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Help! Hindu Girl in love with Muslim BoyTue, 2011-05-17 23:46 — dumdumHey Guys, I need help real bad. I am Hindu girl from Mumbai in love with a Muslim guy. Its 2 way. Before we take the relationship further, i wanted to get advice on what problems I could face because of the inter religion thing. I am looking for honest feedback.People talking crap about Islam, please cut the crap and dont comment here. The guy and the family are both educated. Though his majority family is in Bhopal. He is very very nice guy, we both work and are in s/w. If anyone has experience in inter religion marriage do help. I want to be aware of things that can prop up before i talk marriage to him I am not ready to convert. He wont ask me to convert I am sure of that. I am sure that he will let me follow my religion too. But i want to know what other problems can arise 
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NAMASTE Indian girl ,
I hope and wish you still love each other*
If so , Congrats , it takes guts to love each other and be from deferent culture and religions. We all know that society build up rules that may develop challenges in a love relation like it.
In any case, you do not have to convert I believe.
In relation to the daily challenges of social acceptance much depend on where are you going to live. If it is Mumbai , it is best than in Bhopal ,...I guess.
I wish you all the best , may your love to thrive and have grand and grand children that shall follow your example : LOVE NEVER FAILS AND MOVES MOUNTAINS. :)
Work on accepting each other for what you truly are, and roll in for life s secrets by learning and acting love day by day. Do nt forget to respect each other s changes and admire and worship your differences as much as your similarities. View most parts with an adventurous mind in the inside of your marital life. Differences can be a significant material for admiration appreciation and fun if people are seriously willing to see them this way. Be generous and compassionate. Those are qualities that I am personally touched as I see them of important qualities in Indian Spirit itself.
Do nt lose your sense of humor , and remember when people are able to sense and feel beyond their religions then people can seee that :WE ARE ALL CHILDREN OF THE SAME GOD. Concluded of the theory "Parallel Universes"
God Bless you - peace and love ***********************
Hi ,
dnt get marry with him.. plz save your life and your parents and your future child.
hey do n't listen to any of this bollywood crap people say...try to know ur religion (hinduism) what it says about inter religion marriages. It ain n't allowed, its any ploy to brain wash young hindu generation..
Hi,,mera naam shweta hai aur mai ek hindu punjabi parivar me paida hui hu mai kuchh salo se ek muslim ladke se pyar karti hu lekin mere gharwale muslims se bahut nafrat karte hai mere boyfrnd ka naam zubair hai maine uske sath ek masjid me nikah bhi pad liya hai lekin humne abhi apne gharwalo ko nahi bataya hai samajh me nahi aa raha hai k mai kya karu mere papa aur mammi musalmano se bahut jalte hai aur mujhe bahut dar lag raha hai ab mujhe kya karna chahye zubair k kehne par maine namaj padna shuru kardi hai kabhi kabhi chori chupe zubair k gharwale mujhe accept karne ko taiyar hai lekin wo keh rahe hai k pehle islam ko achhi tarah se samjho phir tum humare ghar me aa sakti ho par mai apne gharwalo kya bolu kuchh samjh nahi aa raha hai plz ap log kuchh madad kijeye warna mere pas atmhatya karne k alava koi rasta nahi rahega....
Excuse me but DUM DUM aap ne nafrat ko phehlane k liye logon ko ek khullah platform de diya hai...plz remove your question plzzzz....idhar to muslims k khilaf war ho rahi hai
this is not only one case, you people doing this in whole world. So advice your brothers first not to interfere in other religions.
i think that once parents are everything for them. its better if u go with your parents coz u can get 100 new bf eveyday but can not find new parents. hindi girl like u frm mumbai are just like a free bird. its very difficult for them to bear islamic rectrictions. its better if u leave him if your parents not agree., but my advice is not to marry that boy , coz they are totally diff frm us having so much restrictions espcially for girls.. YOU MAY KNOW IT BETTER AFTER READING QURAN . THAT WHAT IS THE ROLE OF A GIRL. THE COMPROMISES LL BE FROM YOUR SIDE . I LL PRAY 4 U.. <3
say guy he convert into hindusim,if u convert he can leave only say three times taluqe (divorce), in hinusim he can not leave u.
