Jiah Khan's Mother reveals the letter behind her daughter's death

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Jiah Khan's mother Rabiya Khan found six pages of letter in her wallet box when she was searching for poems written by Jiah to be read out at her prayer meet held yesterday.

To all concerned,
 
Some sections of the media and some film industry people are speculating that my daughter Jiah committed suicide because of depression related to her career. However the truth is that it happened only because of the trauma and the abuse she suffered at the hands of Suraj Pancholi and his father Aditya Pancholi. 
This I know from what Jiah shared with her sisters and me and also from this letter written by Jiah herself that I am attaching here with which was found three days later by my younger daughter in a wallet box belonging to Jiah when she was searching for some poems written by Jiah to be read out at her prayer meeting. 
I have decided to make this letter public so that everyone may know the truth behind my daughter’s tragedy.
 
Below given is a transcript of Jiah's handwritten letter:.. I am also attaching the photocopies of the actual handwritten pages of her letter

                                                                  Yours truly 
                                                                                       Rabiya khan

           
                                   

Jiah's letter to Suraj pancholi

“ I don’t know how to say this to you but I might as well now as I have nothing to lose. I’ve already lost everything. If you’re reading this I might have already left or about to leave. I am broken inside. You may not have known this but you affected me deeply to a point where I lost myself in loving you. Yet you tortured me everyday. These days I see no light I wake up not wanting to wake up. There was a time I saw my life with you, a future with you. But you shattered my dreams. I feel dead inside. I’ve never given so much of myself to someone or cared so much. You returned my love with cheating and lies. It didn’t matter how many gifts I gave you or how beautiful I looked for you. I was scared of getting pregnant but I gave myself completely the pain you have caused me everyday has destroyed every bit of me, destroyed my soul. I can’t eat or sleep or think or function. I am running away from everything. The career is not even worth it anymore. When I first met you I was driven, ambitious and disciplined. Then I fell for you, a love I thought would bring out the best in me. I don’t know why destiny brought us together. After all the pain, the rape, the abuse, the torture I have seen previously I didn’t deserve this. I didn’t see any love or commitment from you. I just became increasingly scared that you would hurt me mentally or physically. Your life was about partying and women. Mine was you and my work. If I stay here I will crave you and miss you. So I am kissing my 10-year career and dreams goodbye. I never told you but I received a message about you. About you cheating on me. I chose to ignore it, decided to trust you. You embarrassed me. I never went out, I never went with anyone else. I am a loyal person. I never met anyone with Karthik I just wanted you to feel how you make me feel constantly. No other woman will give you as much as I did or love you as much as I did. I can write that in my blood. Things were looking up for me here, but is it worth it when you constantly feel the pain of heartbreak when the person you love wants to abuse you or threatens o hit you or cheats on you telling other girls they are beautiful or throws you out of their house when you have no where to go and you’ve come to them out of love or when they lie to your face or they make you chase after them in their car. Or disrespects their family. You never even met my sister. I bought your sister presents. You tore my soul. I have no reason to breathe anymore. All I wanted was love. I did everything for you. I was working for us. But you were never my partner. My future is destroyed my happiness snatched away from me. I always wished the best for you, was ready to invest what little money I had in your betterment. You never appreciated my love, Kicked me in the face. I have no confidence or self esteem left, whatever talent whatever ambition you took it all away. You destroyed my life. It hurt me so much that I waited for you for ten days and you didn’t bother buying me something. The Goa trip was my birthday present but even after you cheated I still spent on you. I aborted our baby when it hurt me deeply. You destroyed my Christmas and my birthday dinner when I came back. When I tried my hardest to make your birthday special. You chose to be away from me on Valentines Day. You promised me once we made it to one year we would get engaged. All you want in life is partying, your women and your selfish motives. All I wanted was you and my happiness you took both away from me. I spent money on you selflessly you would throw in my face. When I would cry for you. I have nothing left in this world to live for after this. I wish you had loved me like I loved you. I dreamt of our future. I dreamt f our success. I leave this place with nothing but broken dreams and empty promises. All I want now is to go to sleep and never wake up again. I am nothing. I had everything. I felt so alone even while with you. You made me feel alone and vulnerable. I am so much more than this”





Comments

oh god i don't understand why ppl are abusing suraj he is totally worthless guy a Casanova it was the mother who shud be questioned that if you knew that your daughter is suffering she shud have done something by counselling her that leave that bloody stupid man instead of hurting your self and even god bless jiah,s soul was silly either at such a young age killing your self for such a useless lad is disgusting i wonder her soul would be somewhere around suraj and will never let him reach the success. well that guy really deserves nothing .

Hi mocuishlelona, I can't really comment on the legal side of things... as far as I know the police have not yet been able to hack into both of her cellphones or her laptop. There is still quite a bit of evidence to go over and we are not aware of all that's going on behind the scenes.

i am no relative of suraj or jiah.

But i dont understand how from this letter you could say he caused her to commit suicide.

O have said this multiple times, people break up all the time in relationships, Suraj was 21/22 to expect marriage from him is utter foolishness.

And if all the people who break up are going to commit suicide, half the world would be dead!

I am not a friend or family and happen to be a psychotherapist. I can clearly say that if Sooraj is charged than more than him the mom should be charged. Did she get her daughter mental health help? Her daughter was clearly depressed, co-dependent and clearly had borderline tendencies. Why was she obsessed with a man who was abusive towards her. This shows she was clearly codependent and needed help. Nobody commits suicide without being depressed. Suraj may be young guy who was just trying to get laid or whatever which is not rare. He got himself unfortunately entangled in a women who was mentally unstable and did not know she would make him her obsession. The mom is the one who should be charged for not seeking serious help for her daughter and leaving her alone that fateful night. Jiah spoke of a previous rape and trauma. Where was her mom when all that happened? India is seriously so behind when it comes to mental health. The true victim in all of this Sooraj. It is not easy to date a mentally unstable person. The repercussions can be serious. But, being charged for someone else's suicide is beyond insanity!! Wake up India and please start understanding mental health.

Anonymous, please avoid replying to me if you have nothing relevant to say. Someone here is anonymously going out of their way to discredit Rabiya and Jiah and please don't tell me it's a fan of Aditya or Suraj Pancholi, because combined the 2 Pancholis have zero fans. That's why I'm saying it must be a friend or family member.

I agree with the person below who said that Suraj's friends or family are probably here on PV anonymously trying to do damage control...

after reading all this .... i felt so bad for my skool frd jiyah...i called her few months b4 she was so so happy at tht time...
coz she believe tht soraj love her nd they cant live without eachother... she told me tht she love the way when soraj introduce her to his frd his relatives.... ahhh i dun want to to tell my name as i desparetely want to do something for my frd..jiyah this guy dun deserve ur love... y u did this this for him... ... i want to tell one more thing when they have started making love eachother she told me she give her soul to him ...i told her jiyah dont trust him blindly or else ask him for the engagement....she told me tht its v.complicated i cant tell u.. but i know tht he will marry me....and thn i called her on her bday she was v depressed she told me tht she was wrong abt soraj he only use he abuse her ... i dun want to write anything more...

fishy...fishy...

This is a very sensitive issue. It is very unfortunate that Jiah’s mother has published this letter of such private accounts in what appears to be an attempt to defame Sujal and Aditya (even though there is nothing in the letter which involves the latter). Like everyone else, I have absolutely no idea of what was going on but from the letter it seems that Jiah was possibly suffering from victim mentality and an obsessive and insecure personality. The only reason that I am writing these comments because when one really looks at what it is in the letter it seems to come down to a case of one person not reciprocating another’s feelings. It is a shame that so many people are condemning someone without knowing what the real situation was. What is clear, however, is that Jiah was not in a healthy state of mind and in this condition, how far we can trust her version of events is open to debate. My aim is not to criticize Jiah in any way, it is obvious that she was going through a very difficult period and her writing is a reflection of that. The question is how far was Sujal really to blame for the difficult situation that she was in and does anyone have any right to condemn him, wish that he rots in hell and pray for the destruction of his career without knowing the answer to this question?

In the letter Jiah blames him or wants him to feel guilty for everything that has gone wrong in her past, present and is about to go wrong in her future. There is an indication that she was suffering from victim mentality. He was not responsible for any abuse she suffered in the past but she is trying to make him feel guilty about that. She mentions that she became increasingly scared that he WOULD hurt her mentally or physically – she is trying to make him feel guilty about something he hasn’t even done yet.

She goes on about everything she has done for him, laying constant guilt trips on him in the process. She talks about giving him gifts or looking beautiful for him as if she has done him a favour and he owes her something. She even mentions giving gifts to his sister. Additionally, she talks about her choice of being intimate with him as being a favour or a sacrifice. Everything in the letter is about what SHE gave and what SHE wanted. It appears that if he did not go along with what she wanted it meant that he was selfish.

She goes on about the ‘abuse’ he inflicted on her but the only specific examples she mentions are about him ruining her birthday and Christmas dinner. Re the cheating, there is a strong indication that she felt jealous and insecure by his partying and complimenting other women. She does not mention any specific examples of him cheating, stating that she received a message about him cheating. Someone who is blaming another person for everything that has gone wrong in their past, present and will go wrong in the future would surely mention specific examples of cheating if they had any. She does mention problems caused in their relationship when she tried to make him jealous or teach him a lesson by faking a relationship or something along those lines with another man. Again, this is HIS fault.

Stating that no other woman will give as much as she did is the sign of a possessive/controlling person. She is even willing to write it in her BLOOD. She mentions that she always wished the best for him, was ready to invest in his betterment. Apparently she had decided what was best for him and that he needed to be bettered and he needed her to do it.

She says that things were looking up for her in her career but now she is giving up and it is his fault. It is known that things had not been going well in her career and this was not his fault.

His life was about partying and women. Hers was him and her work. It seems that he had a life outside the relationship. Her career was not going well and it could have been that he became an object of her obsession. He might have thrown her out of his house but anyone can react like that when it comes to obsession – the fact that she ran after his car while he was driving away says a lot.

She dreamt of their future and their success. She had decided that they were going to have a life together and what kind of a life it would be. Maybe he had mentioned to her that they would get engaged. Maybe he had even meant it. But circumstances and feelings change, as everyone who has been in a relationship knows.

In writing about this issue, I am not taking sides, I am just encouraging people to look at her letter and really think about whether it can be taken as an objective account of their relationship.
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I completely agree with anon's depiction of the letter. U can read it this ways also.

Well guys i find everything fishy....y dint she ask her to break up after knowing all this?? which mother would ask her daughter to marry a 21 yr old?? doesnt it sound fishy??? they were also using him...

@Tue, 2013-06-11 07:11 — Anonymous

If you believe that maloney, you're a stupid person. Karma, sure, be good and do good and good be done unto you but your kids suffer? Jesus Christ! And for the record, from what is public knowledge what has Suraj done? Nothing in my eyes. He had a relationship with an obsessed and infatuated girl. She was infatuated with him. That letter speaks volumes about her state of mind. Her family should have been by her side and support system to help get her out of the situation. Suraj is not responsible nor is he a factor in this as far as I'm concerned.

I dont symathise with suiciders i kno suraj is a wasteman but still jiah did not have to die this way everyone has ups and down in life

I feel suraj is innocent. 21 yr olds are like that. Did we know the meaning of commitment when we were 21. Its 2013. Break ups are common. if a girl decides to end her life then its not the guys fault. Regarding the letter - i read it completely different. to me jia sounds like a possessive gf.
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Yup i read the letter again. Everything means different to me. The rape thing means she suffered that earlier in her life from someone else n did not deserve a person like suraj now. she deserved someone better.

@ Mon, 2013-06-10 18:44 — Anonymous

Why should Suraj be hung ? What has he done here that proves he is guilty. She sounds desperate. He is young and just starting his career. And if she was that much disciplined in her life, wth was she doing letting him do all this to her. I doubt this. It only sounds like, fine if I cant have you the right way, I am going to go and leave you in trouble.
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well sounds true to my ears.

Good lord, she was in an abusive relationship for so long. Suraj Pancholi is an a-hole. But Jiah's family is also at fault here. I know they lost their daughter and blaming them at this time is not right but her family is screaming and shouting now, what I fail to understand is where were they when their daughter was slowly falling into an abyss of depression. The letter shows that she has been emotionally traumatize and severely depressed for a really long time and no one close to her cared enough to notice. They should have taken her far away from Suraj and should have made sure that she got the help both from her family and professionals that she was in dire need of. She had battered women syndrome clearly and people suffering from this won't get away from abuse unless someone from outside decides to help. This is so sad.

@ Mon, 2013-06-10 18:44 — Anonymous

Why should Suraj be hung ? What has he done here that proves he is guilty. She sounds desperate. He is young and just starting his career. And if she was that much disciplined in her life, wth was she doing letting him do all this to her. I doubt this. It only sounds like, fine if I cant have you the right way, I am going to go and leave you in trouble.

Crazy chicks. Its irritating to listen to all this crap.
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I agree 100%

I think Rabiya Khan is partly responsible for her daugther's death. Somewhere I read that she used to be a small time actress in Bollywood. Knowing the nature of Bollywood, why would she push her daughter to be an actress? Most women in Bollywood are actresses either for their looks or family connections. It's not a very respectable profession that requires immense talent or years of education. Most of them sleep their way up. Many get involved with married men. I cannot imagine a mother pushing her daughter to be a bollywood actress. Women face worse things everyday. Even in Bollywood, look at the spouses of Amir, Saif, Boney. They have abondoned their wives with children after years of marriage. They have not taken their lives. And who gets involved with Aditya Panscholi's unemployed 22 year old son? That realtionship was doomed to fail from the beginning.

