Tahira Kashyap bats for #SmashThePatriarchy in open letter amid case against Rhea Chakraborty: I lost my poise

Tahira Kashyap pens an open letter to show her support towards the #SmashThePatriarchy move amid the case against Rhea Chakraborty. The director shares anecdotes of her personal experiences to voice her opinions.
Tahira Kashyap bats for #SmashThePatriarchy in open letter amid case against Rhea Chakraborty: I lost my poiseTahira Kashyap bats for #SmashThePatriarchy in open letter amid case against Rhea Chakraborty: I lost my poise
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Earlier this week, Rhea Chakraborty sported a T-shirt to the NCB interrogation that began a movement. The actress wore a tee with the inscription, "Roses are red, violets are blue, let's smash the patriarchy, me and you." When the actress was arrested this week in connection to drugs in Sushant Singh Rajput's death probe, several Bollywood stars stood in solidarity to "smash the patriarchy". Now, Tahira Kashyap penned an open letter for Mid-Day where she showed her support to the movement. 

She said that the chatter in the media led her to lose her poise. "Why would I choose to write about this much-trodden topic now? Perhaps my threshold of tolerance has been tested in the last week, jolted by this new wave of anger against patriarchy. All of the talk in the media, the chatter on twitter, the footage on my tv screen, re-awakened something in me," she wrote. "In the last week when I had my usual share of experiences - the usual experiences that happen to every woman, every single day - I lost my poise," she added. The director shared personal anecdotes from her life to emphasize the need to call out patriarchy. Tahira, who is with her family in Chandigarh, recalled an incident where a relative made a snide remark about her husband, Ayushmann Khurrana. She said the family member asked her "look after your husband, feed him more greens." 

Appalled and angered by the comment, Tahira informed the relative that Ayushmann was making her some salad and she would ask him to make an extra serving for himself before she stormed off. "I was tempted to crush his toes as I made the speech, but held myself back and simply stomped out of the living room. After all, who wants to deal with name-calling? I mean with 'vishkanya', 'gold digger' and 'Bengali women' doing the rounds I don't want 'khoon ki piyaasi', 'toes crushing' 'Punjabi women' to start another wave," she wrote, referring to the names Rhea has been called on social media lately. 

 
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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She revealed being schooled for her behaviour. "I agree I was being harsh but was amazed by the offence taken. Perhaps every time a woman is called 'haramkhor', 'fucking m#$@#chod' on live feed, we should go out protesting too…oh but aren't we already?" she pointed out before adding that their stand against these statements has led to trolls sending rape and murder threats. 

Tahira also opened up about gender inequality by sharing an example of how hard female trainers need to hustle to remain in the game while many male trainers sport unfit frames. "There is something drastically wrong with the general outlook towards women. The expectations are unreal. "How is ignoring a lame comment by a roadside Romeo unreal?" You may ask. It is unreal. Keeping quiet, enduring is unreal," she said. She also recalled the multiple eve-teasing episodes and being pinched in the bottom on multiple occasions. 

"Be it standing in queues outside a single screen theatre or lining up outside a mandir waiting for a chance to pour milk over shiv-ling and see the linga 'drink' it. Somehow I never got to experience the latter as I opted out of the line after getting groped. And I was all of 12 at that time. And that too at a pious place. If someone had called out these filthy minds for what they are, perhaps I wouldn't have to experience what I did," she wrote. 

She concludes her letter by suggesting that every time a remark is made against women, attempt changing the preposition and place a man in the perspective. "For instance, "both the Khurana sons will want an exclusive space to cook " or "did madam allow you to shoot while the kids go to school?" I can add an entire list of questions and this is from a place of privilege. I can't begin to fathom (but don't want to ignore) what must be happening to the rest of us across different strata of the same patriarchal society. So until the equation becomes equal, "roses are red, violets are blue, let's smash the patriarchy, me and you", Tahira concludes. 

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Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Shsh

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

She did wrong and not one but many with full conspiracy....that's why she is being called names!

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Why did the post mortem report not mention any drugs in SSR's system? Why did Mumbai Police not mention this before the CBI came into the picture? Why none of these so called Bollywood feminist loving stars not support Rhea before the CBI probe started? Why only after the drug angle got uncovered celebrities like Vidya Balan, Sonam Kapoor, Swara, Kareena, Shibani want to stand in support for Rhea? Where have they all been? Probably, ran out of stock with Rhea, Showik and the peddling gang being held up in the CBI chase for the truth. Disgusted with the film industry and this facade of bullshit they have put up in the last few months.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

you live with your in laws, first smash patriarchy at home.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

There is no question of patriarchy, or gender bias,equal laws for all.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Right first of all nobody knows what happened secondly most of Bollywood ppl are on drugs which is normal for celebs, i so believe riea was a good digger guess that's normal too for celebs, why u people are fighting over fake people like Bollywood?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

So where is please find, invoice attached to plea

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Tahira Tum apne Baccha ko drugs khila pair Public comment kar ke drugs peddler Sahi he Ke galat

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Sahi kaha lol

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

We don't know who is Tahira. AYUSMAN KHURANA IS doing it all wrong first supporting Neha dhupia on abusing a boy in the show and now This one supporting a drug pedler .Listen whoever you are Tahira Apne betta ko drugs khila lo phir Himmat hoti he na tab bolna ki kisike Betta susant ko Drugs de ke Jadutona kar ke Mar Dala To ye Sahi he galat he

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

..womenhood

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Menhood always dominates over women liberation

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

should not be prepared.. and pressurised.. truth is open.. check it out yourself..

