Help! Hindu Girl in love with Muslim Boy

Before I say anything else I will just tell you that I am married with a muslim guy! I was Christian Orthodox!

My man was not the problem but his family was...at first... theory is way different than the act!! He is highly educated and his parents too as they held high positions in his country. The Koran says that a muslim man can marry with a muslim woman or one among those who received the book! Aka Jews and Christians! However that can happen only if the woman is practising her religion and is not one of those by name!

You will not convert if your not ready or if you have doubts about it! As it s going to make things harder in ur marital life!

I will ask one simple thing... is he practising his religion and is he God-feared man? If the answer in this is YES then I m afraid that sooner or later he ll ask you to convert for ur marriage's sake! If no, I don t think there much u have to worry about..

However living with a muslim is not an easy job, I ll talk about the general things that do not include your religion and that s once again if he is practising!

1. Your dressing way
2. Obedience to him
3. The food that comes into the house! He ll most likely have problems with pork while u ll have probs with beef..
4. If you want a pet dog.. hmm.. forget it except if he in this minority that doesn t have problem with that!
5. Some times his family comes in between and they r trying to teach you the ''right way'' with the wrong way!

Then I ll take it to the children raising!
That s a taugh job to do! it suppose the children to be taught the islamic way of life! aka.. be muslims..
it s not a role that the father can do himself. Some people they are cool and so they decide to teach both religions for example the islam from the father and the mother s religion and so once the children are old enough to choose what they want!

Apart of that I don t think there is something more you should worry about! If he loves you and you love him it will naturally work out!

Just one last advice.. anyone here can give you their personal opinions and experiences. Noone else than him can tell you what will really happen! Talk to himm, ask him, make a dialogue and you ll find out how ur life will really be if you take it a step further!

Best of luck

Take your own decisions ....but why not about Islam first? That will make things very easy what you want to be where you want to be.

Here there is hardly any discussion because every one is anonymous...

I am so sick of this nation and this Hindu culture....

God save this nation and Hindu civilization .... these women are ........they know nothing about Islam....I often think it is because of Bollywood but at some level there can not be any excuse...

These girls got all the freedom and now they strive to make it harder for their future generations....they rot in hell.

excuse me ... I am in a state of same level where u are .. even i love a guy who is muslim .. I thought he will allow me to be in my religion .. BUt the problem is he dont want to to hurt his parents and bring hindu girl home as even i dont want to convert .. Mind it .. I bet your guys parents will never agree that you dont convcert .. Its better you directly ask your guy and talk about it and tell him that u dont want to conbvert will he still marry you .. I bet he will tell you u have to convert for his family .. other wise the other option if he really loves u more than his parents he will leave the house for u .. In my case He loves his parents and he dont want to leave them and there house for me .. And i shall never convert .. with this we came to a desion that we will lead to a openrealtionship .. if tommorow parents dont agree we lead diffrents roads .. I hope you dont have to do that .. and plzzzzzzzzzzzz talk to him dont just assume that he will agree musl;im peoples mentality is way beyong our thoughts .. after all my conversion with my guy .. I have even thought to break up and get a guy of my religion .. trust me .. u cant adjust in that environment. U wont understand that now .. but slowly u wioll.. earlier even i thought the mfamily is educated and i can manage but now when i met his family they are not what i thought ... so stop assuming and get liltyle practical .. its better to talk directly and te;ll ur thought to ur guy and see what he says !

any thing more contact me on nehasadre@gmail.com!

we can talk about it in detail

guys by keeping ur name annonymous and blaming islam.. is it really gud? why marginalize them.h same . if u dnt like muslims no problem...if u thnk muslims are brain dead ok..no problem..but dnt criticize like this...wat u say abt islam can be said abt other religion too...if u want to be treated with respect then treat others with the same respect

Dr. Syed

Religion does NOT come between true love!