No matter how strong we are there is always that one person/love in our life that can cause us to be so weak. I dont agree w/ what Jiah did but I could understand that feeling of not being able to see the light. When you love someone to that point and he ends up being such a d*bag hurting you endlessly, it becomes really hard. Just wish that she would have been stronger and held on longer to her life as I am sure she would have seen the light later.
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true!! i can understand wht u said completely....
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ME TOOO !!!!!

beyond what people have to say, both families have done, feel etc I wonder what their karma is.
jiah's for taking her life over unrequited love and suraj's for pushing an already emotionally fragile girl to this? will suraj's children suffer for this bad karma 30 yrs down the line? how would karma work in this case? wise answers appreciated

may her soul rest in peace

i see no reason to end the life..there must be something else .. desperate for a guy, i don know why.. this is crazy

I really had tears reading this letter of hers. Girls no matter where u are,who u are and what u are deep inside a womens heart is the same.... poor girl she was hurt to a point where she didn even have a heart or energy to think beyond what she did! may her soul RIP and this suraj shd be put in jail

Before anybody jumping to conclusions, please reread the letter again. Stop being judgmental and bias. Among those words, there are probably worded in metaphors. Example: RAPE. What is a real rape definition? Being submissive of your physical to another just to maintain a relationship is to some girls are RAPE but not to the laws. Probably the regret and guilt afterwards makes her worded that event this way. Stop making statements that is going to make you look like a fool. The only crime Suraj had done which is proven in this letter was being an a-hole, in which I detest too. But Jiah abetted his crime by being delusional of the unhealthy relationship. When I read the letter it reminded me the way I used to be - for what my ex had lead me to be. I was trying to play the victim when the perpetrator of the crime of this heinous crime against my dignity and pride was myself by letting the abuse prolonged. Suraj has had his lessons, regardless of the existence of remorse and guilt in his heart; his capital punishment was the blame the world pinned on him for Jiah's death. This is being inked in most of the websites everywhere.

why did you leave dis world for dis stupid guy....tears in my eyes,feel like crying..

I agree totally ..

Jiah wanted a commitment but suraj has not started his career ... Suraj or ny other guy wud do th same .. Avoid her

Jiahs mom jus let go .... Jiah has gone

Mon, 2013-06-10 18:44 — Anonymous

Why should Suraj be hung ? What has he done here that proves he is guilty. She sounds desperate. He is young and just starting his career. And if she was that much disciplined in her life, wth was she doing letting him do all this to her. I doubt this. It only sounds like, fine if I cant have you the right way, I am going to go and leave you in trouble.

Crazy chicks. Its irritating to listen to all this crap.

suraj pancholii should be punished ...

Everyone it's not about you. Let the girl rest now, BLAMING her is not going to bring her back. If you have nothing better to say, then keep your opinion to yourself. JUDGING HER must make you feel better about yourself. GOD, some people are just horrendous. SHE IS GONE, JUST RESPECT HER AT LEAST.

Suraj Pancholi deserves to be thrown in prison or death penalty for his crimes. India WILL ALWAYS BE a 3rd world shithole as long as individuals like him are left unpunished by society. Apparently he raped her, and this is inexcusable, therefore he must pay the price.

No matter how strong we are there is always that one person/love in our life that can cause us to be so weak. I dont agree w/ what Jiah did but I could understand that feeling of not being able to see the light. When you love someone to that point and he ends up being such a d*bag hurting you endlessly, it becomes really hard. Just wish that she would have been stronger and held on longer to her life as I am sure she would have seen the light later.
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true!! i can understand wht u said completely....

Firstly, sad circumstances leading to death of such a pretty girl. Indeed very very sad and only IF someone would have been there to help her, understand her and help her out of this miserable situation she was going through.
Life throws on you unbeknownst challenges- physical, mental, emotional - its the source of help that gives you the strength to move on.
->Here Jiah certainly and without a doubt was depressed and was in a bad phase of her love life.
-> Suraj was in his own way bundled up in the circumstances of youth and bloody mistakes.
-> There is no right or wrong reasons for the things that happen. Its how you deal with it. Its about giving each other space and letting go. Jiah had trouble with that - because she loved him so much to the point that she killed herself. God bless her soul ! She was 'abused' 'hit' 'raped' 'mistreated' -is not ANY girl deserves. NO one has the right to treat someone that way !
I only wish there was someone there to help her.... someone....
Its very easy to judge other but this is harsh !
However, having said this - I being a girl would hate and feel harassed & emotionally tortured if a guy expected too much out of me. Expected something out of every favour he did to me - to a point stalk, threaten to kill himself, go love-mad, do subtle yet crazy things. It is hard to deal with such heavy emotionally depressed people. I guess Suraj needed help too- to deal with all this before it went all wrong !

Well I agree that Suraj pancholi should not be given trail on potrayal by media or on our views.. We are no one to judge either Jiah or Suraj or their story. However, it is sad to know that this world of glamour is such a lonely place. Even when she her motivation was so low, she didnt have any friend to confide to or share her pain. I feel much secure than her being nobody as I can easily relate to anyone in crowd.

Suraj on the other hand, offcourse has right to choose his values of life and Jiah might not be fitting in his grand plans of life,however, the point she was pregnant with his baby and she submission that "You promised me once we made it to one year we would get engaged" does not seems to be lie about breach of trust.. It reflects that Suraj has taken physically advantage of her being lonely n insecure. Offcourse, that's not illegal but deplorable. I am not a Saint myself but if I would be, I would have codemned his soul to 1000 years of Jiah's life.

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Very well said.............

i agree to it

so sad yar while reading this I have tears in my eyes but jiah before doing this all I wish if once u would think about your sister and your mother u ended your life for a selfish person who ignored your love and same u did with your sis and mother u also ignored them and ended your life. wish you were alive and said that all staright to his face and revenged him wid a better life.There are other ways to punish someone you love.. and one way is by showing them that you can be happy and successful even without them in your arms. May ALLAH PAK rest your soul.!! Its Heartbreaking :(

Well I agree that Suraj pancholi should not be given trail on potrayal by media or on our views.. We are no one to judge either Jiah or Suraj or their story. However, it is sad to know that this world of glamour is such a lonely place. Even when she her motivation was so low, she didnt have any friend to confide to or share her pain. I feel much secure than her being nobody as I can easily relate to anyone in crowd.

Suraj on the other hand, offcourse has right to choose his values of life and Jiah might not be fitting in his grand plans of life,however, the point she was pregnant with his baby and she submission that "You promised me once we made it to one year we would get engaged" does not seems to be lie about breach of trust.. It reflects that Suraj has taken physically advantage of her being lonely n insecure. Offcourse, that's not illegal but deplorable. I am not a Saint myself but if I would be, I would have codemned his soul to 1000 years of Jiah's life.

Well I agree that Suraj pancholi should not be given trail on potrayal by media or on our views.. We are no one to judge either Jiah or Suraj or their story. However, it is sad to know that this world of glamour is such a lonely place. Even when she her motivation was so low, she didnt have any friend to confide to or share her pain. I feel much secure than her being nobody as I can easily relate to anyone in crowd.

Suraj on the other hand, offcourse has right to choose his values of life and Jiah might not be fitting in his grand plans of life, however, the point she was pregnant with his baby and she submission that "You promised me once we made it to one year we would get engaged" does not seems to be lie about breach of trust.. It reflects that Suraj has taken physically advantage of her being lonely n insecure. Offcourse, that's not illegal but deplorable. I am not a Saint myself but if I would be, I would have codemned his soul to 1000 years of Jiah's life.

R.I.P Jiah!

Its sad that she thought she would give her life up for some scum bag ,, who got her pregnant and got her aborted.. who treated her like crap and she kept going back to him .. love is definitely a painful thing but for GODS SAKE ... dont give your life some shit in yor life! walk away and keep ur head up and live and thts hows u shud live ..

sorry to see such a talented girl goo.. if it was me i will hold him partly responsible for her death...

sjk

Why should Suraj be hung ? What has he done here that proves he is guilty. She sounds desperate. He is young and just starting his career. And if she was that much disciplined in her life, wth was she doing letting him do all this to her. I doubt this. It only sounds like, fine if I cant have you the right way, I am going to go and leave you in trouble.

Crazy chicks. Its irritating to listen to all this crap.

Re anonymous, I am not one of Suraj's friends :) The first I heard about him was through this terrible incident ... I just wanted to highlight that the contents of the letter are open to interpretation. Reading back on my post I could have worded it better and shortened it considerably, it comes across as harsh, which was not my initention (I wrote it in response to some very harsh criticism, but that's no excuse). Jiah was obviously in a bad place when she wrote this letter and I just didn't understand why so many people were using its contents to base an opinion on a situation they knew nothing about.

Like everyone else, I don't know anything about their relationship or what anyone was going through. It could be that he was abusing her or he wasn't - the main thing I was trying to highlight is that we don't know and we should not be basing our opinion on this letter and we certainly should not be condemning another person.

It is also uncomfortable to see the comments blaming Jiah. As some have rightly pointed out, only someone who has been through depression themselves knows how difficult it can be to deal with. Yes, everyone suffers problems, relationship issues etc but we all deal with things differently and depression is not something that can be controlled easily.

This is a very sad incident and unfortunately from the time the news was released everyone has been looking for someone to blame. The Bollywood industry; Katrina(!); Suraj; his dad; her family; Jiah herself. All this when none of us have any idea of what was going on.

My sympathies lie with Jiah and those who loved her and are truly affected by her loss.

Jiah was a perfect example of what a woman should not be, period.

In life, stories always has 2 sides, 2 versions and sometimes 2 truths.
Please consider these points before judging someone.
Anyways, Rest in Peace Jiah.

Fishy Fishy Fishy.
Aditya and Jiah's mom were dining together, the night she died.
They both moved in the same circles.
Suraj was 22 , practically a child. A spoilt rotten one At that.
Jiah seem like she was smitten by him.
What was the mother doing whe all this happened.
Her mom pushed her to stardom, she wanted Jiah to be star, because she was B grade fallen actress.

Pinkvilla please publish this.

I feel suraj is innocent. 21 yr olds are like that. Did we know the meaning of commitment when we were 21. Its 2013. Break ups are common. if a girl decides to end her life then its not the guys fault. Regarding the letter - i read it completely different. to me jia sounds like a possessive gf.

ok everyone so lets just blame the girl for killing herself? youre all clueless people. she was depressed, she was sad, and if you haven't ever been depressed in your life you do not understand her position. sure, she had her flaws, but no one deserves to die and it takes a really scary demon inside of you to force you to kill yourself. so although she was semi crazy, her husband/boyfriend didn't make it any easier and i, in fact, believe this man doesn't deserve to be legitimately punished but he should feel as though he didn't do her the justice of being a kind loving boyfriend or whatever he was to her. he should have left her and allowed her to mend her broken heart rather than tear it up further with his bad self.
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u said it she was depressed. Plus she was obsessed. She wanted to marry a 21yr old?? do u understand that. Thats like a child marriage. just because she committed suicide doesnt mean she was right. Her mother is all over media now. where was she when she needed her?

No matter how strong we are there is always that one person/love in our life that can cause us to be so weak. I dont agree w/ what Jiah did but I could understand that feeling of not being able to see the light. When you love someone to that point and he ends up being such a d*bag hurting you endlessly, it becomes really hard. Just wish that she would have been stronger and held on longer to her life as I am sure she would have seen the light later.

omg suraj should be hung

Now that I've re-read the letter, I'm beginning to see another side to this story. Jiah( may her soul rest in peace) sounded like a very possessive and very obsessive person whose entire world revolved around Suraj. He might have hurt her emotionally a lot, but she made that possible when she still stayed with him even after all the supposed evidence that he was a douchebag. Please, no girl should be that clingy to her boyfriend. To me, she seemed like someone who didn't love herself which was why she measured her self worth through Suraj's eyes. When Suraj then turned out to be an a-hole, her whole world came crumbling down.
As much as Suraj was the major factor that caused her death, Jiah was the main villain. There're many homeless, hunger stricken girls out there who don't have hope of a better life tomorrow yet I don't see them hanging themselves. Ladies, please don't give anybody that much power to control or rule your emotions like that. Don't ever make anyone make you feel worthless. Love yourself the way you are.
And finally, PLEASE suicide is definitely not the answer to your problems cos you'll just end up hurting your loved ones and the world will still move on without you. Rest in peace Jiah.

ok everyone so lets just blame the girl for killing herself? youre all clueless people. she was depressed, she was sad, and if you haven't ever been depressed in your life you do not understand her position. sure, she had her flaws, but no one deserves to die and it takes a really scary demon inside of you to force you to kill yourself. so although she was semi crazy, her husband/boyfriend didn't make it any easier and i, in fact, believe this man doesn't deserve to be legitimately punished but he should feel as though he didn't do her the justice of being a kind loving boyfriend or whatever he was to her. he should have left her and allowed her to mend her broken heart rather than tear it up further with his bad self.

ok everyone so lets just blame the girl for killing herself? youre all weak people. she was depressed, she was sad, and if you haven't ever been depressed in your life you do not understand her position. sure, she had her flaws, but no one deserves to die and it takes a really scary demon inside of you to force you to kill yourself. so although she was semi crazy, her husband/boyfriend didn't make it any easier and i, in fact, believe this man doesn't deserve to be legitimately punished but he should feel as though he didn't do her the justice of being a kind loving boyfriend or whatever the hell he was to her. he should have left her and allowed her to mend her broken heart rather than tear it up further with his shitty self.

this is the exact same thing my mom goes through and it is the hardest thing to watch her endure such pain

It so easy to blame a person so easy..to be fair everyone should look at their faults you cant just pin something on one person.. If her family knew about how unhappy she was in the relationship they should of encouraged her to leave him and supported her not let her be with him. I don't understand that at all.. At the end of the day every famous people have problems of their own everyone in the world does but when they are on camera its a different story and fans think they happy they have perfect life.. no one in this world has a perfect life even the most richest...
Its saddening that jiah ended her life it is.. but why commit suicide for a person who she briefly knew and jiah family why didn't they stand by her why didn't they leave Mumbai and have a fresh start to get help jiah... Everyone close to jiah in my opinion had a part to play one person should not get the blame. I know jiah mum said it wernt because of depression but it clearly was as she was in a dark place... with a miserable love life which lead to depression.x at the end of the day this should be a time for everyone in jiah life to come together not bicker and pin blames.. pray and put differences aside an eye opener for everyone... I hope jiah soul is at peace and I hope everything becomes less difficult for jiah family and I hope jiah boyfriend in the future does not mistreat or hurt anyone

@Mon, 2013-06-10 11:53 — Anonymous
Here we go again. Why do men like to play victims? I see comments on youtube all the time with men whining about double standards and everything. Women didn't create double standards that exist between men and women, men did. Men also created religion to suppress women, Islam is a clear example of that. No offense to Muslims. The stats of the amount of women being abused by men is much, much higher than the number of men abused by women especially in a country like India which is being called one of the worst places to be a woman. Men are not the ones paying dowry women are. Men are not the ones being burned alive and abused/tortured by their in-laws for not being able to pay dowry, women are. Men are not the ones being raped on public transportations like that poor innocent Delhi rape victim. They're not being sexually harassed on the streets like women. They are not aborted before they are even born like girls. They are not treated like lower class the way women are by their own families. There's a strong male child preference that exists in India. Men have it easier not only in India, but all around the world. Even in the west rape cases are ignored & women are paid less than men for the same jobs. Even homophobia, the hatred against homosexuals of your own gender, transsexuals, etc. men have created it. Hate to sound like a hardcore feminist, but its true. PV, please post. And this is not meant to defend Jiah or malign Suraj. It's in response to some Anonymous.

