Sutapa Sikdar weighs in on Insider & Outsider debate: B town couldn’t do s*** about Irrfan's Hollywood offers

In a message to the self-proclaimed ‘messiah of outsiders’, Sutapa Sikdar spoke about how no one owns Bollywood and Irrfan didn't give a damn about being invited to parties.
Sutapa Sikdar weighs in on Insider & Outsider debate and Irrfan Khan. Sutapa Sikdar weighs in on Insider & Outsider debate: B town couldn’t do s*** about Irrfan's Hollywood offers.
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Sutapa Sikdar recently took to social media to and weighed in on the insider-outsider debate which has been discussed time and again in the last few months. Clarifying that the post has nothing to do with Sushant Singh Rajput, Sutapa began her post by talking about her roots and how she comes from a varied background. In a message to the self-proclaimed ‘messiah of outsiders’, Sutapa spoke about how no one owns Bollywood. 

She wrote, "Stop this! This inside outside theories it works only in design journals. Don’t narrow the concept of oneness  if one would take the regionalism so strongly  you become a frog in a small pond..because I look at many sadhus spiritualist coming from every region but finding solace in Himalayas ..who owns Himalayas?" Further, Sutapa wrote how Irrfan, who carved his own path, used his time to work on his craft rather than being disappointed about not being called to Bollywood parties. 

"If you consider your work a spiritual quest you won’t be sad if people didn’t call you for their “parties” or did not come for your “premiers”. Irrfan did not get  a cover page of a film magazine for many years he did not waste his time gossiping about people or bad mouthing nor did he get depress , he chiseled his craft ..and refused to be part of it till he got the cover page and he did. (he got mostly depressed not clinically but sad, looking at the disparity in the society.) or once or twice went to a brink of breakdown preparing for roles not because so called insiders did not call him for holi parties. and yes no one dared make fun of him ever on any show or any channel," Sutapa remarked. 

She added, "The point is if you are unable to sustain the indifference of the power people or understand the business of film industry and you want to continue here then you need help and talking to a therapist is not equivalent to be called mad. It’s a simple thing no one owns Bollywood until or unless you think there are some people who own this industry. The Bollywood couldn’t do a shit about Irrfan getting Hollywood offers (sic)." 

Further talking about seeking validation, Sutapa gave the late actor's example and wrote, "Did he miss the parties as some  call them imperative to attend to feel  wanted and be part of the Bollywood? No he didn’t even feel to be part of vacuous stuff also without being cynical he was a great believer in individual choices. But why would he have felt left out?? May I know? In one hand we call them toxic and on the other we are offended if they don’t include you. It’s a weird desire you are yourself giving them the power by seeking for their validation."

Sutapa ended the note by giving some advice and said, "In the end of the day you choose to be who you are no one else does it for you. So your weaknesses are yours, your fears are yours, your fight is yours. May you survive in the most dignified way because that will determine what you are made up of. Ps : please don’t remark without reading the whole post. Pss : it has nothing to do with SSR."

Take a look at Sutapa Sikdar's entire post below:

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Anonymous 2 months ago

,She is absouluotly correct

Anonymous 2 months ago

Well I do not quite agree with her, everyone has their own way of coping with struggle. Whats wrong in calling wrong, wrong? Irfan got his fame late in his profession, heroins are declared OLD after 30s. Irfan did solo hero movies very late in his career, may be others don't want to or can't wait for that long. See finally when he became a cult actor, his life ended for natural reasons. If he had got his opportunities early on, audiences would have enjoyed it for longer. Think how much of his craft we couldn't see and all is because of nepotism and groupism. Everyone's struggle is different, calling other pain fake is absolutely wrong.

Anonymous 2 months ago

Finally someone is speaking sense. Otherwise all that we have been reading from our fake national award winners are verbal diarrhea.

Anonymous 2 months ago

I love Irfaan khan! However, he would have been alive if Bollywood treated him well. He was acting in Chandrakanta becoz no one gave him breaks. He slept in sets and woke up to give his shots. How hard that man worked to sustain. If the industry was about talent he did not have to work in such miserable conditions. At least be fair to your late husband’s struggles. He did not deserve such horrible treatment. We are trying to bring fairness to the system. Just becoz u all have money now kindly don’t shun what’s wrong

Anonymous 2 months ago

I think so too . That she is trying to keep organs memory alive till her son returns . Don’t worry ma’m no one will forget irfan

Anonymous 2 months ago

Absolutely correct, may be she is trying to pave path for her son.