Aap sab kiun islam ke baren mein aesi baten kar rahen hein?agar aap ki soch mein itne sawaal hain to kiun nehi un sawalon ko jawab dhoonte?islam ko thik tarah se study karo ghe to samaj pao ghe ke islam hai kya.
Our woh log jo ye batah rahen hain k islam mein ouron ke sath acha sooluk nehi hota plzzzzz islam ko ghalat na kahen, agar koi insaan acha insaan nehi hai to ye us ki fitrat hai is mein islam ko beech mein lane ki koi zroorat nehi.ache our bure insaan har jagah hote hain chahen woh muslim ya christian ya hindu hon.
Insaan ghalat hai mazhab nehi.

Peace

Dumdum how is your situation now?ek saal ho gaya

Hi Dumdum

Love is overrated. You may love someone today and stop loving him/her the next day. All divorces happen between couples who were once madly in love with each other. Spouses who once were best friends become mortal enemies. Yes love is important. It is a sine qua non for a happy marriage, but it is not everything. There must be also compatibility.

As a non-Muslim you will never have compatibility with a Muslim partner for whom religion is important and is actively involved in it.

Marriage is not just for the benefit of the couple. In fact it is not about them at all. It is for the benefit of the children. Marriage is an institution we humans have devised to protect our future generations. It is a sacred institution made for the survival and the happiness of our species. If it were not for children we would never have invented the marriage. The fact that we fall in love and develop loyalty to our partner is nature’s way to ensure our future generations are protected and provided for. You don’t see this kind of marital love and relationship in most other mammals because their offspring does not need so much paternal care as human babies do. On the other hand most species of birds form monogamous relationships, some for life and some for the duration of hatching and fledgling of their chicks. Monogamy among mamals is rare. Only 3% of mamals are monogamous, in contrast 90% of birds are monogamous.

Some people think marriage is a religious institution – a relic of the past. This is not true. Marriage is an evolutionary imperative in humans. The ceremony itself is just a social contract but marital commitment is in our nature.

When you try to choose a life partner, think about your future children first. How their best interest will be served? They are the primary purpose of marriage. Of course you get love and companionship from marriage too. But this is not why marriage was instituted. Marriage was instituted for the benefit of children. Everything else is a bonus.

Children need a harmonious place to grow. When you marry a Muslim and you are not, your relationship will NOT be harmonious. The exhilaration of sexual attraction will die very soon. Honeymoon will be over in days. To live with someone for the rest of your life you need to be compatible together.

Yes religion is a personal matter, but that is only in your relationship with your co-workers and your neighbors, not with your spouse. How will you raise your children? If you teach them a set of values and he tells them something different the kids will be confused and disoriented. If the father and mother don’t respect each other’s opinions and beliefs, children cannot respect either one of them, or worse, they will take side. The father has more control over the children. So be prepared to be the outsider in your own home.

There will be also conflicts in other areas. If you can’t share your thoughts with your spouse because they will offend her you grow apart. Soon you will feel you are living with a stranger with whom you have little in common. Then both of you may find others to share your soul with and maybe other things. Infidelity happens when spouses have nothing to talk about. And I can assure you that you’ll have very little to talk about with a brain dead Muslim. Don’t deceive yourself. There are no bright Muslims. If they are, they will leave Islam.

Can u tell me why you dont publish my comments??????

FYI- after reading below, why moderate muslims dont do anything? ( ofcourse if they exist) why indian muslim dont talk about fatwa against that muslim who threw acid on hindu girl, why u guys talk none sense and quote your book, say this is written that is written, why dont you mention what you ACTUALLY do in real life

When hindu pandit were thrown from Kashmir what did you do?
Why u people still support criminals why no fatwa against that?

Ok meanwhile we understand you are not paki you are indians but where is the indianness in u?

btw paki artists are welcome in india, no indian artist is allowed in paki land wtf. Most mulla idiots come here get money. true indian ever thot abt that? Anyways it would be too late if we dont realise soon.