Just love who you are and surround yourself with positive people. Its important to let your family help you. RIP

No one is responsible for your life than your own self. If someone else destroys your peace it means you never had it in the first place. RIP

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Looks like Suraj sent one of his fiends to speak for him :).

Nobody's saying the letter is an objective account of their relationship, but it's a fact that the letter is a reflection of her state of mind and what may have prompted her to take such a drastic step.

I think everyone needs to realize that Jiah had a lot of emotional baggage, it's unfair to pin her suicide on Suraj. He messed up big time and I hope what he takes away from this incident is to treat women with respect and care. And if you aren't seeing a future with your current gf, break up!

This is a very sensitive issue. It is very unfortunate that Jiah’s mother has published this letter of such private accounts in what appears to be an attempt to defame Sujal and Aditya (even though there is nothing in the letter which involves the latter). Like everyone else, I have absolutely no idea of what was going on but from the letter it seems that Jiah was possibly suffering from victim mentality and an obsessive and insecure personality. The only reason that I am writing these comments because when one really looks at what it is in the letter it seems to come down to a case of one person not reciprocating another’s feelings. It is a shame that so many people are condemning someone without knowing what the real situation was. What is clear, however, is that Jiah was not in a healthy state of mind and in this condition, how far we can trust her version of events is open to debate. My aim is not to criticize Jiah in any way, it is obvious that she was going through a very difficult period and her writing is a reflection of that. The question is how far was Sujal really to blame for the difficult situation that she was in and does anyone have any right to condemn him, wish that he rots in hell and pray for the destruction of his career without knowing the answer to this question?

In the letter Jiah blames him or wants him to feel guilty for everything that has gone wrong in her past, present and is about to go wrong in her future. There is an indication that she was suffering from victim mentality. He was not responsible for any abuse she suffered in the past but she is trying to make him feel guilty about that. She mentions that she became increasingly scared that he WOULD hurt her mentally or physically – she is trying to make him feel guilty about something he hasn’t even done yet.

She goes on about everything she has done for him, laying constant guilt trips on him in the process. She talks about giving him gifts or looking beautiful for him as if she has done him a favour and he owes her something. She even mentions giving gifts to his sister. Additionally, she talks about her choice of being intimate with him as being a favour or a sacrifice. Everything in the letter is about what SHE gave and what SHE wanted. It appears that if he did not go along with what she wanted it meant that he was selfish.

She goes on about the ‘abuse’ he inflicted on her but the only specific examples she mentions are about him ruining her birthday and Christmas dinner. Re the cheating, there is a strong indication that she felt jealous and insecure by his partying and complimenting other women. She does not mention any specific examples of him cheating, stating that she received a message about him cheating. Someone who is blaming another person for everything that has gone wrong in their past, present and will go wrong in the future would surely mention specific examples of cheating if they had any. She does mention problems caused in their relationship when she tried to make him jealous or teach him a lesson by faking a relationship or something along those lines with another man. Again, this is HIS fault.

Stating that no other woman will give as much as she did is the sign of a possessive/controlling person. She is even willing to write it in her BLOOD. She mentions that she always wished the best for him, was ready to invest in his betterment. Apparently she had decided what was best for him and that he needed to be bettered and he needed her to do it.

She says that things were looking up for her in her career but now she is giving up and it is his fault. It is known that things had not been going well in her career and this was not his fault.

His life was about partying and women. Hers was him and her work. It seems that he had a life outside the relationship. Her career was not going well and it could have been that he became an object of her obsession. He might have thrown her out of his house but anyone can react like that when it comes to obsession – the fact that she ran after his car while he was driving away says a lot.

She dreamt of their future and their success. She had decided that they were going to have a life together and what kind of a life it would be. Maybe he had mentioned to her that they would get engaged. Maybe he had even meant it. But circumstances and feelings change, as everyone who has been in a relationship knows.

In writing about this issue, I am not taking sides, I am just encouraging people to look at her letter and really think about whether it can be taken as an objective account of their relationship.
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true. This is what i thought too. People are unnecessarily jumping to conclusions. Suraj will be out soon.

This is a very sensitive issue. It is very unfortunate that Jiah’s mother has published this letter of such private accounts in what appears to be an attempt to defame Sujal and Aditya (even though there is nothing in the letter which involves the latter). Like everyone else, I have absolutely no idea of what was going on but from the letter it seems that Jiah was possibly suffering from victim mentality and an obsessive and insecure personality. The only reason that I am writing these comments because when one really looks at what it is in the letter it seems to come down to a case of one person not reciprocating another’s feelings. It is a shame that so many people are condemning someone without knowing what the real situation was. What is clear, however, is that Jiah was not in a healthy state of mind and in this condition, how far we can trust her version of events is open to debate. My aim is not to criticize Jiah in any way, it is obvious that she was going through a very difficult period and her writing is a reflection of that. The question is how far was Sujal really to blame for the difficult situation that she was in and does anyone have any right to condemn him, wish that he rots in hell and pray for the destruction of his career without knowing the answer to this question?

In the letter Jiah blames him or wants him to feel guilty for everything that has gone wrong in her past, present and is about to go wrong in her future. There is an indication that she was suffering from victim mentality. He was not responsible for any abuse she suffered in the past but she is trying to make him feel guilty about that. She mentions that she became increasingly scared that he WOULD hurt her mentally or physically – she is trying to make him feel guilty about something he hasn’t even done yet.

She goes on about everything she has done for him, laying constant guilt trips on him in the process. She talks about giving him gifts or looking beautiful for him as if she has done him a favour and he owes her something. She even mentions giving gifts to his sister. Additionally, she talks about her choice of being intimate with him as being a favour or a sacrifice. Everything in the letter is about what SHE gave and what SHE wanted. It appears that if he did not go along with what she wanted it meant that he was selfish.

She goes on about the ‘abuse’ he inflicted on her but the only specific examples she mentions are about him ruining her birthday and Christmas dinner. Re the cheating, there is a strong indication that she felt jealous and insecure by his partying and complimenting other women. She does not mention any specific examples of him cheating, stating that she received a message about him cheating. Someone who is blaming another person for everything that has gone wrong in their past, present and will go wrong in the future would surely mention specific examples of cheating if they had any. She does mention problems caused in their relationship when she tried to make him jealous or teach him a lesson by faking a relationship or something along those lines with another man. Again, this is HIS fault.

Stating that no other woman will give as much as she did is the sign of a possessive/controlling person. She is even willing to write it in her BLOOD. She mentions that she always wished the best for him, was ready to invest in his betterment. Apparently she had decided what was best for him and that he needed to be bettered and he needed her to do it.

She says that things were looking up for her in her career but now she is giving up and it is his fault. It is known that things had not been going well in her career and this was not his fault.

His life was about partying and women. Hers was him and her work. It seems that he had a life outside the relationship. Her career was not going well and it could have been that he became an object of her obsession. He might have thrown her out of his house but anyone can react like that when it comes to obsession – the fact that she ran after his car while he was driving away says a lot.

She dreamt of their future and their success. She had decided that they were going to have a life together and what kind of a life it would be. Maybe he had mentioned to her that they would get engaged. Maybe he had even meant it. But circumstances and feelings change, as everyone who has been in a relationship knows.

In writing about this issue, I am not taking sides, I am just encouraging people to look at her letter and really think about whether it can be taken as an objective account of their relationship.
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100% agree with you. There are always two sides of the story. she was obsessed for sure.

His life was about partying and women. Hers was him and her work. It seems that he had a life outside the relationship. Her career was not going well and it could have been that he became an object of her obsession. He might have thrown her out of his house but anyone can react like that when it comes to obsession – the fact that she ran after his car while he was driving away says a lot.
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Guys there are two sides of the story...i so agree with the anon...she was insecure for sure.

I really hope he is out soon n this drama is over. Rabiyaji is blaming him wrongly. I dont find him guilty. A 22 yrd old dint like a chipku gf so he broke up...nthng new in today's life.

She goes on about the ‘abuse’ he inflicted on her but the only specific examples she mentions are about him ruining her birthday and Christmas dinner. Re the cheating, there is a strong indication that she felt jealous and insecure by his partying and complimenting other women. She does not mention any specific examples of him cheating, stating that she received a message about him cheating. Someone who is blaming another person for everything that has gone wrong in their past, present and will go wrong in the future would surely mention specific examples of cheating if they had any. She does mention problems caused in their relationship when she tried to make him jealous or teach him a lesson by faking a relationship or something along those lines with another man. Again, this is HIS fault.
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so so true. I dont find suraj guilty. He should be out pretty soon.

Dear Rabiya Khan.

What has happened is due to depression and low self esteem. I hope you are able to educate yourself on this. Every word in her letter shows the above. I have been in a similair place and now look back and realise the fault was less with the person who cheated me but more with my family.

I attempted suicide too and if I had died my family would forever blame him - the guy was just behaving his age (and yes he didn't have great ethics or morality) but you know better how the norm this is. In your emotions you have let out your daughter's deepest feelings to the world.

My family was not supportive, didn't understand what mental illness/depression is about. They didn't understand PTSD and how things like Jiah's past abuse/rape resulted in very low self-esteem. Her letter shows to you her emphasis on giving and receiving gifts - hardly reasons to be started in a suicide note.

You are going through grief beyond imagination, loosing a child and all sorts of reaction is expected from you. In the same way Rabiya Ji please try take blame out of the situation and educate yourself better on depression - so this does not repeat with any other child.

Anti-depressants work miracles and Jiah's state reminds me of my own - unable to wake up, eat, walk - I thought it was the pain of loosing the one I loved...till I took medications and realised the pain will remain the depression gets so much better.

Please also realise that the medical reality is that you and your daughters and any other closed members are at high risk of suicide in the next one year because of the tragedy. Please please seek medical help for yourself and others who were close to your gorgeous daughter.

so she wanted to get engaged to a 21yr old...common y would a guy settle down when he is just 21...her mother should have told her that....its common sense that a 21 yr old would love partying n going around...
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thats what i cant digest...y dint her mom tell her that a 22 yrs old wont settle so soon. If he was abusing her and then y dint she tell her to stop seeing him. Something is wrong. I feel Rabiyaji is hiding something n just putting the blame on the guy.

so she wanted to get engaged to a 21yr old...common y would a guy settle down when he is just 21...her mother should have told her that....its common sense that a 21 yr old would love partying n going around...
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The guys nasty character has nothing to do with her suicidal, she shud have been wise enough to end the relationship with this guy and lead a better life. Rather than choosing to stick on to him, make her life miserable and take a terrible yet foolish decision of committing suicide. Whats the use of revealing this letter. Its not his mistake, there are many men who has similar lifestyles. She should have moved on without him.

Btw people just to open up ur eyes a lil bit more, almost 90% of the women are abused by their men and almost 80% of them keep going back to those same aholes that beat them up.
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ell we all know how many women are abused by men but do you know the number of men being abused by women both physically and mentally, its as high as the women's stats. Women hit men too its a fact.

@Mon, 2013-06-10 11:12 — Anonymous

u summed it pretty well.....a few thing here or there i wudnt agree but on the whole agreed...we cant judge a whole relation based on a emotional outburst penned by a person in not a very sane moment in her private space which sadly now is a public property..there r always two sides to a story...

