5 big signs that tell you should consult a relationship counsellor

Are you wondering whether to break up or still keep the relationship going? Here's when you should consult a counsellor.
5 big signs that tell you should consult a relationship counsellor5 big signs that tell you should consult a relationship counsellor
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Coming together of two perfect people can be far from perfect.  Every couple has deal-breakers of their own. Going to therapy or counselling for it can overwhelm you with confusion and self-doubt. Sometimes feelings of denial or social stigma can stop you further from making changes. But we need to realise that if we keep doing things the same way, that means it will lead to the same outcome. 

Some people seek counselling early in the relationship to strengthen the bond. Some couples are way too late to therapy. Some people even seek premarital counseling to avoid most problems in the future. However, it is actually a full proof plan to learn the coming problems beforehand.

Here are some signs you may see in your relationship that will tell you that it's high time to look for a good counselor and seek guidance:

Emotional gap

Do you feel a missing emotional connection? After continuous fights and issues overhead, there is a loss of compassion and empathy for each other. You stop feeling the way they do about the same things you used to once relate to. You are growing out of each other, this is a difference you can't ignore, and you must see someone.

Repetitive fights on same things

Fights are normal. But when these fights keep occuring with the same set of arguments over minor issues. It's going back deep into the rabbit hole digging up old pages only to find that you are on different pages of different books. 

Compromised trust

A relationship runs on the fuel of compromise. But when it's taking down the very foundation of your relationship i.e. trust, any strong relationship can fizzle out easily. The cause of the loss of trust was probably in the light of some event, but instead of bending, the bond breaks.

Physical intimacy

A change in pattern of sexual interactions can be both a sign and a cause of the very problem. Complaints of dissatisfaction in bed from one partner, using sex as a bargain or holding out on it because of the ongoing fights can all result in more frustration and distance. 

Financial infidelity

In a relationship, two different people from two different backgrounds who had very different childhoods come together. When one of you is hiding the expenses and giving excuses, it can create a schism keeping the other in the dark. It can lead to suspicion, loss of trust and damage the sense of teamwork you should be doing together.

Abuse

If one of you or both of you are being abusive verbally, psychologically or emotionally, physically or sexually, it's time to head to the the relationship counselor. There is no going back from here until then. 

There are 75% chances of improvements in the relationship after seeking therapy. Both of you should be equally concerned and address the issue normally as you would address any other. If action is taken, good results will be guaranteed.

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