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

It's an open source system

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Law practice process should be taken care of

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Probably only one out of pocket pressure

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Please find..

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

It's a case of freedom of struggle.. maybe not to follow up

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

together with.. independent with..at the edge, to save or to let down

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

If you can't do the crime, don't do the crime

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Justice for SSR# will be achieved when the case relating to his death is solved. Now, instead of focussing on Murder and abetment to suicide, why are we going on a tangent to drugs etc. I have been focussing on this angle for the past 3 months but can't pin down Rhea. Why did she have to leave SSR's house on the June 8? Why did she not communicate with SSR or any of the house staff for 6 days? I am trying my damndest to implicate her in the crime. But I can't do it logically. Any scientific explanation from you folks?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Idiots

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Who is she, she doesn't look like complete woman, half this and half that, rest guess lol

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Sorry Babu ne Mara hai ya nahi Mara ssr Ko but she was involved in drug case so pls update ur self before making any comment

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

I felt bad for Rhea’s parents that they have go through the pain of seeing their children like this. But it’s the deeds of those children and the upbringing of parents.For those who are crying about patriarchy are the biggest hypocrites. These very actresses succumb to patriarchy for more films and money. It doesn’t make sense that 4-5 people were working tooth and nail to procure drugs for a vulnerable man. There isn’t proof that he was making efforts to get it because people around him were doing it for him!!Why were they so he’ll bent??? And now the hypocrites are justifying Rhea and saying if SSR was alive he would be jailed too!! Pathetic Bollywood!!

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Those who are supporting Rhea are also drug addict.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

The whole drama is because their names will come soon in the drug cartel. Sara Ali and Rakul preet's name has already taken by Rhea.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Correct.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Who is tahira and who is ayushman . I think this is faltu people. I have never seen before this. Completely speaking anything. I think someone says here and i agree with that statement that u got bahu like riya u will happy and .i give blessing to you that you got your bahu like riya chakrabaty cunning drug dealer and let ur son addicted with it . And she spoil your son life just like ssr. I am blessed by lord shiva and what i speak will mostly become truth . Be ready Sameera or tahira what was that i dont care.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Something is really wrong with people's mindset. Thousands of people suicide without known reasons throughput world and we accept. And here the actor with medical reports/history with severe depression leading to suicide cannot be accepted by people. With digging of murder conspiracy even the actor resorting to illegal substances for the same problem came out in public domain. Still people with come up with another theoretical conspiracy.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Get lost, we have our own mind.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Even if Sushant was Rhea’s partner in crime , doesn’t it becomes important to know about what exactly. Even if we agree that Sushaant committed suicide , the drug able cannot be ignored now . Is it not good for society to remove the drugs out ? Now where is patriarchy coming in between? It is important to clean up the mess from Bollywood. This case is no more only about Sushant . It has exposing a lot . In the end I would, please Mr Tahira even if you and Ms Abhimanyu are taking drugs , it is important to clean up the Bollywood so that your kids should not get into all this . Would you like your kids as well to get in this mess ?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

You and Ayusshman are supposed to be Buddhists and it is a shame that your are supporting a criminal. Why? If Sushant was your family member would you still support Rhea? How can you be Ikeda sensei's disciples. Shame on you.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Then why are you defending Rhea and drug consumption before her trial?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

If the girl was from our family then we would have accepted the reality and would have let her rot in jail.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

As far as I know they follow Nichiren Daishonin's Buddhism whose motto is world peace. As regards keeping an eye on her partner's diet, to here is nothing wrong. High time the educated Indian started treating their partners as equals and not expect them to do things for them on a regular basis. In today's world where both husband and wife have a busy corporate life, it is okay for the one who gets the opportunity to make a meal for the other . As regards Tahira's take on Sanjay Raut's remark on Kangana , it only reflects on his upbringing and neglect of his parents in bringing him up.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

people are not getting very simple thing, give girl space and respect and right to privacy.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Really? What if this girl was from your family?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Anonymous As people have got ready made platform of expressing their view, they r talking too much. Keep trust on yr judicial system. If Rhea is offender,let her get punishment after trial,not before.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Reach is not criminal. Your thinking is criminal