I am not commenting on Suraj because only the two of them know what happened between them. but from her letter it appears he was a playboy but he is only 22 and let's be totally honest , forgetting Jiah's case, What guy at 22 wants to get engaged or married? Actually most guys in India are in college at 22. I will not comment on he was as a person because I had been in a similar case with a guy who had several issues with his family/social life, he use to blame me for everything and tell me he will commit suicide if I try to leave him. The day I finally did he cut his wrists and was admitted to the hospital,thankfully he is alive but after that he harassed me/my friends/my brother for 3 long years! And talked about how I was an extremely bad woman to EVERYONE he knows and I know just because I left him(brokeup) And believe me I have done nothing, nothing at all to him. Now after 6 yrs that person is finally married and I am so glad ! So unless you know both sides of the story, never comment on the relationship.

exactly
She had tried to commit suicide before and failed in it and there was a high chance that she will try it again,my point is there should be somebody to keep an eye on her and she should not have been left alone in the first place , unfortunately she became successfull in the second attempt . Why did'nt they seek help when she first attempted it? there is a lot of question that's still need to be answered
Her death Scandal is getting murkier and murkier ..
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i wish her mother n family had done something for her...but its pointless now..there r alwaz two sides to every story....if dat guy is a douche she was no where near being sane......her suicide was a loud cry for attention for some1 to rescue her....n a 22 yr old guy cud hv never been dat emotional support.redundant to discuss all dis now though....:(

aditya and his son both are nasty

VERY VERY SAD

jiah was totally obsessed with him,he didnt care one bit about her feelings she was getting too clingy some guys hate girls being too clingy so maybe he abused her to get her off his back plus suraj is a guy who dont want love or maybe commited to one girl jiah took it all to heart got depressed and killed herself and for girls thinking of dating these kind of idiots please think twice

This is a very sensitive issue. It is very unfortunate that Jiah’s mother has published this letter of such private accounts in what appears to be an attempt to defame Sujal and Aditya (even though there is nothing in the letter which involves the latter). Like everyone else, I have absolutely no idea of what was going on but from the letter it seems that Jiah was possibly suffering from victim mentality and an obsessive and insecure personality. The only reason that I am writing these comments because when one really looks at what it is in the letter it seems to come down to a case of one person not reciprocating another’s feelings. It is a shame that so many people are condemning someone without knowing what the real situation was. What is clear, however, is that Jiah was not in a healthy state of mind and in this condition, how far we can trust her version of events is open to debate. My aim is not to criticize Jiah in any way, it is obvious that she was going through a very difficult period and her writing is a reflection of that. The question is how far was Sujal really to blame for the difficult situation that she was in and does anyone have any right to condemn him, wish that he rots in hell and pray for the destruction of his career without knowing the answer to this question?

In the letter Jiah blames him or wants him to feel guilty for everything that has gone wrong in her past, present and is about to go wrong in her future. There is an indication that she was suffering from victim mentality. He was not responsible for any abuse she suffered in the past but she is trying to make him feel guilty about that. She mentions that she became increasingly scared that he WOULD hurt her mentally or physically – she is trying to make him feel guilty about something he hasn’t even done yet.

She goes on about everything she has done for him, laying constant guilt trips on him in the process. She talks about giving him gifts or looking beautiful for him as if she has done him a favour and he owes her something. She even mentions giving gifts to his sister. Additionally, she talks about her choice of being intimate with him as being a favour or a sacrifice. Everything in the letter is about what SHE gave and what SHE wanted. It appears that if he did not go along with what she wanted it meant that he was selfish.

She goes on about the ‘abuse’ he inflicted on her but the only specific examples she mentions are about him ruining her birthday and Christmas dinner. Re the cheating, there is a strong indication that she felt jealous and insecure by his partying and complimenting other women. She does not mention any specific examples of him cheating, stating that she received a message about him cheating. Someone who is blaming another person for everything that has gone wrong in their past, present and will go wrong in the future would surely mention specific examples of cheating if they had any. She does mention problems caused in their relationship when she tried to make him jealous or teach him a lesson by faking a relationship or something along those lines with another man. Again, this is HIS fault.

Stating that no other woman will give as much as she did is the sign of a possessive/controlling person. She is even willing to write it in her BLOOD. She mentions that she always wished the best for him, was ready to invest in his betterment. Apparently she had decided what was best for him and that he needed to be bettered and he needed her to do it.

She says that things were looking up for her in her career but now she is giving up and it is his fault. It is known that things had not been going well in her career and this was not his fault.

His life was about partying and women. Hers was him and her work. It seems that he had a life outside the relationship. Her career was not going well and it could have been that he became an object of her obsession. He might have thrown her out of his house but anyone can react like that when it comes to obsession – the fact that she ran after his car while he was driving away says a lot.

She dreamt of their future and their success. She had decided that they were going to have a life together and what kind of a life it would be. Maybe he had mentioned to her that they would get engaged. Maybe he had even meant it. But circumstances and feelings change, as everyone who has been in a relationship knows.

In writing about this issue, I am not taking sides, I am just encouraging people to look at her letter and really think about whether it can be taken as an objective account of their relationship.

Girls like to be with guys like Suraj.It's not his fault that she died.He would do it to every girl who would come to him.Girls should be more careful while making boyfriends.All they need is good looks and money.

I think the family is in denial. She wanted to marry a guy 22 yrs old??? M i getting it right?? and that rape line means different to me. May be she had suffered all this before meeting suraj. U cant say for sure that suraj did this.

She wanted to be engaged to a 21 yr old guy who was not serious about the relationship. He wanted to break up with her but she kept calling him ... She has deep issues, her family is in denial.
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i completely agree...people down commenting dont realize that society is full of such men...y would a 21 yr old get married. Her mother should have told her to concentrate on career. Its not suraj's fault according to me. No guy this young would settle down. She should have not gone back to him if he was abusing her.

so she wanted to get engaged to a 21yr old...common y would a guy settle down when he is just 21...her mother should have told her that....its common sense that a 21 yr old would love partying n going around...

Wed, 2012-10-31 13:07 — Anonymous

yikes, she better beware. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree !
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This comment was posted not even a year ago. About An article Of Jiah and Suraj, and 8 months later Jiah Commited Sucide. It saddens me greatly, may she rest in Peace.

She wanted to be engaged to a 21 yr old guy who was not serious about the relationship. He wanted to break up with her but she kept calling him ... She has deep issues, her family is in denial.

RIP Jiah. Why did not she return back to London? Suraj Pancholi should be hanged.

Btw people just to open up ur eyes a lil bit more, almost 90% of the women are abused by their men and almost 80% of them keep going back to those same aholes that beat them up. I think thats coz they say they dont wanna be controlled without realizing that they actually like being controlled. Women, please dont sit there being tortured by ur men coz at the end of the day, the truth is they dont love i, they just love haveing a follower who puts up with his bullshit and comes back over and o er again to be their punching bag. That is not love. True love dont know no abuse, physical or emotional.

like father like son.....just very sad

Common guys Suraj didn't ask her to end her life...he was surely a womanizer but to blame him is wrong...y did jia go back to him again n again? She tried ending her life in feb so y dint her mother took her to some professional? It's jia's fault too..going back to that crazy again n again...

Some men are so deceitful. I feel so bad for Jiah. She reminds me of my closest friend who was raped by her boyfriend's friend, someone she trusted, saw as family and knew for 8 years. Sometimes even if you know a person for long it doesn't matter. It is hard to know when a guy is genuine and when he is sinister. I feel so bad for Jiah. May she rest in peace. She didnot have to undergo so much of suffering. If only someone had provided her with support when she needed it. God bless her soul. I cannot explain how sad I am by this incident since it reminds me of the suffering my own friend underwent.

this is really sad!!

It was honestly 60% her own doing. Sure, he's a douchebag, and what he did wasnt right, but she kept going back to him. She probably knows some reaaly nice guys who would treat her like a queen, but she ignores them and chases this idiot.if you mess with a bull youll get the horns.
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Totally agree..

Suraj Pancholi arrested! Serves him right for mistreating a woman and driving her to death.

RIP Jiah, pray to god that you will get justice. Poor soul, how much you had to suffer. May you find peace wherever you are and this Pancholi chap lives in hell on earth.

RIP Jiah :'(

R.I.p this is really sad !! may angles take care of u

Poor Jiah can't imagine what she went through, her mother must be in so much pain not knowing her daughter when through this much n couldn't do anything about it n now it too late )= I wish she didn't take her life 4 a worthless jerk, I also heard some where when aditya pancholi was dating kangana ranaut he admitted abusing her.. like father like son both losers !

It was honestly 60% her own doing. Sure, he's a douchebag, and what he did wasnt right, but she kept going back to him. She probably knows some reaaly nice guys who would treat her like a queen, but she ignores them and chases this idiot.if you mess with a bull youll get the horns.

may allah bless her

Wow. What a family. Aditya with all abuse with kangana and Suraj with jiah.

It so easy to blame a person so easy..to be fair everyone should look at their faults you cant just pin something on one person.. If her family knew about how unhappy she was in the relationship they should of encouraged her to leave him and supported her not let her be with him. I don't understand that at all.. At the end of the day every famous people have problems of their own everyone in the world does but when they are on camera its a different story and fans think they happy they have perfect life.. no one in this world has a perfect life even the most richest...
Its saddening that jiah ended her life it is.. but why commit suicide for a person who she briefly knew and jiah family why didn't they stand by her why didn't they leave Mumbai and have a fresh start to get help jiah... Everyone close to jiah in my opinion had a part to play one person should not get the blame. I know jiah mum said it wernt because of depression but it clearly was as she was in a dark place... with a miserable love life which lead to depression.x at the end of the day this should be a time for everyone in jiah life to come together not bicker and pin blames.. pray and put differences aside an eye opener for everyone... I hope jiah soul is at peace and I hope everything becomes less difficult for jiah family and I hope jiah boyfriend in the future does not mistreat or hurt anyone.

This poor girl was chasing the love of her absentee Indian dad. I wish she could have read all of her messages before she did something so terrible. Her boyfriend was a no good loser and her being from London, she should have been the wiser. Unfortunately you can't always help what monster you fall in love with. RIP+love Jiah.

Its sad she took her life instead of making him suffer! I wish she gets justice! Rip jiah! Xx

SALMAN, IF YOU HAVE ANY SHRED OF DECENCY OR DIGNITY YOU WOULD NOT LAUNCH THIS GUY. YOU CLAIM TO BE PERSON IN THE INDUSTRY WITH A BIG HEART, SO YOU SHOULD DO THE RIGHT THING!

Leave her alone...let her RIP...why you guys are torturing the death..

Mon, 2013-06-10 01:49 — toobored

all i get reading dis letter is dat she needed help from her near n dear ones n also professional counselling...there clearly were a lot of hidden skeletons in her closet.wat i really dont get is hw no one understood her mental traumas...
n as much as we like to make dis suraj dude d villain well if not him there wud hv been someone else...granted he was a douchebag but he isnt d reason for all d mess.he was just a catalyst who further aggravated the already messed up situation.

exactly
She had tried to commit suicide before and failed in it and there was a high chance that she will try it again,my point is there should be somebody to keep an eye on her and she should not have been left alone in the first place , unfortunately she became successfull in the second attempt . Why did'nt they seek help when she first attempted it? there is a lot of question that's still need to be answered
Her death Scandal is getting murkier and murkier .

I totally agree with what Mystique has said. We truly are emotional fools. We are blinded by the wrong men. I am speaking from experience. I KNEW he didn't care about me, I KNEW he was lying to me literally every weekend that he was at work when I'd find pictures of him clubbing on fb, I KNEW he cheated on me with solid evidence but I CHOSE to be blind and gave him another chance. I would cry for him like a maniac too. I was insane. Really. I was mad about him. It was ridiculous. I mean I KNEW he was lying to me. On my face. But for some reason, I chose to carry on for another year. An entire year of lies. Until I finally had the courage to end things with him. Had it not been for my friend, I probably would've take longer.

For me, I went into depression for 2 months when the lies, cheating, verbal abuse was at it's peak. I couldn't handle the fact that someone could cheat on ME. and lie to ME. when I gave them so much love. It hurt my ego. It hurt something inside of me. And think Jiah felt that way too, from what I gather from her message. And the abortion. That was mental trauma.

I wish you would've walked out of this abusive relationship, and stayed strong for just a while longer Jiah. Life has it's extreme lows, I know. But, after every every dusk there IS a dawn. I wish you could draw strength from the pain he gave you. You would have come back stronger and risen higher. You could've shown him what a fool he was to give up on you. That would've been the biggest slap on his face. You could've shown him what he missed out on, what he lost. I wish you could have :'(

Rest in peace, dear Jiah.

This is more like thoughts written in a diary. If meant for Sooraj why would Jia still have it? Too bad the mother is making a mockery out of her daughter's death. Please show respect for your daughter & respect her thoughts. You are gaining nothing by being vengeful. And no one can be held responsible for taking ones own life.

So sad....whatever the circumstances the mother should have respected her daughter's privacy...

Suraj i hate u so so
Much

We all go through this with the wrong men at younger ages. Luckily, some of us come out of it living and some others fall prey like Jiya. Guys like him are everywhere. I am hoping that today's younger generation of girls is much smarter and aware of their choices and what they deserve. Don't become BLIND in love. Observe and make your choice. Our self-esteem isn't written by someone else. Clearly, when he wasn't in love (all his actions or lack of actions pointed to it), why didn't Jiah just walk away from him. We cannot force anyone to love us. He wasn't able to. And even Jiah was young so it is what it is. I don't expect anything better from most 22 yr old guys. That's like a baby who hasn't seen the world or grown to realize things. People should avoid getting into relationships at such young ages. Inanycase, it is destiny. Some are just lucky to learn from their experiences and mistakes and continue on with life with more wisdom.

Suraj Pancholi is detained by Mumbai police today 10 th June 2013. Now be happy.

poor jiah, she should have shared with her mom and face the issues man to man!

sad to see so little self confidence from a girl who was loved by so many...

You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter
and she was too obsessively in love and blinded by a man with a narcissistic personality.......Happiness is to love and to be loved..and she will never know.!

Jiah committing suicide was soo not worth for such a bastard!!

Rip jiah will pray for you dear

now the suraj loser will get support from sallu bhai and suniel shetty to further his career
they will throw him at us on tv channels day after day month after month to white wash his image into making him an innocent guy

rip jiah :'(
the best revenge would have been for jiah to move back to london and re start her life and find a good bf she was just too damaged for it
i hope the justice system and karma take care of suraj and the d**che clan

Her personal letter should have not been shown to the whole world

Shocking and very personal details revealed in this letter. OK I get her mother wants people to know the true colours of this man. But to reveal such a personal letter, a bit too much too soon. Jiah should have left him the instant she found out he was a loser. As for him he should never have got involved with a girl who's so needy. It's just a recipe for disaster, and this case tragedy. All of which could have been avoided by both individuals involved. The fact she had no father figure explains a lot. Her mother and sisters although were close were engrossed in their own lives. She just wasted her time on this pathetic excuse of a man. Her life really had no balance. Suicide was an easy way out.

Rest In Peace Dear !!!
You've defined me the meaning of LOVE !!

