Body language expert and owner of site www.simplybodytalk.com - Khyati Bhatt has come up with an in-depth analysis of the romantic relationship between Deepika Padukone and her alleged boyfriend Ranveer Singh. Khyati has been the Body Language Editor for WE magazine for women and has published papers in FirstPost run by Network18 & Digital Photographer, UK. The article is extremely interesting with lots of facts supporting her argument. Read on and let us know your thoughts!
What makes us “feel” that a couple shares great chemistry? Is it the way they talk, the way they laugh or just the way they are around each other? Here we look at how, from a distance, simply from the couple’s non verbal behaviour, we can spot a couple in love. In fact, we can even gauge how deep into the relationship they are. I used the well known Bollywood couple of Deepika Padukone and Ranveer Singh for my analysis.
A couple sharing great rapport generally displays a lot of cohesive actions and postures, called mirroring. Also known as Postural Echo, it is the body’s way of transmitting the message “See, I am just like you”. Mirroring every step while walking together happens only when a couple is in great synchrony. In fact, if you see a couple mirroring each other, with one person’s foot slightly ahead of the other’s foot, you can know who usually calls the shots.
Body pointing is an effective way that the mind unconsciously shows with whom it wants to be. The picture above shows a typical courtship Closed Position with Deepika’s body pointing towards Ranveer, including her feet. Although he is in her Intimate Zone, her stance is relaxed, with her wrist hanging limp by her side, not the slightest bit tense, which might have indicated that she was slightly watchful. Ranveer’s foot pointing towards the camera suggests he wants to face there but the lovely lady opening up her full body, cannot make him resist giving her a good lasting eye to eye contact.
Once again you can see the couple in the courtship Closed Position with their torsos angling towards each other. In fact, with their shoulders jutting slightly outwards, they are trying to open up their bodies signalling comfort in each other’s presence. You can also see Ranveer’s head tilting towards his lady, even though he is smiling for the camera. Deepika and Ranveer are displaying a reciprocative Waist Embrace. The Waist Embrace makes a couple press their sides against each other. It is a very intimate Tie Sign, a clear indicator that the bond between the lovers is strong and deep. Also seen in this picture is the typical leg splay, spreading legs wide apart , again a territory claiming posture. Ranveer here clearly owns up his lady.
This picture could be clicked in a moment of a private conversation or joke between the two. If either of them is an unwilling participant, he or she would be having only the ear facing towards his partner, not his entire face. The coming together of the foreheads is another sign of all guards down. If there is a more established display of head to head contact than it is here in the picture, it would be an excluding action, signalling that the pair wishes to cut off the audience off from their mind.
You can often catch one of the partners giving a prolonged stare to his or her partner, called Gaze Behavior. It is difficult to know whether the gaze by itself is because of admiration or hostility. But the smile on Deepika’s face, a submissive cue, which is accompanying the Gaze Behaviour, confirms for us silent admiration. Gaze behaviour of one individual does not necessarily mean that the partner is reciprocating the emotions. But the one displaying the behaviour is clearly passionate about the other person.
Smiles and eyes
Genuine smiles and good eye contact does signal a lot of genuine admiration for one another. It is easy to see that both are flashing truly genuine Duchenne smiles in this picture. If you see a couple sitting close together, gazing deeply into each other’s eyes, talking softly and making gentle physical contact, they have moved past the initial shyness and grown truly intimate.
Lapping up any opportunity to touch is an advancement in courtship. It generally begins with a light touch on the arm, as Deepika is displaying in one picture. Here the couple might be in the beginning stages of their relationship. A hand touch indicates higher level of intimacy than the one on the arm, which is being displayed in the other picture. The intimacy of the touch advances as the relationship advances.
The Full Embrace between adults is reserved for intense emotional moments. In this particular picture you see Deepika trying to shrug off the hug by placing both her hands as barriers and bending inwards to avoid full contact with Ranveer. Her body is turned slightly away from Ranveer. She is possibly feeling camera shy. But Ranveer is displaying a sincere hug, which is easy to spot when the eyes are closed while in action. You also cannot miss out on the slight smile on his face. The facial hair mostly masks the smile, which in all probability is a private smile. He is showing true enjoyment in embracing his lady love.
Adjusting the partner’s clothes or accessories is a display shown when a couple truly cares for one another. In later stages of a relationship, a couple will groom each other as much as themselves (Wilson Pg 69). Ranveer here is adjusting Deepika’s earrings and Deepika is neither embarrassed with his action nor hastening him. It is a clear sign that she likes him taking care of her.