THIS tried and tested way to get your crush to fall in love actually WORKS

To fall in love with anyone, THIS is all you need to do.

Updated on May 09, 2019   |  03:06 PM IST  |  537.9K

Sometimes it can be hard to find someone special who fulfils all the criteria on your dating list. Everyone has a ‘type’ and it can be difficult to connect with new people. What helps are the similarities in personalities, but what if you meet someone really cute on a blind date and have no idea to make him/her fall in love with you?

Well, according to a study made viral in a New York Times article by Psychologist, Mandy Len Catron, you can make a stranger fall in love with you in just an hour. You might think ‘what bullshit is this?’ But Catron has herself tried and tested the concept. This resulted in her genuinely falling in love with her companion.

The original research was conducted by Psychologist, Arthur Aron at Stony Brook University. He paired up two people to talk with one another for 45 minutes. They received a list of 36 questions that they had to go through one at a time. The list got increasingly more personal followed by a sustained eye contact for four minutes.

If you still think ‘that cannot make them fall in love’, one of the many pairs who took the test got married six months after taking the test. They even invited the whole lab staff to the ceremony.

If there was ever a question of whether you can generate intimacy in a ‘lab setting’, it was answered by this study.

So, if you want to seriously woo someone, forget the fancy dinner and dates. All you need to do is meet up and answer a bunch of questions (36 to be precise).

The questions have been designed in a way to increase the level of intimacy between two people. Now, without wasting any time, here are the questions that will make you fall in love!

Set 1

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a "perfect" day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?


6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set 2

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.


23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set 3

25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "We are both in this room feeling _______."

26. Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share _______."

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?


36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen

We are definitely going to try them and let you know the results. But until then, what is your opinion on it? Let us know in the comments section below.

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Jun 15, 2019
Ha ha people will call pyscho for asking so many questions wonder pyshocologist themselves becomes pyscho lol
May 09, 2019
Are you for real? I would never ask those cheesy questions, and I would run if a date asked me virtually any of them. What ever happened to common interests and getting to know your date?