How not to resent a spouse for being financially dependent on you

Updated on Nov 22, 2021 07:41 PM IST  |  257.5K
How not to resent a spouse for being financially dependent on you
How not to resent a spouse for being financially dependent on you

We often hear that marriages are all about equality, where both parties contribute equally to the relationship. However, when it comes to finances, this is not always the case. Whether you are in a situation where your spouse earns less than you or has simply chosen to be a homemaker; it is not uncommon for one partner to begin to resent the other for being financially dependent. This write-up seeks to offer you some perspective where you can think about all the other ways your partner is actively contributing to your marriage every day. This might help you appreciate your spouse more and let you start a new chapter in your relationship.

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Ponder whether or not you would be able to cope without their inputs to your household

Remember that while you are at the office, your partner carries out day-to-day duties at home this gives you the time you need to focus on your job. If they wouldn't contribute with household duties, you may find yourself overwhelmed with childcare, cooking, house cleaning and other such duties other than work. Both you and your spouse carry out duties that are equally important in the marriage, hence you must not underestimate your spouse’s efforts.

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Accept that they are never off the clock

Having a 9-5 job has some great benefits, like when you can turn off work mode once you’re home. However, being a homemaker can seem like you’re working 24x7. Be it cooking breakfasts, lunches, and dinners or checking on the kids’ homework and cleaning the bed your toddler wet at midnight. While working individuals get weekends to rest, homemakers are never off duty.

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Consider switching places with them
Ultimately, if you envy the life your spouse enjoys, then it may be time to have a serious conversation with them about swapping roles. Probe them about going back to work while you consider staying at home for a while.


Resentment can ultimately put a strain on your marriage and lead to an ugly fight. So if you would like to strengthen your bond with your partner and banish the bitterness creeping between the two of you, then consider using this guide to see things from your partner’s perspective as it may bring you closer than ever.

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