Jiah's sister karishma said pancholis are fake.they came on the funeral of jiah was drama she said that they can't even arrange a flower .they came only for limelights.

Suraj must be a jerk and all. But why did Jiah think she needed this man in her life. Isn't it almost like playing with fire. Why do women choose to be in abusive relationship. She was pretty, successful, she didn't need this jerk. She destroyed her own life being with him. At the first sign of abusive relationship, you need to leave and not think about the guy again. How hard is that to understand. Is Suraj to blame 100%. Clearly he didn't want this girl. But if you keep going to him and showing how needy you are, he'll take advantage of you. Jiah should've known better.

Mon, 2013-06-10 04:35 — mocuishlelina
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I am heartbroken to see Jiah (RIP) to suffer this way. She was a beautiful girl and I have had high hopes for her. She should have been still alive. To all girls out there who suffered this kind of torment out of a relationship, please get someone to listen to you. PLEASE DO. It is you who have the control of your mind, body and soul and NOT those beastly men. Your submissiveness is their gain. They want to feel like they are in control of you like a puppeteer. What happened to Jiah had happened to me. Not once - but twice with two different person. I was a fool to fall in love and was even more a fool to lingers in the pains they have caused me. And even more dumb to be repeating the same mistake. I know falling in love will put you on sugar high - the sweet drunkenness and all but the real power lies within you. I have the thoughts of killing myself after the betrayal - "the use & throw" thoughts terrorising me. The guilt of sins I have committed were eating me inside out. Then I stood up for myself and I felt like a winner. There is somebody meant for you, who really deserves you. I have found mine. If only Jiah would have understood that losing the one who does not worth it is actually a trade of winning your dignity and pride back - she would have been alive - still. I have no respect for those BEASTS but in vengeance I found no peace. The sweetness of revenge is to be able to forgive that person who did you wrong. Believe me - when I left those two trash; they were panicked and scared because knowing that I am not here to keep for further pains and embarrassment.
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same here . i think lot of women to through this . thank god i dint take the drastic step that time and found my MR right . and we are happy ,we have a little boy too. and i want to raise him as a good gentleman . just like my husband . unlike those bast**ds

Her bf who or what ever he was to her suraj pancholi is a scum

If I were in her place,I would rather torture that guy by being ALIVE.I would have dumped him loooong back,so bad,he would have been scared to date another girl ever again.And please some of you people stop supporting the guy for heaven's sake.I loved what Jiah's mother did.Had she not done this none of us would have known the truth behind the 'bhola' looks of this guy.He is FAR from innocent. Alas! This won't bring Jiah back but that was a brave move Rabiya.

And please stop saying her mother should have been there and all,my sister too is after this guy who does not care about her and no matter how much we try to tell her,she cries after him like a maniac.My mother is even scared to leave her alone! The bottom line is:All girls are EMOTIONAL FOOLS.We seek love from the wrong men.And this comes from a girl herself.Stop ruining your life for men please.

I sincerely hope this Pancholi father-son duo will rot in hell..Please god make them pay for their sins..
RIP Jiah..;_;

Sooraj is not at fault here. He might be big as#####, but at the end of the day Jiah killed herself because she was madly obsessively in love with her tormentor. This shows clearly she suffered a lot of trauma before she met Sooraj. His behavior just intensified her instability and pushed her over the edge.
This letter only re-emphasizes the instability of Jiahs mind. You abused me, but I still love you and want you. Hello! Why would you want a guy who cheats on you and verbally abuses you. Pretty messed up.
Ladies!! Wake up and stop loving the bad guy!! The moment the bad guy stops getting all the love for his downright dirty behavior, they will be forced to change. And Definitely, Don't kill yourself for some loser.

Jiah wherever your soul is, we hope it is resting in peace.

you know what? these sick men, they just.... have indeed lost their humanity. My own father does this to my poor mother. So helpless, when i heard her cry, she sounded like a little girl to me. She is, shes still so young inside, her mind...so warped by this mad mans abuse, he broke her confidence down, he never let her go out of the house. He tries his best to hurt her even now.... Shes strong though, shes started fighting back.. ALL of this, points to a society that is not only backward, but also animalistic. This Suraj guy, hes so successful and rich, no one would ever think he would be a sadist. No but this is a little too common, there is something inherently wrong with the way these men are being raised. This over sexualization of women isnt helping either. What can a woman do when the men in her world have the mind of beasts? no conscious reasoning, no inquiry, no awareness at all. Can they see that a woman is an extension of themselves? and by hurting her, they are only cutting their wounds a little deeper.
I think.. based on personal references... that these men, are so dependent on these women to lash out their own misery, that they are unable to ever consciously come to terms with the fact that they are abusers. I think they try to disassociate from it all. No happy man would ever want to hurt another right? and no unhappy man can deal with the pain he inflicts on to another.

RIP! really sad... should have spoken to someone to get out this web of lies and deceit! no guy on this planet is worth dying for! but can only imagine the pain you must have gone through, really hope you're in the heavens up above and at peace

God this letter is so sad that it made my eyes well up! RIP Jiah,may your soul find the peace it never found in life:( It's hard to read about the things that she was going through-rape,verbal abuse,abortion,neglect,etc. but it's even harder and outright creepy to think that douchebags like Suraj Pancholi even exist in this world and make lives for girls a living hell. But dear,sweet Jiah was it really necessary to end your life for this scum of a human being,for this pathetic excuse for a boyfriend and his flaws? I wish some of her near and dear ones had reached out to her in her time of need like her mom,sister and friends who would've willingly given her a shoulder to cry on and even provide with professional help from depression specialists or psychologists who would've given her invaluable advice to have stepped out of an abusive relationship at the right time. As someone already said that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Had Jiah shown a firmness of mind and dumped this loser in the garbage where he belongs and then tried her luck at films again or probably exploring other avenues,taking up a hobby,dating men who DESERVE HER and enjoying the finer things in life,than have ended her beautiful,young life in this unruly way. I'm not standing up for this Pancholi guy and I hope to God that he never gets a launch in Bollywood,but Jiah should have had an iron will to get out of such a relationship for good instead of ending her life,cause a guy who beats,rapes and cheats on his girlfriend clearly does not care about her. I know men like these are all around today who thinking that "Variety is the spice of life"believe they can take a naive girl for granted,but is it a reason to swallow pills? Didn't get into IIT then hang yourself,have some professional and financial problems then swallow rat poison,get into an abusive relationship then eat pills-seems the most easiest way out for youngsters is death but then think about the pain caused to your family.Now nothing can save sir but I do hope somebody was there for her when she was alive. RIP poor girl:'-(:'-(:'-(

I am heartbroken to see Jiah (RIP) to suffer this way. She was a beautiful girl and I have had high hopes for her. She should have been still alive. To all girls out there who suffered this kind of torment out of a relationship, please get someone to listen to you. PLEASE DO. It is you who have the control of your mind, body and soul and NOT those beastly men. Your submissiveness is their gain. They want to feel like they are in control of you like a puppeteer. What happened to Jiah had happened to me. Not once - but twice with two different person. I was a fool to fall in love and was even more a fool to lingers in the pains they have caused me. And even more dumb to be repeating the same mistake. I know falling in love will put you on sugar high - the sweet drunkenness and all but the real power lies within you. I have the thoughts of killing myself after the betrayal - "the use & throw" thoughts terrorising me. The guilt of sins I have committed were eating me inside out. Then I stood up for myself and I felt like a winner. There is somebody meant for you, who really deserves you. I have found mine. If only Jiah would have understood that losing the one who does not worth it is actually a trade of winning your dignity and pride back - she would have been alive - still. I have no respect for those BEASTS but in vengeance I found no peace. The sweetness of revenge is to be able to forgive that person who did you wrong. Believe me - when I left those two trash; they were panicked and scared because knowing that I am not here to keep for further pains and embarrassment.

I am so much more than dis....
u truly are
RIP jiya khan

its indeed such a sad ending....and she comes across as a beautiful person...
after reading the letter I cnt belive m saying this but shobha dey does not sounds that wrong!!!

wht kind of pressure ppl in da industry hv to go through nly dey knw....but da letter tells us she was so real...n in such a toxic relationship
its so imp to forget get the past n move on...n it was so imp dat smone told her she was nt to be blamed for nythng and dat she had da rite to move on n find her happiness again.

may God bless her soul and her family

1why aren't my comments added here? i've posted so many times

sad really .....but hope this is true and not just an overpossesive crazzy girl

funny thing about these situations are that the men really won't be effected by all this love, affection and care they receive - it just massages their egos.

it wasn't worth dying for a man like that

He acted so well with those watery eyes son of ...... seriously 4 all the negitive coments below those who are blamming jiah wht she did wrong she already confessed abut it bt mr suraj he beated her.... wht do u guys think whn u doo tht u r a trash and jiah deserved so much better thn this ... dear boys try to keep the aggessive nature to your self n if u cnt handel it so leave the girl alone u did die in much pain and life is a rolar coaster whn its destiney payback thn remember wht enjoyed doing .. n 4 those girls never let this thing happen stop it on its limit start taking actions for things tht guys like suraj dooo ... aah she aborted her child
Rest in peace jeah
And losers shout your mouth .. i wish i can just punch u on ur face
Suraj is the reason of her suiside and justice should be given its obvious this time whos mistake it is lts hope money dnt overcome the truth

It is not the relationship or anything, though what Suraj did was not right. Above all it is the guilt of abortion that killed her. No woman can live peacefully after doing abortion, since abortion equals murder. That is murder in the womb, other one is outside the womb and that the only difference.

and she seriously needed some mental / psychiatric help which her family should have provided.

Mon, 2013-06-10 02:09 — Anonymous
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Can't believe how some can say that the boys today are like this... Hopefully next time when you have a son, teach him to respect woman n don't be like him...Kalyug, if all boys were like this, all girls should be and do the same thing as the boys...
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I stated the truth, I'm in no way condoning it. But yes, I agree that it's a reflection of lack of proper upbringing and values. Parents should focus on the upbringing of their kids, especially boys!

Jiya (RIP) was really inlove with him. And she should have understood that boys are like that now days. I guess she wasn't mature enough to understand and handle that despite her age. She really loved him and i hope suraj realizes his mistake. She also didnt think of how it would affect her fans. I felt heartbroken when i heard a 12 year old killed himself because of her, imagine those parents losing their 12 year old child.. the bad part is after a few years this will be forgotten about and suraj will carry on with life :(, . I find it really stupid that Jiah's mother published this, the public wants answers but this is really private stuff, maybe her mother was really angry about her doing and decided to publish it :/. Rest in Peace Jiah, we will always love uu :)

People calling her 'mentally ill, disturbed' etc. Who did you think affected her mental health then? She was a normal girl, how do you think she became so hopeless? Obviously, Sooraj played a large part in her depression or mental health. A regular person doesn't just become depressed unless there is a trauma, abuse, etc, which she clearly suffered at hands of Sooraj. Just leave the girl alone and let her rest..disgusting people are just pounding on her and defending Sooraj, then you all are like Sooraj, with shady characters...just plain pathetic.

sad..

This is really sad and tragic...Love means freedom, bliss, peace, flowering into a better person, and helping and inspiring the other person to be the best they can be...this lovely girl made the mistake of taking attachment on her part, and time-pass on the boy's part for love...

I wish her family/friends had understood her silent cries for help..people in such depressive state of mind need not only love, care and support from their loved ones, but also medical help...I also wish her family had kept her personal letter and private life private..

I hope girls (and even sensitive boys) will learn a lesson from this sad incident-
Life is a precious gift.
To kill oneself is the ultimate sin. You and those who love you lose.
Time heals everything, sad times pass.
No person/situation/circumstance has the power or influence over us UNLESS we give it any such power.
and finally.. we are NEVER alone..there is always someone somewhere in the world who has problems, troubles, pains more difficult than ours, and they are fighting it out...so why can't we..?

Rest in peace Jiah..may the angels take care of you until you find a next life filled with the kind of love, peace and joy you craved in this one..you were beautiful..and you will be missed..God bless you..

really sad that some of the commenters are saying that all guys at his age are like this. I'm sorry but when has physical abuse, verbal abuse and emotional abuse been viewed as something okay to do?? i understand that boys have fun, party, and have flings around this age but as soon as he starts physically and verbally abusing you thats just WRONG! regardless of what her mental state was , there are no excuses for what this man has done to her. can you imagine the trauma a woman has to go through after aborting a baby? some women are not as strong as the rest of us, and are sometimes naive and still love a man who does all this to them. we dont know what other issues she may have been facing , but this guy has played a part in her drastic desicion. this is why it is so important for the youth to speak out about their emotions and not keep it to themselves,there are so many people out there to help you.

Heartless idiot! He should be punished for causing a girl's death!

i always liked her acting but as person i like her even more now ,she doesn"t deserve to leave the world like this ;"(.
its sad when real love gets wasted like this whereas all the fake 1 is getting appreciated.

LESSON for all Men :::::::::::: Stay away from clingy obsessed mentally disturbed girls like Jiah.(especially the ones that feel like they are entitled to something or comes with alot of 'emotional' baggages) They will ruin ur life before it even begins.
Suraj must be regretting having anythhing to do with her in the first place but it is too late.Wish him good luck with the vultures and the media.

''I guess many won't like my comment'' bcos it is the truth

NB..no Woman or Man is worth dying for except maybe ur children

OH GOD, so many losers trolling on her page and voicing negative opinion on her and just blasting her. LEAVE HER ALONE, SHE IS DEAD BUT YOU GUYS ARE ALIVE AT LEAST KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT IF NOTHING BETTER TO SAY ON THIS. THE GUY CLEARLY IS SOORAJ THAT IS DISCUSSED IN THE LETTER, DAMN DISGUSTING PEOPLE. LEAVE HER ALONE.

so sad............
i feeel v sorry fr jiah............

i feel really sad for her....but her death was her fault and her fault only. no one can blame sooraj for it. she had the option of walking away - but i think she was mentally ill, and is drawn towards toxic relationships....she wanted the toxicity in her life and chose to let it destroy her....she really was a disturbed unstable person. after reading this, for some reason, my sympathy for has lessened....she seems so pathetic now.