Anonymous 2 months ago

It's her personal life. But Indians don't know how to respect anything personal.

Anonymous 2 months ago

Indians love to poke their dirty nose in everyone's lives. It was their marriage. They decide what kind of marriage they want. Who the hell are you all to pass judgments?

Anonymous 2 months ago

I agree with what she is saying however, the issue here is that the system and the industry is unjust and unfair as even the ‘insiders’ have said that yes they get more chances which is ok but just because this is how the ‘system’ or ‘industry’ works and we all live with it does not mean that it is correct or just or appropriate. We still have to try and make the changes to make the system better. We cannot just accept that since this is how it has been, it is ok for it continue and any ‘outsider’ just needs to be stronger and not care about these things. Even if Kangana doesn’t care about being invited to parties and does not act with big Bollywood stars, someone still has to raise their voice against a corrupt system otherwise how are we all to grow and live in a just/ fair society ? This approach is not just required to better the Bollywood industry but every aspect of our country which we are proud of. We have evolve and make it a better place for every human being. Can’t just accept the status quo and say “just be stronger or don’t come then”

Anonymous 2 months ago

Rightfully said. KRAZY KANGY got a SLAP. Thank you .

Anonymous 2 months ago

Well said Sutapa, why give power to people by seeking validation from them

Anonymous 2 months ago

Finally someone has written a detailed, sensible and to the point answer to claims of this particular "self proclaimed messiah" that people can get into depression if they are not invited to certain "happening" parties. Real talented people give a damn about what other do or party around, they focus on their work and improvement of their craft.

Anonymous 2 months ago

Wow really intelligent lady

Anonymous 2 months ago

I don't say you are completely right...it was irfans mental state that he didn't bother about being called for Bollywood parties...but what about people who get bothered ...they definitely feel that they are inferior and sidelined sometimes even though they are talented..Your mental state is dependent on your nervous system...Will you say the same thing if you're son is continuously sidelined and if he cannot cope up with it....why nepotism.? .. please gain knowledge regarding mood changes and nervous system....and then comment... Nepotism is like further depleting the confidence of a deserving person...

Anonymous 2 months ago

That is what she exactly said: If you have a weakness (emotional or whatever) then you are the one to find a solution for it or your family (seeking professional help does not mean you are mad). How many of us face emotional distress everyday (in daily life) and cope up with it! Students from class 10 start to get pressure for grades then we have entrance exams, sometimes you work hard , you are intelligent but you are not selected. Then you pass out with a degree but you don't get a desired job, e.g.30 people (all talented) apply for same one job, only one will be taken, rest all have to get disappointed even when they are equally talented (no fault of employer as he/she needed only one), they don't sit back and stress they move on and make effort for next time. That is life.

Anonymous 2 months ago

Excellent post Sutapa. I hope evil witch KR and all BJP idiots read and learn from ur post.

Anonymous 2 months ago

The noise is not for the real evil but that the noise is to cover up government failures

Anonymous 2 months ago

Irrfan also openly admitted to cheating on her when in Hollywood. He projected the concept of open marriage. Everyone leads their own life and in their own way. He didn’t care but it doesn’t mean that btown not seeing his talent was not damaging. It just didn’t matter in the end because Hollywood noticed him from his art films. She however has no standing in the industry to talk down to another actress who has made her own way. She is a drama school graduate who was mrs to a big man, that’s it, that too in an open marriage. Irrfan was not perfect, god rest his soul. Why is she speaking at all? Why would we care what she thinks? PV post this.

Anonymous 2 months ago

So you mean to say only those people have right to speak who hold some position or power? This speaks volumes about your mind-set. Sudapa is spot on and her intelligent write up is an eye opener especially for most like you.

Anonymous 2 months ago

So? Does that make what she says invalid? She never claimed he was faithful, she only stated his journey and that's quite commendable.

Anonymous 2 months ago

I think you are deliberately reading Sutapa's write up wrongly, kindly read again. Major points she made were these: 1. He was not invited to parties 2. He carved a niche for himself and got recognized internationally 3. Bollywood isn't owned by anyone It's all about perspective , and in a bid to encourage anyone ,regardless of their background, who want a place in the industry. The question everyone should be asking is this; do I want to be in Bollywood just to be accepted or to be in Bollywood to make a mark? When there is a will, there will be a way

Anonymous 2 months ago

Loved every word she wrote! No wonder a man like Irrfan chose this beautiful mind as his partner.

Anonymous 2 months ago

who is she?

Anonymous 2 months ago

Who are you? No let me rephrase, what are you?