Girl Child issue - Please help

Stephanie Briones Posted on You are You are my sister.You are awmesoe.You are a great mom.You are like no one else.You are amazingly talented.You make me laugh.I love you.

i know what the problem is.....she has married the wrong one, lol

when a baby girl is born,its because of the chromosomes...the father should be the one blamed and not the woman who is carrying the baby

ask ur sisterinlaw's mother to kick her own son and not the daughterinlaw

Children are gift from above..man can never produce a baby,its a divine gift

Hey, read this carefully...hope I will be able to help...but you will need to make sure that you follow what others & I am saying.

I can completely understand your issue. It is weird how still in 2012 such issues exist.

First of all, scientifically -

whether the child is a boy/girl is not decided by the parents, and the chromosomes of a male/female is the influence of the "MALE" not female. The reason = because female always delivers "X" chromosome in their eggs! While males have "X & Y," their sperms decide whether it is going to be a male/female, if the man delivers "X" then it is going to be female (X,X), if the man delivers a "Y," then the child is going to be a male (X,Y). Hence, whether it is a boy/girl is not the women's chromosomes' fault!

Since they are educated, they should understand this.

Second of all,
you should tell your sister's in laws that "women" are the power to this world these days. Women can do many jobs, they can earn money, they are the reason why children are born, they are someone's mother, daughter, sister, etc. So, why will they not accept women?The in-laws should understand that even they have females in their families, their own mother, sister, etc. If their sister gets married to someone and her inlaws expect her to ONLY HAVE a son, will they react in the same way they are doing now?

Finally, you should speak out for your sister and your SISTER should stand up for herself, because if you do not stand up for yourself, nobody in this world will help you! Trust me! Nobody will! And this is why some indian women are lacking behind because they never stand up for themselves! They are afraid to do so! And if they are afraid then nothing is going to improve...because in this world you need to respect yourself first...this is when THE WORLD will respect you! If you never reply, then people are going to think that you are "weak" and hence attack you without reasons. Your sister will need to speak up, at least for her child's sake. Dont say "she cant" she has to,,,no other ways! I am not saying that she should be "rude," to her in laws, because obv they are elders, but just "explain" them briefly that what they are saying/doing is wrong.

I have heard from one of the indians that her in laws believe that bcoz she has 2 daughters, she wont be able to get any happiness after death or wont be able to enter "heaven," now seriously how does male/female effects the decision of swarg/narg? Especially because it clearly says women & men are "EQUAL." If they are considered equal, then why does male/female influences where the mother is going to go after death? hell/heaven? LUL.

It is definitely not women's fault if they give birth to a particular gender and even if they do give birth to a female, they should be respected equally because in today's world females are respected...as much as men! Because they can DOO AS MUCH as men.... but in India few women just never gets the chance to prove themselves! Also, both male & female should not be discriminated..because they are BOTH creations of God....:)

And your sister's mother in law..is also a female!!..and if she was not here......the family could have never grown...

That line about Aamir takes away the credibility of your "issue." You are implying that you would have never thought about it until Aamir did a show on this. Pfft.

If she's pregnant with a baby girl, will she have to terminate it? Don't people realise that abortions cause so much grief.She can have a scarred womb or infections which can make it impossible to ever conceive again. I have seen so many girls having abortions for various reasons (I live abroad) & now they are desperate to have a baby, but nature does not cooperate.
Ask any mutual relation from your brother- in- laws family to intervene. Point out that only a man has the Y chromosome to manufacture a boy.If she has a girl,tell them to blame their idiot spineless son for it. In today's age ,there is nothing that a son does that a daughter can't do.Sorry for sounding so harsh,but I have a darling little girl & I would never ever exchange her for a 100 sons. Tell the police about the doctor who deserves to rot in jail.

I really have a hard time believing that ONLY after having seen Aamir's show that it occurred to you that your sister's inlaws are going for an illegal gender selection test, that there is pressure for a boy child, and that your sis is too weak to insist that her baby live no matter what its gender. Like really, Aamir's show made you realize all that? Well if that's the case, find out the name of the clinic or hospital and the doctor, come back and let us know. They could be suspended/punished if their activities are exposed!

I think you guys should support her & also confront her in-laws. As her natal family, be there with her & tell her in-laws that you are armed with complete knowledge of laws related to this practice & it won't be advisable to go in for sex determination tests. Politely but gradually keep building pressure & keep trying to convince her in laws that there is no big deal for a male or female child & it is not in our hands what we get! After all, even a male does not choose what chromosome to give to a female's ova!

Your sister may not be able to speak but your family must intervene relentlessly.