5 ways to stop your anger from exploding and save your relationship
Anger is the most harmful weapon in a relationship and can lead to conflicts which are meaningless.
In every relationship, fights are bound to happen and anger comes to us naturally. We all have our ups and downs. Removing frustration and anger due to work, family or any other reason on your partner is not the right thing to do. If you are someone who gets angry easily, you must try and calm your mind. Anger can act as a very harmful weapon and destroy your relationship. In a fight with your partner, you may get angry and say things which you wouldn’t say otherwise; this may hurt your partner. Instead, try better ways of solving conflicts. Sit down and talk to your partner politely.
Here are 5 ways to control your anger and save your relationship.
Think before you speak
When you know you get angry easily, take time before you speak. Count to 10 and say what you have to. Remember, whatever you say while you are angry, you wouldn’t agree to it later and regret when you are more relaxed. You cannot take back what you’ve told your partner once. It will always hurt him/her. Therefore, choose your words more carefully and gather your thoughts.
Understand your partner
Be an active listener and let your partner express his feelings too. Getting angry even before your partner has explained his side of the story can lead to a greater conflict. Listen to what your partner has to say. This might change your mind and reduce your anger. Mutual understanding will solve your problems in a smooth manner.
When your anger is out of control, practice deep breathing. This will calm the body and mind. It will withdraw your feelings of anger and help you take better decisions. Before your anger explodes, deep breathe from your diaphragm and not your chest.
Ask for space
If your anger gets out of control and you can no longer be calm, ask your partner for space. When you know you would end up saying something hurtful, it is better to ask for space. Sort it out when you are more relaxed and calm.
Know the reason behind your anger
Is your anger exploding due to the same reasons? If you get consistent anger attacks during fights, know where this is coming from. Understand your own problems and try to talk to your partner about it. You may have a hard time compromising, expressing your emotions or different views with your partner. All these complications can be solved through mutual understanding and polite talk.
So, control your anger before you destroy your relationship. Anger can also cause lack of trust and connection between both of you.