Hello Therapist: Nothing is going right in my life; Career and love life both are an issue; What should I do?

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Hello Therapist: Nothing in my life is going right in my life, what should I do? Hello Therapist: Nothing is going right in my life; Career and love life both are an issue; What should I do?
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Hello Therapist, 

I am clueless where to start from as my life has been absolutely shit as of late. To begin with let me talk about my career wherein I work on a low pay scale and there is not literally anything in this corporate world to drive me by. I mean growing up I have always hated desk jobs but I was left with no option after graduation with nothing other than a BA degree and financial problems of my family. Later I fall in love with my colleague and mistook her as someone who could change my destiny and life as a whole, only if she would have accepted my proposal. Her rejection shattered me and made my sickening life worse than ever. If anything I wanna see right now is two of us as a couple. She doesn’t feel the same way I do but she wishes and wants me to bring the best out of myself in my career that I am having a hard time figuring out. She is gonna marry a guy of her choice and here I am with no passion, hobbies, friends and nor something I can call a full satisfying job, who can’t do anything to make her mine.

Hello Pinkvilla Reader, 

I can understand how hopeless it feels when absolutely nothing goes right and everything seems to be going in the wrong direction. Your degree and financial difficulties do seem to have put you down but there must have been some substantial achievements in your life . The fact that you still have a job in hand shows that you are lucky as many people have been laid off work this year. You haven’t mentioned your family members. Count your blessings and work hard on them. I am sure if you strive hard and work on yourself you will do well in all walks of life.. personal and professional.

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Anonymous 1 month ago

Gratitude is the key here. First, don't be hard on yourself. Be kind and patient with yourself. Second, don't feel entitled to her choices. Rejection is always a redirection. You seem well aware that you were projecting on her and seeing her as a solution to your problems. It seems you need to fix your relationship with yourself. In a world with so many options for fun activities, ask yourself, why don't you have a hobby? There must be something that sparks joy? Morning walks, exercise, sport, meditation, music, dance? If you can figure that out, you will discover the process to apply it to everything else in your life, job, relationships etc. Someone once told me that it is important to have a hobby to express ourselves. Find your outlet. Connect with yourself. Good luck.