Islamabad (AsiaNews) - "In Pakistan there is justice only for Muslims, justice is denied Hindus. Kill me here, now, in court. But do not send me back to the Darul-Aman [Koranic school] ... kill me". This is the desperate, heartbreaking outburst of Rinkel Kumari, a Hindu girl aged 19, who has entrusted her heartfelt appeal to the judges of the Supreme Court in Islamabad. Her story is similar to that of many other young women and girls belonging to religious minorities - Christians, Hindus, Sikhs, Ahmadis - kidnapped by extremist groups or individuals, most of the time lords or local mafia, which convert them by force and then marry them . And that is what the girl said on 26 March, before the judges of the capital's court.

The drama of Rinkel Kumari, a student of Mirpur Mathelo, a small village in the province of Sindh, began the evening of February 24: A handful of men seized her and delivered her a few hours later into the hands of a wealthy Muslim scholar, the man then called her parents, warning them that their daughter "wants to convert to Islam."

Nand Lal, the girl's father, a teacher of an elementary school, accused Naveed Shah, an influential Muslim, of kidnapping his daughter. The man has the "political cover" provided by Mian Mittho, an elected National Assembly Member, suspected of aiding and abetting. After identifying the perpetrators of the kidnapping of his daughter, he was forced to leave the area of origin to escape the threats of people affiliated with the local mafia. The father found refuge and welcome in Gurdwara in Lahore, in Punjab province, with the rest of his family.

As often happens in these cases, even the judiciary is complicit: a local judge ordered that the girl should be given to the Muslims, because her conversion is "the result of a spontaneous decision" and also stated the marriage was above board. A claim that was repeated on February 27, at the hearing before the court, after which the girl was "renamed" Faryal Shah.

Keep deluding yourself luv cuz one day your religion will be a problem trust me I'm a Muslim who has been in a relationship with a girl who has a different religion and nothing comes before your religion especially for a Muslim so if you are serous then look into becoming a Muslim them you might work otherwise you have no chance

its not important that who am I ?

Important are the questions raised and without loosing mind you should answer it or if you do not have find it

I am assuming he's not a strictly practicing Muslim here. The big question is - is his immediate family a strict practicing Muslim? What type of Muslim-cultural practices are you expected to uphold at your house after marriage - e.g. With respect to non-veg food, are you supposed to buy only halal; or is it okay to have casual alcoholic beverages on occasions; are they okay with you continuing to go to temples, and more Importantly is it okay if your husband accompanies you? More important questions would pertain kids - is it okay to teach them both hindu and Muslim religions; if doing any Hindu celebrations at temple would their family want to come there (such as naming ceremony, threading ceremony etc.); circumcision for boys as Muslims require it and Hindus don't. Overall compatibility should be okay i think because most Indians regardless of their religion have similar family values and expectations.

some questions you need to clarify with him

Why are men permitted to have four wives[87] but women are only allowed one husband?
Why is having four wives permitted but having five wives is forbidden?
Why do many Muslim women disagree with their husband getting a second wife even though Allah has allowed up to four wives?
Do you think its right that a man can divorce for any reason (by pronounces "talaq" three times)[88] but a woman has to plead her case before a judge?
A Muslim male is allowed to have sex with up to four wives,[87] his concubines, his slaves,[89][90] and with POW.[78] How do you feel about your religion permitting men to practice pre-marital sex, adultery, rape, and polygamy? Do you think any of this is moral?
Why does Islam ban adoption?[91][92] What's so evil about adoption?
It has been recorded in a sahih hadith that Muhammad said a woman should suckle a grown man in order to stay in the same house alone.[93] Is that good advice?
Why does Allah allow[94] and even encourage (through Muhammad's example)[95] marriage between cousins? Does he not know it causes genetic disorders[96][97] in offspring?
Why can a woman on her period[98] not touch the Qur'an?
A woman cannot pray to her creator for a quarter of the time because she is "dirty".[98] How do you feel about that?
Women are not permitted to practice polygamy, men are.[87] Women are not permitted to have have pre-marital/extra-marital sex with slaves and POW,[99] men are. Women are not permitted to beat their marital partners, men are.[100] A male inherits twice that of a female[101] And the testimony of a women in court is worth half that of a man's testimony.[102] Considering these rules set out by the Qur'an, how can you possibly claim Islam stands for equality between the sexes?