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

To be fair they should first arrest all sadhus at haridwaar for smoking weed. This is a public stunt by media, opportunists, politicians and pseudo patriots. Lakhs of people are going broke due to COVID and all people are worried about is who smoked weed and who was high on ecstasy.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

disgust to the power of infinity morons tahira and ur disgusting husband , even the 2 cents.of respect i had for him is gone now. which kind of brain have you all fitted yourself with, there is no logic, there is no sense, there is absolutely nothing in your view points and posts, a 4th grade child will have better logic than you morons

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

And who are you?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Who cares for you? Who are you?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

such hypocrites these women are, they need to be stripped of all the money and power these morons are engulfed in

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Tell that to the women in your miserable life

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Sad when they say equality for women. And then they are not convinced with imprisonment of a woman with drug dealing with other men as well. Why they don’t ask justice for shovik and others?? Isn’t it equal and same treatment? Being a girl can i buy drugs and will that be legal? They all are sheeps in a herd... brainless dumbos

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

You cant be intellectual and smart by wearing big glasses. You r just a sheep in a herd who is yelling justice. Stupid people can’t see she is in prison because of drug dealing. Or maybe drug dealing is not illegal for you. Then shout justice for shovik and other 2 as well.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Agree with Tahira! Hello Anonymous, Is it nice to call someone stupid?This is disgusting

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Claim to fame! Ayushmann and Cancer!! Tahira who???

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Who are you?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Moron! Lol

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

what are some of these silly Bollywood ladies are trying to prove ? What Patriarchy ? So is Rhea saying that this is carried out by male dominating society, pressurized her to peddle drugs?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Yes how do you know. You lived with them? Do you know even two bits about him?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Tahira, you suck for sure! You are a loser.. accept it and yes your relative very rightly said to feed your husband greens..you are such a rude person to deal with..

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Anonymous, That is very unkind and disrespectful.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Wow. What a polite person you are

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Pseudo feminism! And stop with this ‘smash patriarchy’ bullshit. Rhea getting arrested has nothing to do with patriarchy

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

First you sold your cancer story, now you want to get 2 seconds fame by talking about Rhea a druggie and drug peddler booked under NCB. I used to like Ayushmaan but now not interested. Chaploos gang are u placed by Karan Johar to talk here. Warriorfor SSR . He is our immortal hero.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Who cares about you?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

ye samajh nahi ara hi kis is pure case me smash patriarchy angle kaha se aa gaya. kitna pagal banaoge audience ko bollywood walon...ab expose hone ko ready ho jao

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

people with cancer suddenly have urge to sound intellectual and profound to the whole world. just a quick reminder the whole industry sees your husband as a spineless bootlcking person.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Moron

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Over exaggerating all facts , Tahira you are pathetic

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Woman card play kro ab,, Whr wer u wen she was committing crimes wo bhi khulle mei ,, Whr wer u wen she was dtugging him and mk his videos to use against him later , tht time she forgot tht SSR is a human being who deserves empathy , now suddenly her supporters are out without actually realizing wat she did ,, new wannabe in town . Tahira tujh de ye umeed ni thi trying hard to get some work !

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Wow. SSR was a toddler to be given all these. You see too many c grade movies

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Don’t worry guys Modiji will smash patriarchy by putting all the involved men in jail

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

lol

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

He was murdered period. The ligature mark, the cloth used, ceiling height, cctv off etc clearly says so. Whether he was into drugs or forcibly given, at the end of the day it all comes to him being murdered. We want to know who murdered him and for what. We cannot let someone get away doing this heinous crime and get away. No one deserves to die this way, especially a humble and good hearted guy like him. So whoever is bringing other theories can keep quiet. Pv pls post.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Please go and talk to the CBI who is investigating this case. You seem to know a lot. Don't vomit stupidity here

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Dimwit!!!

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Sweetheart, gender has no crime..You commit a crime, you get punished, simple as that

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

I have failed to understand all these women crying out loud, for what? Reha C is arrested for a crime, being a drug peddler, its still illegal in india, not sure why all these women are crying for? Supporting her, I mean what exactly they are trying to prove? That they are better than CBI or NCB? They have booked het because of evidence so? Do they all want their kids to become junkie or drug peddlers? I am just failing to understand this new wave of so called feminists women.. looks like everyone is looking for their two cents fame..

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Really? The conviction rate of both these agencies is nothing to write home about. So don't be too optimistic. You seem to forget that all the so called evidence has to proved in court

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

What the hell is this ayushmaan your hard will be down the drain agreed with many things your wife said but that is different issue it has no connection between drug peddler and patriarchy You have two kids drugs is bad don't you have brain or what

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

no one cares about your opinion

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

She is closet Kangna. She too can make anything and everything about herself to get 2 mins of fame.

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

What are you trying? 30 sec of fame?

Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Agreed.

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