EXCLUSIVE: Asking for help is a sign of weakness for mothers? An expert BUSTS this myth

Motherhood can be full of challenges for a new mother. Yet, many people assume that women would be naturally proficient at it. Asking for help is hence, seen as a sign of weakness. However, women need help during pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum.
EXCLUSIVE: Asking for help is a sign of weakness? An expert BUSTS this myth
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Women need medical help and advice before and during pregnancy. Those with existing medical conditions like asthma or hypertension and those with certain genetic markers need help pre-conception. A pregnant woman needs proper nutrition and any deficiency in the diet must be countered with vitamin and mineral supplements. Calcium, iron, and folic acid are some of the most important supplements. She also needs advice on medications that she can or cannot take. It is critical that she discloses her pregnancy when she visits a doctor even if her ailment is not directly related to her pregnancy.

A good doctor can provide her with a roadmap, charting her ideal weight gain and advising her on safe practices, such as when travelling or exercising. She can know what to expect as her pregnancy advances so that she’s not surprised by the changes in her body or mood. This brings us to the psychological support she needs. A woman goes through a sea of hormonal changes during her pregnancy. Her mood can swing from intense happiness to intense sadness, or she may get upset at small changes. She needs help and understanding at this time.

Women also need help in their day-to-day chores during their pregnancy and after childbirth. Very often we see that a woman is expected to do all the housework in addition to a job if she has one. But pregnant and postpartum women get tired easily. A little help can go a long way in ensuring that the pregnancy can be healthy and happy for a woman.

It is often believed that a new mother would instinctively know how to care for a child. But this is often not the case. A new mother can be unsure of herself and get overwhelmed. Even basic tasks may seem hard without any guidance. This can sometimes lead to a feeling of inadequacy and guilt. They need guidance, support, and understanding. A good example here is breastfeeding, which many people believe comes naturally to a new mother. But what actually happens is that most women need guidance on the correct way to hold their baby and in managing lactation. They may also need help with situations like cracked nipples. Traditionally as well, women have always had family members to guide and help them.

Another thing to remember is to ask help from the right people. There are too many superstitions attached to motherhood and childcare in our country. These can range from nonsensical ideas like hiccups are bad for the baby or that taking dark-coloured tablets can cause dark complexion in the baby. So, ask for help, but ask from the right person.

Motherhood is a very joyous and significant journey for a woman. But there are many stages where a little help can go a long way in ensuring that the mother and baby are both healthy. It can make the life of the woman more comfortable during that period. A happy mother is also calmer and more confident when taking care of the baby. taking care of the baby. It’s a chain reaction where one good thing leads to another good thing.

About the author: Dr. Hutokshi Zaroliwala, Obstetrician & Gynaecologist, Saifee Hospital  

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Anonymous 2 months ago

The focus shifts to the new born . Every one stops asking about the mum and starts talking about the baby . its a big transition moment for the mum who is used to attention till then.