13 Reasons why old souls struggle to find love

"Old souls live by the religion of the Universe." 

Free spirits who have a naturally deeper sense of maturity and understanding are usually termed as 'old souls'.  With these traits comes the innate need to live and love authentically and wholeheartedly.

Many old souls carry a certain pain from their past. This pain often shapes who they are, forcing the growth of their inner maturity. When it comes to a long-lasting relationship, an old soul needs someone who is at par with them, mentally, and wise enough to deal with the baggage they may carry.

However, it's not simple for a person like that to find love. This is because their beliefs often clash with modern day practices of dating and romance and hence, they often find themselves wandering and restless at heart. 

Though old souls may have the best intentions when it comes to relationships, there's no denying that the struggle is real. Here are 13 reasons why they find it a struggle to find true love...

1. They don't enjoy casual dating 

An old soul wants to fall in love as much as the next person, but they don’t typically enjoy causal, meaningless dating. They are often put off by the drama and the rules of modern dating. They want to find love, but they often aren’t willing to speed date in order to find it. 

2. They want authenticity 

A truly authentic love is one that makes you feel comfortable with being yourself. An old soul seeks a partner who celebrates and encourages mutual authenticity. They don’t want to have to hide, pretend or change who they are in any way. They are at peace with who they are, and they want a partner who is willing to embrace them.

3. They're healers but not 'fixers' 

Due to their nature, the tendency to attract people who are looking for help is high, but while their natural response is to offer help, they realise that entering a relationship in order to “fix” the other person is unwise. 

4. Complex personalities 

They think a lot, see deeply into the nature of reality and have intense personalities. It’s hard to find a person who can understand or match their complex identities. Having depth and seeking truth in a society that values materialistic status, objects, and superficial appearance can intimidate most people from getting to know them.

5. They want a vulnerable love 

Being compatible at a personality level is simply not enough. True love is not liking someone or sharing their same interests, but instead is willingly opening up one’s heart and soul — even if it hurts. It is through the willingness to be vulnerable that wounds open, are given air, and heal. It is through vulnerability that we experience courage and the ability to love unconditionally.

6. Rock solid commitment and effort 

Love constantly needs to be nurtured, like the embers of a burning fire. Words are empty when they aren’t followed by action. As old souls, we know that real love can only be shown through shared experiences, effort, and dedication.

7. The 'soulmate' kind of love 

An old soul isn’t interested in an “I like you” relationship. They are searching for love, and they won’t settle for anything less. They refuse to be in a relationship simply for comfort, lust, superficial attention or security. If someone doesn’t pull at their heart strings, they won’t waste their time. They know that their soulmate is out there somewhere and don't mind waiting for as long as it takes. 

8. They're free spirited

The reason why falling in love is so beautiful is because it expands us: it unites us with our innate freedom. The moment control is asserted over such a transcendent experience, we put love in a cage and every time we look at that cage, we feel guilty in remembering how free that bird once was.

9. It's much more than sex 

Lust, seduction, and sex are alluring but ultimately momentary and shallow if obsessed over. While we love sex, we want more than just one night stands. We want to share our bodies with those that fall in love with our Souls first, rather than just our physical forms.

10. Their hyper-intuitiveness can wreck relationships

Often prone to overthinking because of how deeply sensitive they are, their capacity to worry and make assumptions can break relationships that don’t have a perfectly strong foundation.

11. Old souls usually search for their twin flame

Because of some strange force, or destiny, sometimes  2 souls are entangled in the river of time, always gravitating towards one another. They exist in the same time periods and always find ways to meet each other, even though consciously they might have no idea about this and when they meet, it’s like they’ve known each other for eternity. It's a rare connection to find, hence, making it difficult for an old soul to find their other half. 

12. They come with baggage

While it may seem unnatural to some, unresolved issues can still surface in close relationships. Old souls have a bigger baggage. They usually have issues that are still pending. Most relationships face the unresolved issues problem, however, for a weak relationship this can be a deal breaker.

13. Old souls feel fear as intensely as they feel love

Fear is always a reminder that there is something on the other side - something you fear losing, something you love. Old souls tend to feel everything too strongly. And sometimes, unfortunately, the fear over powers other emotions, which obviously isn't good for relationships.