try to find hindu guy donot leave ur faith.
listen firstly you have to know what islam mean to you but i gonna make that so easy for you islam is the nature of people is the right thing to all people in this world you have to search and defend the right to be muslim because you have came in this world like a muslim but our traditions and our darkness ignorance and especially unawareness make you a hindu areligion gonna never exist you realy need to know you reality like a humain because ALLAH the great creator give you a beautiful life and you have lost it because you have lost your reality like a muslim person it's not you to have asking this stupid question butthe gay who you have fall in love with him he has to ask this question
FYI...Dum dum has already taken her decision, dont disturb her more. For those who say marry muslim boy, you are wrong, its against Islam to marry non Muslim. For those Muslim girls who want to marry hindu boys, it is possible with simple hindu ceremony, because in Hinduism its possible to marry a non-hindu.
No one converts! Or leave there religion. Everyone happy.
This is with assumption that Man is a higher being than women, he is protect his wife.
I have a similar case.we got married under special marraige act and none of us have to change our religion.we love each other n respect each others religious believes. But yes there r 100% chances that his parents will not accept u as marrying a non muslim gal in islam is haram.u guys have to be ready to face this together.fight for ur love not for religion.all the best!
hey dum dum..my case is same like urs..dnt go by what d society says or belives just follow ur own convictionc & if u want to be happy wid d guy take mutual decisions posts n comments will not help u, but the discussion with ur family and him will..And for those who voice for polygamy in Islam i would like to mention if a person is in full fledged happy relation &taking so much pain n pressure to get married interfaithwould really perform another marriage???? think about it frnds..dnt jus add on prblms with ur ill information nd orthodox views..PLZ gROW UP!!
Aise kaam he kyu karte ho jisse war ho? Muslims bolke sabko bhdka rahe ho muzamil, remember not muslims are bad only few muslim get bad name to entire community, same for hindus too. Agar kisi muslim ya hindu ne kuch galat nahi kia hai to darne ki koi zarurat nahi hai bhagwan unko bachayenge. Logo ne to sirf yeahi bataya hai jo kuch muslim karte hai hindu ke khilaf, aur hum to sirf apne hindus me discuss kar rahe hai. Dum dum hamari sister hai so humara farz hai ki usse sach bataye. Jis tarah muslims apne forum me muslims ladkio ko advice dete hai waha pe kitni cheez liki hoti hai hinduo ke khilaf waha kabhi tumne bola hai same?
Excuse me but DUM DUM aap ne nafrat ko phehlane k liye logon ko ek khullah platform de diya hai...plz remove your question plzzzz....idhar to muslims k khilaf war ho rahi hai
sirf itna hi kah sakta hoon ki log galtiyon se kuch bhi nahi sikhatey iss kaliyug mein guru parampara ka satyanash ho g.aya hai maan baap ki koi haisiyat nahin hai aaj key bacchon ko jo karna hai so karna hai jaise karam karoge waisa hi phal pa o ge. ab toh bus itna kah sakta hoon ya toh tum islam mein convert ho ja o ya phir kisi hindu sey shaadi kar lo. jyada bacchey paida karna hai aur burka pahney ka shouk rakha ti ho aur paanch time ki namaz pad sakti ho aur ghar ki chaar diwari mein kaid ho kar rah sakti ho iss prakar key sahsik karya kar sakti ho to pls.go ahead aur anth mein bhagwan aapko sadbuddhi dey.
My name is Raj my girlfriend is a shaikh muslim, Aisha. For our marriage she is converting to Hinduism. Her mom and dad agreed too.
