Hello Therapist: I am attracted to my girlfriend’s best friend and I don’t know what to do; Please help

Today we have with us Dr Rahul Khemani, Consultant Psychiatrist, Wockhardt Hospital, Mira Road to solve your anonymous doubts. Find out more
Hello Therapist: I am attracted to my girlfriend’s best friend and I don’t know what to do; Please helpHello Therapist: I am attracted to my girlfriend’s best friend and I don’t know what to do; Please help
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Hello Therapist, 

I am a 23-year-old man and I am in a relationship for the past 3 years. Now I feel attracted towards her best friend. Her best friend also noticed it and initially she thought it was healthy flirting but now she asked me casually whether I have any inclination towards her. I have denied it but don’t know what to do.

Hello Pinkvilla Reader,

I think this is a good time to reconsider your existing relationship. You say that you have been with this girl for the past three years. Has anything changed between you and her? Has anything changed within you? Is your attraction towards her friend physical, emotional or spiritual? What is it about this girl that has attracted you? Is the attraction an escape? Are you looking for that spark often found at the beginning of any relationship? 

It is natural to feel attracted to other people while still being very much committed to your partner. But with this other attraction, it dies down. It doesn't hold importance or priority. But what it does is give you a space to consider why you are with your partner, what drives this relationship, and where do you see yourself in future. Try to understand what this attraction is trying to tell you. Listen to your heart. 

Discuss it with your partner, maybe she has noticed something amiss and this can be both a chance to reconnect and strengthen your bond.

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Anonymous 2 weeks ago

Do girlfriend and yourself a favour. Be honest to her. Break up and move on.