Can't believe how some can say that the boys today are like this... Hopefully next time when you have a son, teach him to respect woman n don't be like him...Kalyug, if all boys were like this, all girls should be and do the same thing as the boys...

Sun, 2013-06-09 22:24 — Anonymous
Unfortunately, you can't compare yourself to her, you were stronger than her and you could think clearly and you could identify the villain.In her case, she love the villain.It could be that suraj was the first man in jiah's life, she was saving herself for a special someone and the promise of engagement looked real to her and she in the end lost everything to him and that was too much to bear for her.I can fully understand her, it wasn't about being chipku, it was about her believing in his lies, that led to her suicide.Besides, she was brought up abroad and therefore, she was unaware of how guys can lie in your face and cheat.It is fact that in india, women are not given the respect, they are considered used goods after sex.

This still doesn't incriminate Suraj as much as everyone's saying. What this letter shows is that Jiah was an obsessed lover, probably clingy and perhaps even naive. He partied, he cheated, he was younger than her and was about to embark on a film career and this is reason enough to end your life? Jiah needed help and those closest to her, who knew of her trauma (the rape and abuse she mentions) should have got it for her. I cannot fathom why her mother sees fit to publish this, the abortion, the relationship is so intensely private and here it is on a public forum subject to discussion. There's something untoward about Jiah's family, perhaps even more so than the Pancholi's two dysfunctional families, two dysfunctional young people, so obviously not right for one another.

i agree 100 %

all i get reading dis letter is dat she needed help from her near n dear ones n also professional counselling...there clearly were a lot of hidden skeletons in her closet.wat i really dont get is hw no one understood her mental traumas...
n as much as we like to make dis suraj dude d villain well if not him there wud hv been someone else...granted he was a douchebag but he isnt d reason for all d mess.he was just a catalyst who further aggravated the already messed up situation.

God will be the ultimate judge in this.

God will be the ultimate judge in this.

Sun, 2013-06-09 22:56 — boomboom

I'm not defending Suraj Pancholi, he truly is douchebag, but seriously today's boys are like him. Especially in his age, early 20s, they don't want commitment, they want to have fun! It's reality, a sad reality might I add.

Jiah was in love with him, but this wasn't a healthy love. In the subcontinent, already the "lovers' death" is glorified and romanticized, why do we have all these romantic folklore that have tragic ends? Because you're not supposed to love a person to THE EXTENT that you're willing to die.

I feel really sorry for Jiah, but right now my sympathy is also with SP. The guy is young and made awful mistakes, but to make him the scapegoat and reason of her suicide is preposterous.

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Thats soo true

Sun, 2013-06-09 22:49 — Anonymous
Sun, 2013-06-09 21:56 — Anonymous

After reading this I just lost all my sympathy for her. It is ridiculous to blame someone for breaking up with a person. Many guys his age have that party lifestyle and flit from girl to girl. She seems a chipku type from this letter and deeply disturbed.
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I agree..he was 22. Did she really believe that he would get engaged...y be with him when he cheated...she was chipku types..

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U know what? She was mentally ill and needed help

People should not commit if they cant fulfill. He shouldnt have sent her such signals of marriage if he knew his stand well. Serious or not, cheating on your partner is disgraceful. Jiah was so beautiful, only if she realised her worth, she would have ruined his life instead. The guy looks like crap. He has lost his credibility forever.

By the way like father like son. Truly characterless. Such an awful family.

Chocolate beauty Jiah Khan.. You wouldve found much better options than that insane freak.. R.I.P Beautiful..

man... her letter really tugged at my heart.. she sounds so hurt and so hopeless... i feel so so sad for her. At that age with external pressures of btown plus emotional pressures of a scumbag for a boyfriend can really make one reach that tipping point. and she went over. forever. I so wish she'd have gotten therapy and someone to talk to who cared.

in the transcript it says "you would throw in my face. When I would cry for you." however in the letter she said "you would laugh in my face when i would cry for you" what a lowlife Suraj is. It is fitting that he will live with this regret for the rest of his life, and not treat another woman like that.

Just wandering if Jiah have ever told Suraj whtever she written in the letter like how she feels for him and how she felt watching him with other girls or she jst kept it by herself???

Jiah was too clingy suraj is a loser enough said

sooraj had even send abusive sms's to her before she died.

Mon, 2013-06-10 00:04 — Anonymous
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This still doesn't incriminate Suraj as much as everyone's saying. What this letter shows is that Jiah was an obsessed lover, probably clingy and perhaps even naive. He partied, he cheated, he was younger than her and was about to embark on a film career and this is reason enough to end your life? Jiah needed help and those closest to her, who knew of her trauma (the rape and abuse she mentions) should have got it for her. I cannot fathom why her mother sees fit to publish this, the abortion, the relationship is so intensely private and here it is on a public forum subject to discussion. There's something untoward about Jiah's family, perhaps even more so than the Pancholi's two dysfunctional families, two dysfunctional young people, so obviously not right for one another.
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the note says ,sraj had promised of getting engagged with her,made her pregnent ,aborted her child,he used to abuse her,threten to hit her.its very clear that he used her and wanted to get rid of her. he may never thought in his wildest dreams that things might turn this bad. he may have thought ,that everything is over now so if i ignore her. she will leave me anyways. and treatening somebody to hit and abusing somebody is a punishable offence. its volation of human rights. suraj wont be able to escape this . he can escape only if he can prove in court that jiah was mentally unstable

I wish u wud have known that u arent d only gal in this world who had had to pass through that trauma. There are so many others too who are trapped in wrong relationship and are abused in the name of love. I wish u had courage to stand up and see beyond the bar. World is much more than a single person. In fact, u had so many qualities that millions of girls lack. I wish u had a freind at least who could have shown u the light in darkness.
Rest in peace Jiah.
Wish u have peaceful journey onward.

Seriously boys like this deserves a tight slap and a punishment.. He did this to her!!

Sun, 2013-06-09 18:45 — Anonymous

Girls, let this be a lesson.....walk out of an abusive relationship IMMEDIATELY! Never think that you or your love can change a person....no one is worth it! Life is so much more than just one person or one career. Make sure you share your troubles with people around you, people you can trust, who love you, who care about you and take necessary help...go to a doctor, take medication, move to a new place, do whatever it takes to get out of that situation! Life has a lot of phases....don't let one traumatic phase make you quit! And if there are people around you who are depressed about anything that you're aware of, please do not shrug it off....help them in whichever way you can! That's the only way we can reduce rates of suicide and self harm.

As for the Pancholi guy, we have established by now that he's an a****** and that he's gonna have a pretty tough time joining bollywood or finding a sensible girlfriend in the future but that still doesn't make him her murderer. Jiah's mental illness which was aggravated by his actions, took her life and it's such a pity no one around her realized what she was going through to offer her help. RIP girl....I wish you could have stayed, come out of the whole thing stronger and read out that letter yourself and talked about how you became a happier person after that. THAT would have been a real slap on his face. But nothing's gonna bring you back now, so keep resting .....

PV Please post!
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All the people stating they don't know who the letter was written to or doesn't 'incriminate sooraj', etc. Who do you think, the letter is implied to, obviously to the person she was in relationship with, if not then why would she say 'you cheated on me...your life was about other women and partying...' etc...Obviously, she is talking about the guy she was seeing and that was obviously was Sooraj, and she even mentions 'abortions' who do you think she was talking about? Perhaps, people can't understand the content because they don't have the capacity to or just horrendous, cold-hearted human beings....

We aren't too sure on what we read on the letter. A weak person, & disturbed could possibly become preposterous & little liar. I was once there and a dreamer.I was weak & lived in those for over a decade. We can't just believe on a piece of paper from dead. Going thru Jiah Khan's suicide note, she hid more deeper reasons and those people mentioned are just props to accessorize. going thru Jiah Khan's suicide note, she hid more deeper reasons and those people mentioned are just props to accessorize. it's good to share our sympathy & help women who are abused and maltreated esp who commits suicide. Don't add speculation to rumors. Think. it's good to share our sympathy & help women who are abused and maltreated esp who commits suicide. Don't add speculation to rumors. Went through Sooraj and Aditya Pancholi articles, it's absolute scandal on the other hand, must be cleared and justified. I hope and pray she finds the light in the end of the tunnel, and everyone has given rights to express and defend themselves. Remember, no one goes away if they think it's the best solution, being too jealous could make men scare and they leave without a trace to salvage someone's dark absurd life. We are human, and we feel what we feel, anyone has the right to love and anyone has the right to fall out of love, some cannot take it and face them, all we need is real friends, and loving family to show us there are more good things other than having a relationship. If it's proven guilty of accused parties, then must be punished and executed to hell of pain and chain them lifetime.

This still doesn't incriminate Suraj as much as everyone's saying. What this letter shows is that Jiah was an obsessed lover, probably clingy and perhaps even naive. He partied, he cheated, he was younger than her and was about to embark on a film career and this is reason enough to end your life? Jiah needed help and those closest to her, who knew of her trauma (the rape and abuse she mentions) should have got it for her. I cannot fathom why her mother sees fit to publish this, the abortion, the relationship is so intensely private and here it is on a public forum subject to discussion. There's something untoward about Jiah's family, perhaps even more so than the Pancholi's two dysfunctional families, two dysfunctional young people, so obviously not right for one another.

I think her family should not have published it like this. after all it was her private life.

Sun, 2013-06-09 22:56 — boomboom

I'm not defending Suraj Pancholi, he truly is douchebag, but seriously today's boys are like him. Especially in his age, early 20s, they don't want commitment, they want to have fun! It's reality, a sad reality might I add.

Jiah was in love with him, but this wasn't a healthy love. In the subcontinent, already the "lovers' death" is glorified and romanticized, why do we have all these romantic folklore that have tragic ends? Because you're not supposed to love a person to THE EXTENT that you're willing to die.

I feel really sorry for Jiah, but right now my sympathy is also with SP. The guy is young and made awful mistakes, but to make him the scapegoat and reason of her suicide is preposterous.
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I kind of agree with you :(

this is a piece of evidence how could it be shared with the public? shouldnt the police put it away safely?

2 Pancholis need to be hanged.

a girl claiming to be so weak and broken can write so well! she penned her emotions beautifully.

Love life - Work Life- family Life. isnt this what we all live for? jiah got a rough deal on all three fronts. and its easy to say that suicide isnt the option. but in that state of mind, what else? had she got atleast some love/comfort from any: work, life or family. im sure she would have been amongst us today.

Jiah was beautiful! and thats the last image we all have of her, that pretty face! RIP Jiah.

Dis is so sad ;( RIP jiah :(

A having goosebumps after reading this..seriously, this pretty girl suffer so much..despite being an actress she gave so much to a relationship but I think Suraj Pancholi used and abused her...!!!!

Pancholis are always in news for dirty things....really...
RIP Jiah Khan!

This is so sad, why did you waste your life on such worthless person? RIP you. May you find solace somehwere

*DESTROYED IN LOVE

Fanaa. Destroyed in loved. Rest In Peace Jiah Khan, no more pain. God will be the ultimate judge in this.

why it happens like this when you love someone true wish for his\her success day and night all you get is hate torture dislike cheating ....now what is love for those people body or sex money or power, why you have no feeling the want and sharing to be partial emotional ......
Dear Jiah i dont know what you did was right or wrong but you should know life is once to die is easy to be healed from pain but to live is the biggest and tough thing to do, may god give your soul that much of courage to rest in peace. one mistake you did you never thought for your family.

Every person is made of different stuff. Some can handle life, some cannot. She couldn't...May she rest in peace...

WHAT?!! Aborted a baby? Oh god! This was more than serious. All it took was clear verbal communication which she failed to do. She boxed all her feelings to herself which was bound to destroy her. Weeping and killing herself over one worthless man is actually Jiah's weakness and stupidity. A man never defines a woman's success, fame, and happiness. It's of a woman's responsibility to make sure she makes the right choices which will bring joy and content to her life. She could have left him and concentrated on her career and waited for the right man to enter her life. .

A lady would never sucide for profesional or career reason.but she had faced so much pain in love....ths y she had taken dis extreme step.....
Long time in wrong relationship can be dangereous for any lady..even if tht lady don't commit sucide but she will be dead from inside.
Rip jiah khan

why is no one wondering ' why suraj's name isn't mentioned in these notes'
if police searched her home, they would have found this note!

I am not taking Suraj's side, He was a cheat and hurt Jiah. But I feel they will ask money from all those news ppl who mentioned Suraj as the cheater. The pancholi family will say 'the note never mentioned his name, u defamed our son, give us money'

This is how industry ppl work. They use the public and the press. Wake up ppl.

I'm not defending Suraj Pancholi, he truly is douchebag, but seriously today's boys are like him. Especially in his age, early 20s, they don't want commitment, they want to have fun! It's reality, a sad reality might I add.

Jiah was in love with him, but this wasn't a healthy love. In the subcontinent, already the "lovers' death" is glorified and romanticized, why do we have all these romantic folklore that have tragic ends? Because you're not supposed to love a person to THE EXTENT that you're willing to die.

I feel really sorry for Jiah, but right now my sympathy is also with SP. The guy is young and made awful mistakes, but to make him the scapegoat and reason of her suicide is preposterous.

suraj abused her, and his father pancholi made it worse by keep them away from each other, jiah should had shared all the things she suffered to her mother and sister and ask for their help, she might get a better man, but yeah she was deeply in love with the man, and Suraj also pretended to be in love, he shouldn't had done that way, if he didn't want to be with her, he should had cleared that at the very beginning, there was no need to abuse her or make her pregnant! Why he was acting like broken from heart in front of public at Jiah's funeral? What dose he and his father want to prove???