Hi, I Ck and my girlfriends name is Anindita. She is hindu and I am a muslim boy. And before marrying me she will change her religion.
uff aaj sach main mujhe apne hindu hone pe sharm aa rahi hai kisi jamane me muslims robbers se bachne ke liye
hidu girls johar wart karti thi aaj muslims ke saath bhaag ke shaadi
i wish i were a jews and born in israil and now i an serious to convert my religion from hinu to jews.
Hi Safina shaikh here, i also went through the same problem for my hindu boy-friend. I became very close to his mother she taught me everything about shiv being the only god, who created Mohammed, Dr zakir naik also has told the same, with that i totally agree there is just one true god , god shiv. For your marriage i would definitely ask you to go thru shiv documentary video, many westerners follow hinduism as they know the truth, you can ask you guy to learn more about lord shiv and lord Ram. As an aryan its not possible for him to marry you, he can get purified in any Arya samaj temple. And then he can marry you :) good for him i wish you both good luck. trust me i also did the same and now i m vry happy with my husband :) peace..
Hi dear, this is bharthi. My case is same as yours ,but i believe in Islam and Prophet mohammed ( saw). For a muslim guy to get married to a non muslim without converting is a big sin. You need to sign a nikha which is mandatory to stand by husband wife relationship. Future , if you want to stay happy with his family its possible only if you convert . i wish you good luck think about it . Islam there is a lot of misunderstandings, but every thing mentioned in holy Quraan has its proof and PLEASE WATCH AHMED DEEDAT AND zAKIR HUSSAIN'S YOUTUBE VIDEOS.I am sure it will be of help to you. I do research on all this very often. God is one and god has created angels and devils before our existence. He has also sent messengers whom we call prophets, they were given special powers but they are not gods. Their is just one God!
God bless you both, take a right decision. I pray for you to stay happy in life if you areloyal lovingand truthful to each other.
Regards
Bharthi Annam
the best answer who can give and guide u is Dr. Zakir Naik of Peace TV. what i know about islam is its a religion of peace and prosperity,and muslims are the followers of peace and patience unlike what the media potrays about them don't get lured by the media at all.my good advice is first try to know him and his family.try to learn what actually islam is and who r muslims so that u can know much better about him and his family prospects.as far there is a true person and that he loves u truly then there is no boundaries of cast and religion. people today want peace and love and not religion and cast.so if he loves u every problems between u and he can be solved
good luck!
Marry. No Problem. But change the religion of yours as well as your partners to protect yourself from retrograde practice of Muslims practicing polygamy.
Please marry under the Special Marriage Act to protect yourself from exploitation.
A Muslim can practice polygamy legally. So, women does not have any protection at all from the law courts. If you love each other then you can marry, but, first convert to any neutral religion like Buddhism, Christianity and then marry under the Special Marriage Act.
Caveat. You may love anyone. But take necessary precautions from the Muslims as they practice Love Jihad.
i got 4 words for you..
Don't Marry A Muslim!!!
Why? ive heard alot of stories about people marrying someone whose muslim and they would try to romance you, make you think your the world, would shower you with gifts and tell you his religion is about peace and men and women are equal.
Trust me, its not and if you marry him, your going to be his property.
since you manage to use the internet and ask this question to random strangers. Try using the internet and find out how others felt when going out and marrying a muslim. You'll find your anwser there.
pradeepkumar
i m ready for converting my religion from muslim to hindu coz i dont belive in god but i faith in shiva coz shiva is very true and i dont thnk so that any true love compared on religion.
Hey dum dum, you are so god fearing and lovely. You are firm, you are strong.finally you made the decision, its obviously right, nothing is more important than keeping your moms dad's happiness. They have seen life what people are and i thanks your sister to give you true picture and for opening your eyes. Now dum dum relax and take youe time to settle your mind and wait for mr perfect, he is there around waiting to meet you. we all will pray for you, prayers have power. Jai sri krishna
Better u guys forget the infatuation which iz between u both.
hahahaaaaaaaa
Dum dum, cant he convert to be with you ? You get both, if he converts to hindu ,did you ask him?