Laila illalla Muhammadur rasullah...sister is the way for a better life...ek baar namaaz parh ke to dekho...tumhare dil ko kitna sukoon mile ga...plzzz sister sirf ek baar namaaz parho tumhe khud mehsus ho jae ga k real spirituality kya hoti hai...sirf pakizghi

I married a muslim girl after her family created a lot of problem, including praying that their muslim daughter dies, so i have just 2 questions
1- Why you muslims have problem when a muslim girl marries hindu ?
2- why don't you people convert instead of asking hindu girl to convert?

the same person is writing multiple comments about being hindu and GETTING CONVERTED TO MUSLIM AND BLAH BLAH BLAH........ you think we are fools?? haha..do u think people get inspired by these fake stories about happiness? go get a life. haha.... silly people are everywhere!!

most muslims are too religious who dont have anything in their life than praise their god which doesnt even exist............ they r hot headed and contradict their own views....... i know it would be very hard for u to wear a burkha because it degrades the women........ please check if ur guy is not a mama boy and has a spine of his own..... but u should probably go for a register marriage which is best...... AND DONT CONVERT UR BELIEFS FOR THAT ISLAM........ SEE HERE most of them r just being preachers and all..just shows their narrow mindedness..........

@@Mon, 2012-04-02 01:25 — Anonymous
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hey great comment - "No all muslims are terrorist" BUT BUT BUT - all terrorists are muslim - how do you explain that :) good luck explaining..

Actually there are sikh terrorists too, who go to the extreme with their khalistan drama, im not supporting anyone. But I have heard of sikh terrorists as well. Everyday I thnk god, that I am Hindu. It is nt even a religion but a way of life. Buddhism came from Hinduism and is one of the most peaceful "religions" ever. even though it is not really a religion but also a way of life.

@Fri, 2012-04-06 14:50 — Anonymous
Im a muslim girl... and we can't choose who we fell for. were humain too

until and unless you people create problems there is no problem the only prob comes after marriage is what religious beliefs will be your children follow and what rituals will be take place at the time your death and who supports you thats it.............. abhi shaadi nahi hui tabhi bacche aur mouth ki baat kyu karna math socho yeh docheez dekhlo baaki sab theek ho jayega...coz i muzaffar married a hindu girl........ under lots of pressure from girls family and against their wishes but now every thing is fine ...... the whole family supports me and cares a lot to both of us the religion is a path to the god not a dress code... my friendalso married hindu girl and she was converted into Muslim and my wife still practicing Hinduism. it depends convert or not how u reach ur god is the aim by humanity and love or by silly principals..... i dnt knw why some hindus feel unsecured and feared even having majority in india.

Mam i wil sugest u. Never involve in this relatnsp. It wil surely destroy u. Most of the muslim guy got craps as they influencd by quran n mullas. The utmost priority of muslim to spread islam. After 2-3 years, u wil be no where. U wil be destroyd n u wil hav 2 convert. I hav seen hundred of such cases. If u even want to mary. Then go for special marriage act. No way by islamic way.

My sister don`t be so worried,i m also a hindu girl married to a muslim boy.Nothing is gonna wrong with you,even i was bothered with our relationship but believe me i am so happy with my husband that i have never think of that in my dreams.Don`t go after these hatred comments that muslim husbands beat their wives,but my husband never tried to beat me and also my family loves me so much and infact i can say that muslims respect their wives much than any other religions.

are you posting selected comments or what?

look we muslims dint want to convert u (only a few horrible ones) my family is muslim but the rest of my family (parents brothers and sisters) aren't i have a mixed family and we get on really well. The only problems i can think of are the inlaws but thats about it if he respects your wishes then you should marry him if not than end it