Sun, 2013-06-09 22:24 — Anonymous
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U seem like a sick person from after all the abuse u suffered from your father. And u say 'today left' your father and 'going to be a doctor' then why did you wait all those years to leave then?????...u can legally leave home at age 18 if u had it this bad....why u waited all this time and only leaving when u r about to be a doctor, stupid?...you are just ridiculous person, can't even let a girl rest in peace...u don't how Jiah Khan was suffered, she was raped, tortured, abused, and NOT everyone is like you...u r the stupid, heartless one...

That man must be crazy... I wish she lived to make him cry...

Sun, 2013-06-09 21:56 — Anonymous

After reading this I just lost all my sympathy for her. It is ridiculous to blame someone for breaking up with a person. Many guys his age have that party lifestyle and flit from girl to girl. She seems a chipku type from this letter and deeply disturbed.
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I agree..he was 22. Did she really believe that he would get engaged...y be with him when he cheated...she was chipku types..

How insensitive can you get? I agree with the fact that guys party at this age but that doesn't mean that they can take a woman for a ride and emotionally abuse her! She should have left him instead of committing suicide.. But it doesn't take away the fact that he was a scumbag.. You will know nothing unless you face the same!!!

Love Sex aur Dhoka !!!
Wish She had more strength and more love for her family!!!

This is Stupidity not love, why on can't she speak out, a lot of guys out there will love and cherish her without she spending a penny, or spending much, india's need social education to explore beyond india and Indians, a lot of foreigners lives in India, that needs love and wife, but it's lacked heavily in this country, due to some social racism, you dont get accepted because u r not indian or black or white.. if you love someone and they dont love you back u let em go. not taking away life when lot's out there can love you better.. she is a waste of time. but it's a reality check to the mothers in India, they should be close to their daughters, i blame her mum and sis really, coz they knew this and never advised her to walk away from this Moron. she was obsessed to the abuse not in love really.

JIAH!! I hope ur soul finds peace now .. to ur parents n sisters - love makes everything else around us transparent .. u have to have faith n pray that she is happy where she is now ..
only sum1 who has been thru sumthng like ths can truly understand.. Vn I tried to do the same I had my friend to help me get out of it n by gods grace I was saved n am still here to share ths so other grls don't try ths.
At that moment even I felt that death was d only solution n dint think or rather was not mentally fit to think of anything else like my parents or grinds or d life I had build so far. once I went they it tats vn in tat moment vn it was a small step away from crossing over did I realise wot I had done, n all for a person who probably dint even knw tat I'm doing this.
Today vn I look back I knw tat it wasn't d best decision n wot I needed at tat time was my friends in which I shudve confided.. I am strong enuf to write about it now n if this helps even 1 person then il knw d reason god chose to keep me here.
So plsss if u ever feel depressed no matter how hard it is u atleast share wot ur feeling vid 1 person, n people if u see anyone around is going thru a difficult time thn don't hesitate to ask rather than giving them their 'space' .. love to u JIAH! find peace ..

its not like she was trapped in this relationship and had no choice but to get tortured...she had the choice of leaving....but instead she chose to end her life. that goes to show how weak her character was....i have a feeling she was subconsciously drawn towards destructive relationships (it happens with those who don't have a normal father figure, although they don't do it intentionally)

i was abused by my father for 10 years and i had NO way out. i was trapped...no one was willing to help me. my parents are divorced, but my mother refused to take me and look after me, my step-mother was also abusive. my whole family knew about it, but they did nothing to help, because they all wanted to be in my father's good books (he's the richest in the whole family that's why). i had no way of going to boarding school - who would've paid my boarding fees? in a situation like that, where there is no way out, i can understand someone feeling compelled to end their life. but i didn't...because i knew that if i studied hard, finished school and got myself into a good course, i could leave him and give life another shot. there were many times i wanted to die, just to punish my father, if not to end my suffering, but my douchebag of a father was NOT worth it - and i knew i'd only be punishing myself. my father would happily label me as mentally unstable and move on. today i've left my father and i'm going to be a doctor....WHO KNEW?!

jiah wasn't even trapped in this relationship...as someone who can identify with being a victim of abuse, i'm just so disappointed in her - she really did have the option of walking away. i had no such option as a child. but she was grown independent woman, and she could've easily left him. how the frick is ending your life a better option than that????

some people blasting Jiah because she dated this losers and committed suicide, etc. But, you need to know some people are a lot more vulnerable than others especially in Jiah's case considering she went through lots of trauma, abuse, rape, etc seems like prior to meeting this loser. Jiah is gone, let her soul rest now, people...you negating everything is NOT helping her now, except that you want to just express your opinion selfishly...It's not about you...nothing nice to say, then keep it shut.. I wish, she was still alive, but stop blaming or blasting her...

After reading this I just lost all my sympathy for her. It is ridiculous to blame someone for breaking up with a person. Many guys his age have that party lifestyle and flit from girl to girl. She seems a chipku type from this letter and deeply disturbed.
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I agree..he was 22. Did she really believe that he would get engaged...y be with him when he cheated...she was chipku types..

Shoba De is 100% right, had been a Salman Khan protege, none of this would happen, because poor Jiah ended up in the company of a loser, which is common with many girls. Much respect to her Jiah's mom and her family.

Though I sympathize with her, taking life away for some cheater is not worth !!! But there is always two sides to the story !!! though son Panchali is responsible you can not blame him completely !!!
When she knew he was cheating, she should have dumped instead of getting tortured !!!
Wish Jiah was strong!! dumped that pancholi guy and excelled in whatever she wanted to do !! that would have been a fitting reply !! not taking life :( :( :(

Rip jiah.....u went thru a lot.....but what angers me is the reason we women are genetically engineered to be emotional fools ESP for guys who don't deserve it....I have seen this in my closest of family n friends incl myself.... Wish we cud be stronger n more practical

as Shobha De said:like father,like son
R.I.P Jiah..

now sooraj will come out and pretend like a victum . he is going to get away with everything and we will just watch . in court he will prove jiah wasnt mentally stable and get away with the abuse. such is our law system .

@moimeme - agreed with each and every words u said.

Shobha De might have wrong commenting Katrina's career is bcoz of Salman and jiah would have have like that----but she is 100% right when she said " LIKE FATHER LIKE SON" for suraj...... you are right shobha.....

I feel bad for Jiah's mom and sister but I definitely agree that there are 2 sides of the story...The younger Pancholi is a douchebag for sure, no doubt! It seemed like a bizzare relationship but he is 22..did she really expect him to get married at that young age when he was about to debut in a bollywood movie? Not everyone is a SRK or Hrithik and esp when she knew what his family background is (his father famous for his affair with Kangana who is probably 4-5 years older than his son)...Jiah seemed to be an insecure girl turning into a psychopath...It absolutely has to do with her childhood traumas as she had written but she needed help, medical help which her mother and sisters should have recognized! It is so sad, such a young and beautiful soul lost. A lesson for every girl not go so senile in love and keep your dignity and self respect intact. As for the Suraj scumbag...the closest he will get to his bollywood dream now is being played a character by some other actor in this Jiah Khan suicide case which the Bhatt's will surely produce.

you know I felt the same like she did but my family my friends pulled me out of that darkness I loved him so much ... I understand her . I am just so grateful to my loved ones and god
god bless her soul

to die for a man or a woman shows how weak and insecure one is, i can never imagine my sister or daughter taking her life for a man. This is very sad..unless you are tied to someone thru children, there should be no excuse for putting up with that much sadness and depression...
there are many insecure women and men out there, and when they find that terrible person to extort them, and to manipulate them it only goes downhill from there...example, Salman And aishwaray whether he abused her or not, she got out of that toxic relationship, who knows, maybe she wouldve had the same fate....when something is that toxic, and is affecting your well being, and isnt bringing the positive out in you, that is a red flag to get the hell out of there. I wish she was a stronger person, because she had much more than the common girl at her fingertips, may this be a lesson to all men and women about negative feelings, relationships, and how suicide is not an option

At least 30 to 40 percent of women have dated some type of jerk in their life. Why? because men can get away with this behavior. People who are shocked by this supposed maltreatment by Suraj should not be shocked because it is not uncommon. But, women need to stop loving men who don't deserve their love. If we stick with a guy who continues to "abuse" us then who is really at fault. Both people not just the abuser. Also, why end your precious life for someone who doesn't love you. One must be strong and not play victim. Jiah was definitely a tortured soul and should of gotten some therapy and guidance. Suraj was not her father who abandoned her. I believe her attachment with Suraj was unhealthy and therefore the fear of abandonment and ultimate suicide. I hope Jiahs soul RIP. but, I think her spirit will be haunting Suraj for a looooong time.

Sooraj Pancholi is the son of the devil!!! I can't believe he used Jiah like that. I bet he wouldn't have done that had Jiah been a huge star..I'm glad Kangana broke free from Aditya Pancholi...

All Sooraj planned to do was used and abused Jiah. They were together for a year and his mom has never met her, that was something fishy..and to think he came to her funeral. No wonder Jiah's mum was pissed!!

Jiah kept all of her feelings to herself and her writing. I get it, some of it is not something you can tell someone, your mother or sisters. But this guy wasn't worth giving up your life for.

I sincerely hope Jiah's family get their justice. Knowing our law system, Sooraj can get away with nothing. He will shamelessly make his entry in films like an innocent lamb, glad this letter came out to expose him. What will his parents say now? What will his mentor say now?

That said, I do hope not all young Bollywood unmarried actors are like Sooraj. A lot of the actors use and abuse girls the same way and I'm glad these girls were strong enough to come out of their problems.

RIP Jiah, you wrote so well in a poetic way and I hope you get justice.

teens should not give up this easy, this guy suroj in the near future will forget her and be with someone else, he won't even think of jiah and only say that what jiah did was her problem!! jiah should have just moved on and find happiness elsewhere, he wouldn't have taken this kind of step for her!! she wasted her life..

Absolutely agree with
Sun, 2013-06-09 16:48 — Anonymous
Many of us live with broken dreams and unfulfilled love. You cant blame others for it, or end your life. Life has to go on, even if it is not as perfect as you dreamed.
That said, may her soul rest in peace. Wish she had not given up and fought on. Difficult times pass too.

rabiya anty , it would be better if you sent a photocopy of this to people like shova de who used your daughter's traumatic death as a publicity stunt for themselves.

Jaisa baap waisa beta

I can understand the pain she was going through - rape, cheating, pregnancy, abortion, their father leaving and never calling them, etc. But, hey, why lose "YOUR" life for someone else? The best way to reply him back was to dump him and get successful in life by not giving him a c***. There was your mother and sisters who loved you a lot more, cared about you and to them you meant a lot - why could not you live for them? Why hurt the people who gave you so much in life? Why kill yourself for someone who never cared about you because killing yourself does not make you a hero - do not make the jerk win - do not be a coward by taking the easy way out - live your life to the fullest - your life is your life - no one has the right to RULE it - fight back.

Remember, suicide is a long lasting cowardly solution for "temporary" problems.

To all the girls out there, as soon as you realize that you are dating/in a relationship with "THE" wrong guy, please for heaven's sake dump them ASAP - do not wait and watch - do not harm yourself because of them - it is YOUR life - no one has the right to destroy it. Do not get blinded by men girls :/ Have some PRIDE, leave the LOSER. It is too bad that the Pancholis are immature and they need to learn a lesson.

"My Son is Not the Villain" --- Yeah, you want me to believe that?

After reading this I just lost all my sympathy for her. It is ridiculous to blame someone for breaking up with a person. Many guys his age have that party lifestyle and flit from girl to girl. She seems a chipku type from this letter and deeply disturbed.

Tough times for Nafisa's family. Cant even begin to imagine what Rabiya and her girls must be going through. Loosing a child is an emotion that no one can understand unless they live through it. I really do hope Nafisa finds the peace that this world could not offer. Wishing strength to the family.

Have nothing to say about the Pancholi boy. I am guessing we will be seeing him in Big Boss soon.

i nearly committed suicide by throwing myself out of a car, i was in pain, i was frustrated, i was young and vulnerable. Actually i have had two suicide attempts, the time before i ate some tablets (but my immune system was pretty good i guess).....but that time, i didn't throw myself out cause deep down i knew life was so much more to live for...That guy, the jerk, ended up being a cheat...and the sad thing or i guess relief is that he will never know the pain he caused me....he ripped me apart....he killed me....i spent my days with regret with why oh why did destiny bring us together....like jiah i used to think "hen I fell for you, a love I thought would bring out the best in me. I don’t know why destiny brought us together." But that day i didn't commit suicide, i had a little himat left and all i could think of was my loving parents, what would become of them....Nobody knew of my relationship, i had a hard couple of years...my marks dramatically increased since being without him but they hadn't reached potential because i spent my hours alone crying and screaming....but i got through it, i got through the tears, the anguish, the confusion.....why should you end your life when you aren't the problem, why not cut those people from your life that cause the problem. why not focus on yourself.....sooner or later they will realise the gem that they had lost...........i learnt from all this, i am very cautious now, i have a little bubble around myself.....us girls are precious, we are gems, our heart is full of love and only the one that god has made for us to be soul mates will be able to touch your soul....

jiah, rip, i knew what you went through......but to all other girls, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem...people will feel sorry for you and maybe some regret....but they will FORGET YOU, life is precious, life is extremely precious,once you hit rock bottom the only direction left is to go up....hang in there girls!!!!!!!!!! my life has never been any better and it is only getting better :D

Such a sad reality.
Her letter is from the heart and full of emotion.
I think a lot of girls at some points feel like this in their relationships - I know I certainly did. You just have to be strong enough to walk away and know that you deserve better and cut them out of your life, as hard as it is. I did exactly this and now I am happily married.

Hopefully her story will reach out to other girls in her situation.

I hope Suraj gets the Karma he deserves.

RIP Jiah

Heartbreaking.....

Such a tragic loss of a young life.