Good for everyone
Wow so much hate in these comments. How do you guys get by in your days lives with so much hate..?..
Dumdum you must still be hurting and thinking whether you made the right decision or not. I don't know whether you have either to be honest, but I'm happy that you sound strong and you have your priorities straight.
When us girls have boyfriends, they automatically become our no. 1 priority. I sometimes wish I could think with my head and be practical, instead of my heart and hoping for the best.
Good luck to you:)
Darling sister,
Plz never come back here, start a new life, you took the best decision, parents are everything. Forget it ever happened and i will pray for you. Had it not been us you would have not taken correct decision and yes i acknowledge that was a hard decision.
Your brother as always.
Hello all. DumDum here. I noticed I got 200 replies. Thank you all for taking the time to respond to me.
Its almost a year since me and my muslim boyfriend broke up. I talked to a lot of people, read those all comments here. After going through all this, I felt it was just not worth the hazzle for me to get married to a muslim guy. The guys and his family are extremely nice. I had a talk with my boyfriend and he convinced me that he will let me follow my religion. I then spoke to my sister(who is married) and she felt I will not be able to fit in with their society and above all my old parents will be terribly upset. I come from a conservative Hindu family(Gujarati to be precise).
I decided to go away from it just for a simple reason that I did not have the stength to hurt my parents who ahve given everything to me. We broke up and within a month he came back begging to meet. It was so so difficult. It probably was the hardest time in my life. Since it is very tempting to go back to the person u love. But my love for my parents kept me away from him. A couple of months after that my parents found me a guy in my community. It was through a set up. I met the guy, but did not like him at all as i never ever forgot izzi. My parents did not force me into it. So that went off.
Now i am taking my time. I feel I am not ready for another relationship yet. Since its not even a year complete.
But I wanted to thank everyone here who took the time. My heartfelt good wishes for u all. My only advice for anyone falling in love is please use your head in the beggining and decide if u want to go further. if u feel it its not practical for u, stay away fron infatutations.
no problem you feel bter
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Wed, 2012-04-18 06:58 — Anonymous
I'm with you
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THanks for your support It's good to know there is nice & good people who comment here =)
To All The People Below Talking Crap Underneath
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I am neither against or for any religion. I see the beauty in all people and judge them for the human being they are and not their religion. If I must remind you guys, Dr. Abdul Kalam is India's father of Nuclear. He himself is a Muslim. A.R. Rahman who is a music maestro and is respect worldwide is a Muslim. If I may also remind you that Gandhi who is a Hindu fought for all Indians' independence and not just Hindu. So step out of your shell and judge people according to the person they are, not their religion. Human mind will bewilder all of you in regards to how it work.
Dumdum-
As for you, it's really how you guys choose to deal with this and noone in this world can decide that for you. I come from a family of interfaith marriages and this includes different denominations of Christianity, Islam, and Hinduism. If your family, mainly your parents are not okay with this prospect, then for sure you guys will face major hurdles. If they are likely to understand at the end, then you may pursue. It's all about perseverance and how you two handle the situation. This situation can be problematic even in a Muslim-Muslim, Hindu-Hindu marriage. It's essentially how you guys handle the whole conflict.
When it comes to compromise and living together, it doesn't only happen in inter-faith or inter-cultural religions. My fiance and I are currently living together and we have very similar spiritual/religious ideologies. We do not have any restrictions such as can't eat beef or can't drink, however, my fiance hates cilantro in food and I absolutely love cilantro in all my dishes. Often times, we have to make 2 different meals which is fine. We are happy enough enjoying our meals together. What I am trying to say is, food habits, social life habits differ from person to person and not from religion to religion. It's how you perceive things. Of course in your situations, you both have to respect each other's beliefs whether you yourself adhere to them or not. Tolerance and respect must be preached in any relationship.
