muslim girls are mostly converting to Aryan to marry there hindu men, this is what you are afraid of. Hindu men do not force muslim girls to covert, we can live with muslim girls as long as she wishes, but muslims have double stands and try to kill there daughters who marry non muslim, hence they have to go OUT officially. because of all your double stands you are the most hated groups on earth. as far is islam is concered in this matter its againts islam for having girlfriend or boyfriend why dont the muslims now say about that rule, see their Hippocratic statement. We pity your and your voilent religion. You are moved Hindu pandits out of kashmir, you put acid on non muslim girls, you put do bomb blast and kill us. You should be hanged everyday.
hmmm........ me too with same situation
me too............. with same situation
Girlfriend and boyfriend approach is wrong in islam, boy should be punished, by death to dare trying to convert a hindu sister
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no matters about religion
if girl loves her so much then she can do anything for him
n if she converts to islam then it will be a great opportunity for girl to live happily with her love
if she dont wanna to convert to islam then just live alone ..
i just want to say that in islamic family no one allow a hindu girl to pray to hindu girl
if girl wanna to live happily then she should follow islam n feel the reality of islam..
if she cant change her religioues then i ca surely parents of guy will not allow her to merry boy.
no matters of changing religioues
but this is all about true love
if a person falls in true love then he/she ca do anything for love
It is prohibited in islam to marry a non-muslim girl untill and unless she embrace islam .
In islam its forbidden to have a girlfriend, or even marry a non Muslim, so the guy is not a good person, not trustworthy. Dont marry him no matter what islam, does not allows for muslims to have non muslims partners. In hinduism its allowed ask him to convert to hinduism then he wont break any rules then you can marry him
Sister dont marry him and dont let him to spoil Our Religion's ( Islam) name, and for a good suggestion plz respect your family espclly parents .
what with everyone ?!
why you said islam is rong ?!
if u love him then marry him
islam is a nice Religion , the way that u love the guy you will love islam to ;)
Surprised from people who talk about Islam brutally
The worst word I hear when someone say " this person is bad " i told him well then , you heard from him , you spoke with him, you saw him do something , and he answered me no but ever one said >>> Abortive community Depends on " he aid and she said " :(
i just want to tell you to follow you heart
about those people who said after you marry the guy he will ask you to be a Muslim
well yeh , always when you love some one you try to give him the best , the same things with those Muslim people .
good luck
i also want to marry a muslim boy he loves me a lot nd i know that he will love me forever and ever please help me
I agree with the previous comment..... they will surely ask u to change your religion...rest depends on you.... you mst not marry the guy..
Hi sister, my name is n i m gonna share my experience with u, i m frm hyd n was married to a muslim girl. It started 3 years ago whn we fall in love wid each other n we got married, after tht her family was against it but they accept me after sum tym... One day my wife suddenly asked me to get convert to Islam. I was stunned since i never asked her to convert. She said tht since marrying a NON MUSLIM is forbidden by ISLAM so it would be a prob for our child to live thn i said tht, no prob any how i m gonna raise him/her as a HINDU so thea wouldn't be a prob, she seemed quite disturbed n after few days she went back to her family n whn i asked to get her back they said until i'll nt get convert they will nt return my wife or my son. Right now its a court matter. They will convert u for sure but before get converted just thnk bout ur family once.
hi,i think u should go ahead,because if u are really love him so if u married with some other guys also if he is hindu also then also u will not love ur real husband and it will be harm for u and ur husband better is do married to whom u love,if ther is no love so do it as per ur parents ,but u already in love that means u r serious ,so my suggestion is go ahead and enjoy ur life by ur own ways.
Sorry correction plz marry a Hindu guy
Sister plzzz marry him
Namaste, i was also in your situation, just in reverse, my wife is muslim. We married a long time ago, my family was very accommodating she feels like home with me and my family. we did a "special marriage act" marriage, she did had some problem with her father.he used to beat her for loving me. Her entire family was against Love. Finally she had to run away and we married. Now after 2 years its fine from her family side.
this comment is for shweta
Sister if you are really serious than say to zubair's parents please accept me and slowly and gradually I will learn and understand and apply the way of Peace love and mercy i.e., ISLAM in my life.
everything will be okay.
and if u have learnt something about Islam be aware that Suicide is Forbidden in Islam.
don't marry with that guy and stop your relation with him it is a sin u r doing a act that is against your religion it is there main aim to marry hindu girl n then convert then and i m sure it conversion polcy
Hey
I dont knw if its too late to answer u, but i just wanted to write that im married to a muslim guy. It will be 4 years soon and i didnt convert, he didnt either. The only prob is im not in touch with his family cuz of me being hindu but my husband understands that. My family is with me. Im really happy though. We decided when we have kids we will teach both, after all God is only one. Also we go to temple together not mosque cuz temple we can be together nd mosque we cant.
As long as u two love each other nd have faith nd u knw u guys can support each other then get married nd forget everything.
He should convert to the true religion of hinduism, the most peaceful and true religion in the world. Who ever is born into this earth to parent of any religion is a hindu child. Later human created religion is thought to the child. We hindus know because hinduism is the true religion, all religion came after it
hey dumdum
plz plz plzzz go ahead n marry him coz ye sb relationship me aane se pehle sochna chiaye tha n now when u both are truely loves each other then forget any religion its ur life if u want to be happy so plz marry him i wish u all the very best coz meri bhi same story hai n i love him more than my life