I don't know if it was a good idea to publish the letter or not, but it's out - here's hoping it can help someone in the same situation.

i want justice for this girl and helping her mother to get justice for her daughter! i usually dont make entertainment posts but i made this only for jiah and her family! the world should know the real reason behind her death was suraj pancholi! Jiah's mother also wrote "I am convinced that either Suraj or Aditya have hit my daughter and its that humiliation which triggered her death" on her twitter account!

Really, a beautiful girl destroyed her life because of this loser? I don't understand why jiah Khan was even into him, or dreamed of getting engaged etc. He is a 22 years old, immature punk. I don't understand 'rape' word that she mentioned. I hoped she had stayed in London to seek therapy, people are a lot less judgemental in Western countries. You can't expect much from losers and I wish someone had consoled her or something that Suraj is a lost cause...

A life is gone....never to come back. Repent & live on.

Sun, 2013-06-09 15:37 — Anonymous
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I think its poor taste for this to be published. One young person is gone and another is condemned with this.
There are 3 sides to a story. This is only one side. The other side belong to the other young person and then the third side which is the truth.
Having lost a loved one to suicide what I can say is there will be a lot of below the surface issues.
how and what Jiya felt is her perception and her experience but may not necessarily what was really happening.
Paranoia and feeling of self worth are symptoms of bigger issues.
Blaming someone or something is part of the grieving process. This family needs counselling to help them through this. We still do.

please pinkvilla post this
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I disagree. Instead of suppressing the truth for fear being ridiculed or ostracized, I think it was a brave decision (maybe unintended) to reveal what her perspective of her situation was. The guy is still alive and he can speak his version and defend himself, if there are inaccuracies or false perceptions.
No good comes out of hiding the truth.
And if talking about this helps others in similar situations, then everything else should take a back seat. Hope it helps other women/men trapped in unrequitted love/cheating type of relationships, that the outcome won't be good unless they make an effort to get out of it.

RIP Jiah. Really sad to read the personal hell she was going through. However, suicide is no option.

I feel for her mom too. No sorrow imaginable that is worse than losing your child. However, instead of blaming Suraj (and he might well be a scumbag..who knows), if anything, her mom should be using this to highlight depression, suicidal thoughts,..etc. and warning other girls/guys who be contemplating suicide due to failed affairs or any other problems, to stop for a moment and think of their parents and other loved ones. The people who jilt them or hurt them will move on. Meanwhile, life for the loved ones will never be the same again. Just pain and anguish for the rest of their lives. Why cause lifelong hurt to your near and dear ones, because you've been hurt by someone who never cared for you in the first place?

hmm
her death scandal is getting murkier and murkier

Jiah was a package deal, why didn'nt she make it?.
BW works in a strange way...
RIP hon.

this letter made me cry..am speechless! How can someone rape, hurt , abuse a woman who loved him more than her life! Guys i dont make entertainment posts much but i want justice for her..help her mother to get justice for her daughter! More power to u jiah's mother - dessigaal

may be abortion hurts her a lot she might ot wanted to kill her own child but he must have forced her she has said she was in pain poor girl

btw ppl dont go to judge what she did n its all over now she must be a very seensitive girl n she must hv had lot of probes whch she ddnt mentioned here so look at her point of vew

n i dont htink her mother did anything wrong publishing her latter may be it is her private life but its good to allt he other womens who is living a life like jiah although they had money fame and name ! its time for them to move on ...

and this is the end of suraj's family hope salman wl never launch that raper its not good for him aswell

It has been pretty painful to go thru her letter and the emotions she expressed before saying her final goodbye. If it is true that she was raped, aren't there any laws in India that could be brought forward and file the case. Doctors who aborted their baby should have all paperwork. Someone needs to teach this SOB a lesson so he won't repeat it with someone else. Jiah you were darling and a great soul. May you rest in peace far from that idiot. RIP

May her Soul rest in PEACE , So sad.. That guy should be tortured the same way, so he can feel what she went through!

I knew it!!!!!!!

That inhuman person should be nailed....should rot in hell..

The thing called Suraj probably didn't want to be known as dating her. She got pregnant so he probably pressured her to abort the baby because he was thinking about his own upcoming career. I'm sure Aditya Pancholi knew what his son was up to and they both probably made her abort the kid. Wish she hadn't.

I hope his career never takes off and he stays a loser, just like his dad.

Girls, let this be a lesson.....walk out of an abusive relationship IMMEDIATELY! Never think that you or your love can change a person....no one is worth it! Life is so much more than just one person or one career. Make sure you share your troubles with people around you, people you can trust, who love you, who care about you and take necessary help...go to a doctor, take medication, move to a new place, do whatever it takes to get out of that situation! Life has a lot of phases....don't let one traumatic phase make you quit! And if there are people around you who are depressed about anything that you're aware of, please do not shrug it off....help them in whichever way you can! That's the only way we can reduce rates of suicide and self harm.

As for the Pancholi guy, we have established by now that he's an a****** and that he's gonna have a pretty tough time joining bollywood or finding a sensible girlfriend in the future but that still doesn't make him her murderer. Jiah's mental illness which was aggravated by his actions, took her life and it's such a pity no one around her realized what she was going through to offer her help. RIP girl....I wish you could have stayed, come out of the whole thing stronger and read out that letter yourself and talked about how you became a happier person after that. THAT would have been a real slap on his face. But nothing's gonna bring you back now, so keep resting .....

PV Please post!

I feel it took a lot of courage on behalf of Jiah's mother to post this letter. Perhaps it is her way of coping with the situation, and protecting the dignity of her daughter. I feel it is so sad, that a person was going through so much pain. I sure hope this spreads some awareness about the importance about building positive support systems during times of distress and crisis in interpersonal relationships.

She chose to end her life because of this guy, Suraj is wrong for he did no doubt but it is her who decided to kill herself..her own emotions made her take that decision, wish she got help she was too young for this its so sad..young girls should leave a guy immediately if he starts cheating abusing etc if not get the police involved so they can be punished the way they deserved to be..In a way she chose this guy who didn't want her over her own family

I'm very sad for the loss :( However, this is one side of the story, Jiah's side. While I we read might be true, she might have also been mentally unstable. We cannot just take her word and think that everything she said was true. This is going to ruin Suraj Pancholi's life and career and maybe he does not deserve this. This seems like a hasty and very unclassy thing to do for her mother, no matter how upset she is. Putting blame on one person for the loss is WRONG.

Sun, 2013-06-09 17:12 — Anonymous

My heart breaks because this letter puts such a realistic touch to the death of a celebrity.
THey are real people. WHen we talk trash about them, it hurts.
THe letter she wrote before dying , is something very similar my sister wrote . thankfully she didn't kill herself.

I know its hard, but here's what i told my sister-- life is composed of SO MANY PEOPLE. Not only mom, dad ,friends, bf.. but also people you dont know.. people you have met, people you havent met yet. PLEASE dont let one person regulate your life. Your family has raised u with love.. and if they havent.. so what? Theres so much love to spread. If your parents treated you poorly,adopt someone and love them. If your bf treats you poorly, leave him , heal , and i promise , you will one day love another.

Its painful to even imagine your life without that certain someone, but just because you can not imagine it, doesn't mean it does not exist. It is just for the time being, out of your imagination. Make your life matter.

My heart goes out to this girl. To those of you who are happy, make sure you just check in on those friends you think may need a shoulder to cry on.. or just someone to tell them that they mean something. Jiah khan didnt feel she had that, lets not make this a habit.

>>>+1. you sound like a good person.
i wish everyone had a friend like you

Jiah said it right, she is more than this and Aditya.. she needed a mother/mentor/friend to see the big picture.
Girls, life is not always about Love only... we are more than this. Be strong and take life by its horns.

Jiah you are now with your child there and nobody can cause any harm to you there. Be happy there.

I am scared. I am mother of two teenage daughters. I need to show them this letter. Thanks to Jiah's mom for publishing this letter. We need to protect our daughters, sisters from this kind of BOYFRIENDS.

Please Salman don't launch this guy Suraj Pancholi. I am Not going to buy a ticket of his movie.

Sorry to say that she seems like a very emotionally frail person.
Which girl hasn't fallen for a player ( all of Akshay's exes,lol) ? It doesn't mean you lose yourself in them. You just have to let go and move on. She seems to have deep abandonment issues ...

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Sorry but you are putting things too simplistically. She was *raped* and that causes a great deal of trauma which you do not seem to be aware of. You are disrespectful by saying that she was an "emotionally frail person." Do some reading on the aftermaths of rape before making such frivolous judgments. Show empathy and educate yourself first before commenting. It is more painful than you can ever imagine.

I have been in a similar situation like this and I know how it feels to be taken advantage of. However, different people react differently to such situations. All I can say now is RIP Jiah.

I cant imagine these kind of men exist in urban indian society.
so much for all the indian values blah blah they show on indian tv. This is the naked truth...abusive, cheating losers!!!
But she was weak...why give your promising life for such a loser!!! The thing is..in india there is no proper treatment for depression. Such a waste for such a loser who is i amsure going to make 1000 other girls pregnant before getting married to someone for money and kids and keep on doing the same gorever.
There is no god...when the good dies and these animals are free roaming the earth for eternity:)

My heart breaks because this letter puts such a realistic touch to the death of a celebrity.
THey are real people. WHen we talk trash about them, it hurts.
THe letter she wrote before dying , is something very similar my sister wrote . thankfully she didn't kill herself.

I know its hard, but here's what i told my sister-- life is composed of SO MANY PEOPLE. Not only mom, dad ,friends, bf.. but also people you dont know.. people you have met, people you havent met yet. PLEASE dont let one person regulate your life. Your family has raised u with love.. and if they havent.. so what? Theres so much love to spread. If your parents treated you poorly,adopt someone and love them. If your bf treats you poorly, leave him , heal , and i promise , you will one day love another.

Its painful to even imagine your life without that certain someone, but just because you can not imagine it, doesn't mean it does not exist. It is just for the time being, out of your imagination. Make your life matter.

My heart goes out to this girl. To those of you who are happy, make sure you just check in on those friends you think may need a shoulder to cry on.. or just someone to tell them that they mean something. Jiah khan didnt feel she had that, lets not make this a habit.

In my opinion, it is a good thing that Rabiya Khan released this letter to the press. Even though Jiah is gone and nothing can bring her back, this letter and the dialogue about it can help people who find themselves in similar situations. Lives can be saved...

But, the letter does not explain why Rabiya has also blamed Aditya Panscholi. I guess she will have more to say about him later.

Suraj Pancholi should kiss good bye to his career. I am not going to spend a little money on his movies. One thing I want to mention that Salman Khan is going to launch him but after this I hope that Salman will change his mind.

Sorry to say that she seems like a very emotionally frail person.
Which girl hasn't fallen for a player ( all of Akshay's exes,lol) ? It doesn't mean you lose yourself in them. You just have to let go and move on. She seems to have deep abandonment issues ...

Feel for her so much reading this. Also feel guilty - did she want this revealed? The deepest, most personal inner feelings and vulnerability laid bare to us the public. Anyway, I can hear the tortured, depressed cries of a pained heart. Wish she had been stronger, she just was not. No point in blaming cheaters - both men and women. They are unscrupulous and will do anything as long as their job gets done and they are happy. This poor girl was not strong enough to deal with scum like that. Wish she had been able to view him as rotten and move on, but she loved too deeply. Also she had nothing else to focus her mind on. Perhaps if her career were going great guns she would have been too busy to think of this guy? Or was her love and longing too strong even for that? No family or friends to turn to - did she at least try to get some relief? It comes across clearly that this poor young girl was weak and life has the harshest punishments for such weak people. To take something positive out of this - guys and girls out there please don't make someone the be all and end all of your life. Make your life first about you then only someone else. And please do not stick with someone who physically or emotionally abuses you. They will NEVER change. Cut them out of your lives and move forward. RIP Jiah.

aditya---->suraj: the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, does it

The line where she says that she scared that she could get pregnant.... made me weep weep weep.

RIP Jiah.

OK Aditya jackass pancholi will you speak up now?

These kind of men deserve the worst..they should rot in hell.. They should be the one dying of deadly disease like cancer or tumor..why does god let these kind of men even live??

DID ADITYA PANCHOLI KNOW ABOUT THIS, WHAT HIS SON WAS DOING?

From the contents of her letter I gathered that the guy was an abusive psychopath. Beware, ladies, they will eat your souls... I know real life stories/circumstances.

The letter made me teary, I'm speechless... I wish she had been mentally stronger, but alas...RIP, Jiah!

I think its poor taste for this to be published. One young person is gone and another is condemned with this.
There are 3 sides to a story. This is only one side. The other side belong to the other young person and then the third side which is the truth.
Having lost a loved one to suicide what I can say is there will be a lot of below the surface issues.
how and what Jiya felt is her perception and her experience but may not necessarily what was really happening.
Paranoia and feeling of self worth are symptoms of bigger issues.
Blaming someone or something is part of the grieving process. This family needs counselling to help them through this. We still do.

please pinkvilla post this

so very sad yaar...poor thing

Dear Jiah,

You have been through a lot. I am sorry that the 'thing' Suraj was doing to you was called love by him. The only love that you every received was by your family. Suraj was just an abuser not a lover.
I hope where ever you are, you will find love and that you are with your child now.
For someone who loves another deeply, nothing in the world seems difficult to do. Lovers have one focus and that is each other. And it hurts badly when someone breaks you’re feeling, time and time over again. For someone with all those lovely feeling it’s an unbearable pain to handle. They pain you have must felt, by making a choice for abortion. As far as I can judge you where a great, daughter, sister, friend and lover. You have accomplished all these roles in life, and not many can say that.

I hope for those who are saying, that if she had someone to talk, then she still would be here.
Jiah felt like an failure, and nobody likes to talk about their failures. Although in our eyes she wasn't a failure, but a true lover.

For all those people who take love for granted, I hope the Jiah story opens your eyes.
Accept the love that someone gives you. If you don’t wanted it, be honest and she NO.
But don’t play with anyone’s feeling, cause it’s the biggest gift you can receive.

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