I hope this clarifies some of your concerns.
-N
Beechare log....
Tue, 2012-04-17 14:00 — Anonymous
I'm with you
I will boycott your site because you publish only hindu's comments.
"wow all these comments are just people hating on muslims SMH.
the girl is probably married to him already . but if she was to read these comments I hope she doesn't read them some people just make an excuse just to write!$@%^$&^$ about other's religion" - its not us who have problem with islam, its your religion which has a problem, by the way y are you feeling insecure, dont worry she has not married any muslim guy( indirectly it means she convert, dats what u meant,isnt it, we know :)).
" My mom was a hindu & it was her choice to convert & she loves ISLAM. My dad didn't force her he only just truly loves her. LOVE is what brought them together don't matter what religion you are. accept any religion as long as you feel you truly believe in it find out more about ISLAM. which teaches you to respect all religions." - you mom was a a hindu? WTF? Do you think with your fake story motivate other hindus?, thats what we are here to show, you are just another troll with a fake story. By the way as per islam, marriage between n muslim and non muslim is haraam, aree you son of them then i m afraid you are...haram. in case of muslim it DOES mater what religon you follow- you idiot, read your own books, can you!. islam teaches many things are you following all of them, give me a break you fake you troll. You first say what religion other person follows doesn't matter and you also say you mom converted, - copied these from somewhere? Ask you dad you chose Hinduism and see what your muslm brothers do...
" in these comments just look how much people talk negative they say they know from experiences but i'm also some one with experiance. if this 9/ 11 didn't happen & Indians didn't hate most Muslims even though they always mention how most of India is muslim .. just look at their comments about them ? is that fair to go on the basis of this or to try to find out about it youself. let him research about hinduism & you learn about Islam.. you might like it I'm a MUSLIM I love my reigion which teaches me to always be proud of who I am .. & not to wear hatred on my heart but just being thankful for everyone I have in my life" - we dont talk negative we say what your people does, you think its just us, pick up any news paper, you will see what your brothers are doing.unfortunately your brothers only do negative stuff so comments looks negative, you talk about 9/11, that was US, what abut mumbai attack? Same your religon people, isnt it, how you manage to hate us that much? Any wrong news your peole are there. keep it up. And what you mean by indians vs muslims, cant you identify what is citizenship and religon ? its just your people's problem, double standards . Do you know for one percent what is ved, meditation, Hinduism? Why the hell du ask others to research on ur religion! You try seeking the truth about Hinduism, that is the only thru religon. Read history and then come here. You are a Muslim, we are proud of our religion , with same proudness tell us any constructive work your guys have done for the country, apart from populations,crime etc where you hold phd:), you also say she will like islam? You can say whatever you want, heard of saying- over optimistic? fact remains your people want everyone to convert to islam and verbally all religon is same, Islam gives respect to all religion, islam is best, you are proud, go read ur books, go thru all the amendments via fatwa then research, come bak here and read your comments. We dont hate you personally, but what u do makes us hate you, stop doing it and expect respect and love from the world. Ever wonder why only your guys are in the news for all wrong reasons. around. The world
Bye bye for now.
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So many responses to this post of dumdum. Iw onder if dumdum is even looking at these comments anymore. For all you know she must have already married the dude by now :-D.
Dumdum are u looking at these comments??
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Yes dude she married the hindu guy, the guy converted from islam to Hinduism after realizing hinduism is actually true religion. peace
wow all these comments are just people hating on muslims SMH.
the girl is probably married to him already . but if she was to read these comments I hope she doesn't read them some people just make an excuse just to write!$@%^$&^$ about other's religion
My mom was a hindu & it was her choice to convert & she loves ISLAM. My dad didn't force her he only just truly loves her. LOVE is what brought them together don't matter what religion you are. accept any religion as long as you feel you truly believe in it find out more about ISLAM. which teaches you to respect all religions.
in these comments just look how much people talk negative they say they know from experiences but i'm also some one with experiance. if this 9/ 11 didn't happen & Indians didn't hate most Muslims even though they always mention how most of India is muslim .. just look at their comments about them ? is that fair to go on the basis of this or to try to find out about it youself. let him research about hinduism & you learn about Islam.. you might like it I'm a MUSLIM I love my reigion which teaches me to always be proud of who I am .. & not to wear hatred on my heart but just being thankful for everyone I have in my life =)
He will eventually ask you to convert or his family will force you to convert.
If you have children, he will force you to raise them as Muslims.
Look around everywhere and you will see the proof.
For more public examples, look at the Khans from Bollywood. All married Hindu girls and their kids are all Muslim.
So many responses to this post of dumdum. Iw onder if dumdum is even looking at these comments anymore. For all you know she must have already married the dude by now :-D.
Dumdum are u looking at these comments??
pls don't marry muslims.Ur life will ruin. they'll harass u.they demand dahej.I am experienced.
Muslims are dirty criminal and uneducated ( govt gives education facility bust most of them do not g
Hav brains), talk only their religion, always try to get non muslim girlfriend ( eventhought this is against islam their parents and their mulana do not hav much problem, but vice verca they have big problem). I cant imahine you live in mumbai and dont know about it, what is wrong with you. You need to come out of the bubble you live in. I guess you just are innocent girl mild parents like most of hindu girls who know little about hinduism and more about islam ( only few good famous things) try pooja daily and stay away from him you will get a better husband, i pray for you, i m no hindu but i cant see another innocent ruining her life. And just for everyone else our christian girls are too victim of these tactics, but councelling has helped. So will it work for you my sister. Peace
Why dont you ask you man to read Geeta and ramayana once and let him decide which religion is best, all the religion including islam has its root in hinduism, Dr Zakir Naik, their modern day Islamic inspiration confirm this too. He will accept Hinduism for sure just ask him, these days its common for muslim guys to convert to Hinduism.
Best advice for my hindu sister from her hindu brother. Om.
I'm a muslim gal n i love a Hindu guy...mah family knws abt him n his mther olso...we luv each other vry much n we r ready to do coat marriage in this may...bt silently bcoz we dunn knw abt d future will our parents will agree or not...so we decided aftr 2 or 3yrs we'll tell to evry1...as i luv him so deep m cnvrtng mahslf in hindu..i'm excepting Hinduism bfre d marriage n i love it...if he wanna marry you den plz chnge his religion so dat the society can gve ew a respect n him olso:) i love Shiv n i love mah man
uys by keeping ur name annonymous and blaming islam.. is it really gud? why marginalize them.h same . if u dnt like muslims no problem...if u thnk muslims are brain dead ok..no problem..but dnt criticize like this...wat u say abt islam can be said abt other religion too...
if u want to be treated with respect then treat others with the same respect ------ This is what whole world is expecting from you my brother/sister.
( if you want example : your sunni sect do not tolerate shia sect even though they are muslims and target killing them )
If you want to find out if this is true love, its simple, ask him to accept your religion and you exactly the way you are. If someone truly loves you they NEVER change anything about you.
1. Tell him when you get married you want a hindu ceremony because it is sacred to you and your family. if he wants an islamic ceremony as well then do both. BUT make sure it is both no just you compromising and having an islamic ceremony.
2. Tell him you will have a mandir in the house.
3. no beef in the house or anything against hinduism.
4. You will celebrate all hindu holidays, and fast and pray the way hindus do.
5. when you have children they will learn about both religions. and celebrate hindu holidays.
if he can accept you for who you REALLY are then he is genuine. If you are going to be foolish and let him change who you are and if he makes excuses to any of these then IT IS DEFINITELY NOT TRUE LOVE. You should love the religion you were born into, hinduism is beautiful and the oldest religion in the world. Never let another person change you , because that is what he is, JUST another person.